Post # 1
So one of the venues I want and might get has a min spending limit (basicly the food drink and venue tables, flat wear linens you name it all in even audio set up if we choose to just plug and go with ipods or a dj can jsut hook in no rentals needed)
the price point veries hugely
Monday $8000 plus tax & gratuity*
Tuesday $8000 plus tax & gratuity
Wednesday $10,000 plus tax & gratuity
Thursday $11,000 plus tax & gratuity
Friday $15,000 plus tax & gratuity
Saturday $15,000 plus tax & gratuity
Sunday $9000 plus tax & gratuity
Long weekend Sundays $10,000 plus tax & gratuity
So part of me started thinking weekday wouldn’t be bad its right in town(but then i thought if ppl wanna feel pretty after work it might be tight getting to it) also the venues is open till 2am and i like to party i be major joy killed if everyone left early…
so i find my self thinking find a long weekend for a Sunday(b/c) a normal sunday would mean they leave early again thats no fun…
or a long weekend friday so we have it the thruday night
should tell my fiancé I want to splruge b.c thats the min spend we can still go over(or i guess under and then have to pay the min anyways) on any day of the week so why not just have the Saturday
what do you think, its an ez way to cut coast if they havn’t booked all the long weekends yet lol then we could just save it or poor it into decor, we also have to have another cermony in the us so thats a gonna be a very small thing only a few 1000 that savings could be the whole other wedding
Am i being selfish wanting to have ppl stay late, should i just do the cheaper day and not worry and have fun evne if only my bridal party stays till the end lol or will ppl think its rude i didnt think of that for them and plan on a day that is better for everyone
Post # 3
We got married on a Sunday cos that’s the only day that was available when we wanted to get married and I was really worried that guests would leave early and not drink and dance etc but everyone stayed till late and the young ones were all partying utill we had to close down the music!!! Everyone was shouting encore!! If they are your closest family and friends (you’d expect them to be since its your wedding) they will come and stay and enjoy themselves!!!!! We had the perfect day ever!!!
Post # 4
@nearlymarriedlass: “If they are your closest family and friends (you’d expect them to be since its your wedding) they will come and stay and enjoy themselves!!!!!”
I’m afraid I have to disagree with that. Even if it’s my closest friend or family, I simply can’t afford to stay out late on a Sunday, or I’m going to be too exhausted at work the next day. With a Sunday (or Mon/Tues/Wed/Thurs) wedding, even for my best friend, I would need to be home by 10pm.
ETA: However, I wouldn’t feel that the bride and groom were being rude at all by having the wedding on a Sunday. It’s a sensible financial decision. You just need to be prepared that some people will leave earlier than they would on a Saturday night. It doesn’t mean that they don’t care about you, or that their relationship with you is not a high priority, it simply means that it’s unfortunately not their only priority.
Post # 5
We can’t take a lot of time off (and sorry, we would rather vacation then spend a day recovering from a wedding), so we would leave early. Honestly, I would never say anything to the bride but I would grumble about it often.
Post # 6
Definitely go for a long weekend Sunday!
Post # 7
For a close family member I would have to make it work somehow but unfortunately for a distant relative or friend I’d either have to decline or leave my 9pm.
I wouldn’t think you were rude or selfish in anyway I’d just be disappointed that I wouldn’t be abe to come or have to leave early.
Post # 8
I’d leave early on Sunday/weeknight. I also couldn’t party up a storm like I usually would (aka “you’ll be saving money on booze”). Planning a wedding on a long weekend might also get you a shorter guest list (since people tend to make plans for out of town trips on long weekends). If it’s a matter of budget, you’re essentially cutting the guest list by having it on a Sunday or weekday, why not just have a smaller wedding at a smaller more lavish venue to start with?
Post # 9
Ultimately, you can get married any day you want. Just know that the day you choose can dictate what type of wedding it is. If you’re looking for a raging party–don’t do it Sunday through Thursday because people have to work the next day…and they’ll likely leave the party early. Same with those with kids.
Plus, the other problem with weekday weddings is that people have to take extra time off work. Locals have to leave work early and rush to get there. Out of town friends have to take extra vacation days–which they might have wanted to use for a trip of their own choice.
Personally, I think it’s a lot to ask your guests. I’d either a) rethink your choice of venue and go somewhere more within your budget, or b) choose to get married on a Sunday afternoon. That way, guests will be more likely to stay for the full event, since it will end earlier.
Regarding the suggestion of a long weekend Sunday–long weekend Sundays can be great for a wedding–but be aware that MOST venues are wise to this and charge exorbitant holiday weekend rates, that rival Saturday prices. It may not save you any money. I looked into this at all the venues I looked at and NOT ONE gave people a break on a long weekend Sunday. They all charged MORE because it was a holiday weekend. Bear in mind too that holiday weekends are more expensive for airfare and hotels–so you’re passing a larger cost to your guests as well.
Post # 10
A lot of times venues that have these rates will treat Sundays of a long weekend exactly like a Saturday, so be careful there.
That said, I got married on a Friday and it worked out really well. However, we had a guest list made up of shift workers (DH and most of our friends are police officers, so we booked it on a Friday that was in the middle of their days off), teachers and people who were planning to come from across the country and stay for a longer period anyway.
Post # 11
We are getting married on a Sunday and I’m not worried about it. I think it also depends on your guests. We really don’t have people attending who work M-F 9-5. Mostly they’re either older and retired, work jobs in customer service etc that can have any type of hours, or are teachers and are on summer break in early August. Also, the venue requires that there’s no amplified noise after 10pm so it has to end by then anyway, so its not like I expect or want an all-night rager 🙂
Personally, I wouldn’t do a weekday except maybe a Friday, but again it depends on what jobs your friends and family have as to whether they could make it to the ceremony without having to take a day off work.
For you, if you want that venue, I’d see if you can get a long weekend Sunday.
Post # 12
Thanks for all the imput super helpful I was kinda thinking weekday was a lil out there but def wondered if sunday was ok… I think i might do sunday or the long weekend sunday but def re thinking the long weekend thruday or even a friday night after thinking about them rushing form work that could be a long day)
i really want Saturday the more I think about it if i cant get he long weekend anyways lol
Post # 13
We’ve been thinking about this too, as my favourite venue offers a package costing around £3550 for 60 guests (including food, drink etc) Mon-Wed. At the weekend, however, it costs £2,750 just to hire on a Friday/Sunday (peak) and £3,250 to hire on a Saturday (peak). We’ve decided to opt for an off-peak Saturday, which costs the same as a peak Friday/Sunday, to save money. The price difference makes me feel sick.
I would book on a Sunday if it weren’t for the fact most of our guests are travelling to the wedding. I would book in the week if I was having a slightly smaller wedding. It’s still an option but I think we will just suck it up and pay for the Saturday.
Post # 14
I got married on a Sunday. Those who care will stay, some will have circumstances like starting a new job which is unavoidable. I enjoyed our wedding weekend. in hindsight would I be best off doing it on a Saturday? Possibly.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong
we are doing something similar. we are having our wedding on Easter Thursday. We are having a mid morning ceremony followed by a lunch reception. not only to cut costs but also so more people can come to the wedding believe it or not.
Half of the family (both sides) live 2 states away so they would have to get time off work anyways to come to the wedding, by having the wedding on the Thursday they only have to take one day as holiday leave, the rest of the Easter weekend is considered as public holidays so no need to use extra holiday leave. they will be back by tuesday ready for work with no hangover.
We will be saving $8,000 by having a Thursday lunch wedding.
Breakdown of venue costs
Monday-Thursday lunch (10am-4:30pm) minimum spend $4000 (what we are paying for 3 course lunch including canapés) not including alcohol. $2500 capped open bar will be available
Monday-Thursday dinner (5:00pm-midnight) minimum spend $8000
Friday, Saturday or Sunday function minimum spend $12000
note: very small wedding 50 adult guests and 9 children.
Post # 16
@lunalyra: Ya i am kinda thinking the same thing… i mean i keep thinking of all the people traveling to it form texas (mind you if they are taking time off anywyas does the day of the week matter lol)
but then there is the locals will have to get off work rush like crazy ppl and getther and be a lil stress saturday just makes more sense