Post # 1
UUUGGGGHHHH OK. So as a disclaimer, I have absolutely nothing against smoking weed. I’ve never done it myself (personal choice), but I have no problems with people that like to smoke.
BUT. I have a neighbor that smokes weed. I don’t know how often he actually does it (none of my business), but when he does it he smokes it UNDER MY APARTMENT WINDOW. He walks out of our building, around the corner and right under my bedroom windows. The smell wafts up into our apartment (we keep the windows open if the temperature is between like 60-75ish) and it smells HORRIBLE. The smell doesn’t bother everyone, but it makes me sick to my stomach. He does it about once a week while I’m home and it is SO ANNOYING. I don’t like to have to go around slamming all my windows because our inconsiderate neighbor wants to smoke his weed under my windows. There’s a reason you go outside, because you don’t want your house to smell like weed, so don’t make mine!!
So what do I do? I looked out the side of my bedroom window when I smelled it today and saw him smoking under our windows and I was so enraged I wanted to yell, “Hey, GTFO!” (I didn’t, of course.) I thought about passing a note under his door, but I’ve got a sneaking suspicion he smokes under my window because he’s trying to hide it from his SO, who he lives with, and I don’t really want to rat him out. I’m thinking next time he does it I’ll step outside and just walk over to him and be like, “Hey man, I’m cool with you smoking weed, but could you not do it by my windows? The smell is pretty intense.”
Would this foster bad blood between neighbors? We haven’t ever spoken to him anyway, I just don’t want him to hate me!
Post # 3
@TwoStatesBride: IMO he’s being inconsiderate. Maybe he’s just that vapid that he’s not aware… but I don’t think giving him a polite heads up is out of line at all. If he gets offended, oh well.
Post # 4
I would ask him kindly to move a little because the smell is going in your house. I don’t think he’ll be upset. As a weed smoker, I wouldn’t be.
Post # 5
I think your planned approach is perfect. Casual, but clear in what you would like him to do.
Post # 6
He probably has no idea he’s bothering anyone. Just politely ask him to move to another area when he smokes because you’re super sensitive to it.
Really, you shouldn’t even have to preface it with “I’m cool with you smoking weed”, because it sounds kind of contrived, like you’re really NOT cool with it.
Post # 7
I second @bebero:. Don’t scheme or do anything else in the first instance other than to ask him politely to move! It’ll only come back to bite you on the arse if you do. Can you imagine how telling his SO could go, in the worst instance?
What if she turns around and says “yeah, I know he smokes, and I make him go outside so it doesn’t damage the soft furnishings. But thanks for telling me that and trying to ruin my relationship. It’s nice to know what my neighbours are really like. What I really don’t get is why it’s any of your ******* business.”
I think you’re right to keep it polite.
Post # 8
@TwoStatesBride: mention it discreetly and politely. Chances are he’ll appreciate that you came directly to him instead of calling the cops.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
@bebero: Agreed as long as you approach me in a considerate & rational manner, I’ll handle it the same way.
For the record and a little off-topic, I loved the smell before I even smoked. Ha. XD