Weekday??? Sunday?? are these bad ideas

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Weekdays??? Sundays ??? good or bad
    Any day is fine dont worry, save 4-7k where you can plus it can break up a dull week : (7 votes)
    12 %
    It is rude to plan on a weekday : (16 votes)
    28 %
    sundays are fine but people will leave early : (27 votes)
    47 %
    its ok on a weekday but guests might be rushed to get there and early to leave : (8 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    2059 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We got married on a Sunday cos that’s the only day that was available when we wanted to get married and I was really worried that guests would leave early and not drink and dance etc but everyone stayed till late and the young ones were all partying utill we had to close down the music!!! Everyone was shouting encore!! If they are your closest family and friends (you’d expect them to be since its your wedding) they will come and stay and enjoy themselves!!!!! We had the perfect day ever!!!

    Post # 4
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    918 posts
    Busy bee

    @nearlymarriedlass:  “If they are your closest family and friends (you’d expect them to be since its your wedding) they will come and stay and enjoy themselves!!!!!”

    I’m afraid I have to disagree with that.  Even if it’s my closest friend or family, I simply can’t afford to stay out late on a Sunday, or I’m going to be too exhausted at work the next day.  With a Sunday (or Mon/Tues/Wed/Thurs) wedding, even for my best friend, I would need to be home by 10pm.

    ETA: However, I wouldn’t feel that the bride and groom were being rude at all by having the wedding on a Sunday.  It’s a sensible financial decision.  You just need to be prepared that some people will leave earlier than they would on a Saturday night.  It doesn’t mean that they don’t care about you, or that their relationship with you is not a high priority, it simply means that it’s unfortunately not their only priority.

    Post # 5
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    2720 posts
    Sugar bee

    We can’t take a lot of time off (and sorry, we would rather vacation then spend a day recovering from a wedding), so we would leave early. Honestly,  I would never say anything to the bride but I would grumble about it often. 

    Post # 6
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Definitely go for a long weekend Sunday!

    Post # 7
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    2880 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    For a close family member I would have to make it work somehow but unfortunately for a distant relative or friend I’d either have to decline or leave my 9pm.

    I wouldn’t think you were rude or selfish in anyway I’d just be disappointed that I wouldn’t be abe to come or have to leave early. 

    Post # 8
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    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d leave early on Sunday/weeknight. I also couldn’t party up a storm like I usually would (aka “you’ll be saving money on booze”). Planning a wedding on a long weekend might also get you a shorter guest list (since people tend to make plans for out of town trips on long weekends). If it’s a matter of budget, you’re essentially cutting the guest list by having it on a Sunday or weekday, why not just have a smaller wedding at a smaller more lavish venue to start with?

    Post # 9
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Ultimately, you can get married any day you want. Just know that the day you choose can dictate what type of wedding it is. If you’re looking for a raging party–don’t do it Sunday through Thursday because people have to work the next day…and they’ll likely leave the party early. Same with those with kids. 

    Plus, the other problem with weekday weddings is that people have to take extra time off work. Locals have to leave work early and rush to get there. Out of town friends have to take extra vacation days–which they might have wanted to use for a trip of their own choice. 

    Personally, I think it’s a lot to ask your guests. I’d either a) rethink your choice of venue and go somewhere more within your budget, or b) choose to get married on a Sunday afternoon. That way, guests will be more likely to stay for the full event, since it will end earlier.  

    Regarding the suggestion of a long weekend Sunday–long weekend Sundays can be great for a wedding–but be aware that MOST venues are wise to this and charge exorbitant holiday weekend rates, that rival Saturday prices. It may not save you any money. I looked into this at all the venues I looked at and NOT ONE gave people a break on a long weekend Sunday. They all charged MORE because it was a holiday weekend. Bear in mind too that holiday weekends are more expensive for airfare and hotels–so you’re passing a larger cost to your guests as well. 

     

    Post # 10
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    9092 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    A lot of times venues that have these rates will treat Sundays of a long weekend exactly like a Saturday, so be careful there.

    That said, I got married on a Friday and it worked out really well.  However, we had a guest list made up of shift workers (DH and most of our friends are police officers, so we booked it on a Friday that was in the middle of their days off), teachers and people who were planning to come from across the country and stay for a longer period anyway. 

    Post # 11
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We are getting married on a Sunday and I’m not worried about it.  I think it also depends on your guests.  We really don’t have people attending who work M-F 9-5.  Mostly they’re either older and retired, work jobs in customer service etc that can have any type of hours, or are teachers and are on summer break in early August.  Also, the venue requires that there’s no amplified noise after 10pm so it has to end by then anyway, so its not like I expect or want an all-night rager 🙂

    Personally, I wouldn’t do a weekday except maybe a Friday, but again it depends on what jobs your friends and family have as to whether they could make it to the ceremony without having to take a day off work.

    For you, if you want that venue, I’d see if you can get a long weekend Sunday. 

    Post # 13
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    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We’ve been thinking about this too, as my favourite venue offers a package costing around £3550 for 60 guests (including food, drink etc) Mon-Wed. At the weekend, however, it costs £2,750 just to hire on a Friday/Sunday (peak) and £3,250 to hire on a Saturday (peak). We’ve decided to opt for an off-peak Saturday, which costs the same as a peak Friday/Sunday, to save money. The price difference makes me feel sick.

    I would book on a Sunday if it weren’t for the fact most of our guests are travelling to the wedding. I would book in the week if I was having a slightly smaller wedding. It’s still an option but I think we will just suck it up and pay for the Saturday.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    10863 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I got married on a Sunday. Those who care will stay, some will have circumstances like starting a new job which is unavoidable. I enjoyed our wedding weekend. in hindsight would I be best off doing it on a Saturday? Possibly. 

    Post # 15
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong

    we are doing something similar. we are having our wedding on Easter Thursday. We are having a mid morning ceremony followed by a lunch reception. not only to cut costs but also so more people can come to the wedding believe it or not.

    Half of the family (both sides) live 2 states away so they would have to get time off work anyways to come to the wedding, by having the wedding on the Thursday they only have to take one day as holiday leave, the rest of the Easter weekend is considered as public holidays so no need to use extra holiday leave. they will be back by tuesday ready for work with no hangover.

    We will be saving $8,000 by having a Thursday lunch wedding.
    Breakdown of venue costs
    Monday-Thursday lunch (10am-4:30pm) minimum spend $4000 (what we are paying for 3 course lunch including canapés) not including alcohol. $2500 capped open bar will be available
    Monday-Thursday dinner (5:00pm-midnight) minimum spend $8000
    Friday, Saturday or Sunday function minimum spend $12000

    note: very small wedding 50 adult guests and 9 children.

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