Post # 1
I posted a few months ago about my life sort of turning upside down with my mother going through emergency surgeries. Fastforwarding to now we have had ups and downs as she has tried to recover and with a week to go we were given good news, bad news, good news and now terrible news. She will still be getting out of the hospital with a nurse the day of the wedding. In a wheelchair with machines and IVs but only on the day. We were hoping having her home a few days before but now with a week to go to the wedding the day of is the closest we can ask for.
I am in such mix emotions and exhausted. With 5am wakeup calls to run errands with my fiance, pick up this, pay for that, see my mom, show her my shoes, rings and everything as its coming together, have her be excited but also so upset and then speeding off to work in the evenings I am so worried about next week.
We were starting to get hope that she be home even a week before the wedding, get her hair done, have her rest up and get ready…but now the doctors advised against all that. She is very weak, her side of the family is a wreak and its really hard to communicate with anyone in my family.
They all want the to wedding to go ahead but upset with the whole situation and it comes across that they are upset at me deep down. My questions really are…. How should I handle everything on the day? I feel so sorry with what is going on with my mom, with everyone and everything but I don’t know how I should now feel about my own wedding. Friends I haven’t seen since I moved back to the States two years ago are incoming. Traveling from all over Europe to come to the wedding, excited and I haven’t really shared with them whats going on with my mom.
Post # 3
How does your mom feel about it (not just the family)?
Post # 4
Your Mom will be able to be there on your day and that is the important thing. I think she would want you to go ahead with all your plans and it is giving her something to look forward to, isn’t it? I wouldn’t worry about what anyone else thinks except you, your FI and your Mom.
Is there someone that can help get your Mom ready with her hair, makeup, etc and make sure she has what she needs for the whole day? I would enlist help with this because you need to focus on getting ready yourself and it sounds like she will need help.
So sorry this is happening! I sincerely hope your Mom’s health improves quickly and that you have a beautiful wedding day!
Post # 5
Today we went in to show her my shoes and she was really ecxited that its all coming together.. she is upset that she will have this tower of IVs, she can’t eat, very underweight and that was before she found out (after I left today) that she wont be getting out til the day of the wedding.
She talked alot about how tired she will be and I kept trying to let her know that she will have the powder room exclusively to rest, that the nurse will help and she can rest at anytime or leave if she musts… I just want everything to be comfortable her but I am worried she will be overwhelmed by all the people (most not seeing her in months and she looks like a different person), but she wants to be there so bad and I desperately want her there.
Post # 6
I hope that your Mom continues to improve, but I agree with other comments – she would want you to go ahead with your big day. Finding someone to help her feel special too would be a GREAT thing to do, and allow you time to prepare youself.
Hang in there and I’m sure that it will all work out. I think that a wedding is all about having those that are most important to you there with you, so it’s a true blessing that she’ll be there. Focus on that, and all else should fall in line…