Post # 1
My FI and I really wanted the 09-10-11 date. We did have the opportunity, and the down amount, but decided not to take the risk. Wedding funds is depending on a few things this next couple weeks.
Anywho, we were considering a weekday wedding. The main reason is cost. At the venue we want it is $1800 for a Sat. $1200 for a Sun, or Fri, and $750 for Mon-Thu.
We have exactly 50 guests, and we were wondering if it’s rude to have a wedding on a Thursday. I.e. 09-01-11 which is the thursday before labor day weekend, or 09-08-11 which is the Thursday after.
What would you do?
Post # 3
Have it any day you want. Those who love and support you will be there no matter what day of the week it is.
And that is a big savings to have it on a Thursday!
Post # 4
I’d do it the Thursday before Labor Day. I’d be wayyy more likely to take a Friday off after a wedding if I had that Monday off, too!
Post # 5
@Mrs.RDV: Yeah, that’s one thing that really made us stop and think about it, cause the money saved is almost enough for the catering!
Oh, I should also mention, it’s not a Destination wedding.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine to have a week day wedding, but you just can’t expect everyone will be able to come.
My husband’s good friend is getting married on a Thursday, and for him to go that would mean he’d have to leave Wed and miss two days of work. We’re having a baby in a couple of months and he needs to save days for when he has another surgery, so he just doesn’t have the days to go to a wedding. We had the same issue though, our wedding was on a Sunday and still people couldn’t come due to work.
Post # 7
We are a couple doing this wedding 100% on our own (except my dress). So when it came to venues, we were having a hard time. We never even considered during the week or Sunday. Well when we decided to go for it and book a Nov. date, it was taken. THEN the girl mentioned the discounts for the Winter/Weekday, Friday and Sunday Weddings. We looked at our calendars and booked right there on spot! The savings is INSANE! And just like @LongDistancePlanning: said, those that love and support you will be there, no questions asked!
I’d say the timing might be problematic, as in a 5pm wedding vs. a 7pm wedding, since people might be having to leave work early. But again, with a smaller/intimate wedding, shouldn’t be an issue for most! xo
Best of Luck!
Post # 8
Having a mid-week wedding is becoming more common as the savings can be big… My only recommendation is to be mindful of the time. Guests don’t always have flexiblity with work and a late start can forcce some of your guests to cut out early.
I worked with a bride that hosted a wedding the Thursday before 4th of July weekend for about the same number of guests. She started with a cocktail hour at 6pm, ceremony at 6:50pm and reception at 7:15pm. Evening ended around 11pm. Having the cocktail hour first gave guests a little flexibility if they were coming from work and all events were on the property.
Hope that helps!
Post # 9
I would do the Thursday before. Since it is already a holiday weekend I don’t think people would have a problem with the extra days off. Sounds fun to me actually!
Post # 10
We’re not having a cocktail hour, cause most of our guests don’t drink anyways. And the wedding ceremony would be at 4, with the reception at the same location. Also, the venue says we have to be done by 10. So it won’t be too late. 🙂
Post # 11
$1000 is not much savings to be that inconvenient, I think. Multiple thousands? I’d think about it. But $1000 is a drop in the wedding bucket. If you move forward, just know that there will be a lot of inconvenienced people who can’t get out of work early or take the day off, and that people won’t want to stay late on a weeknight to party.
Post # 12
It’s certainly not rude. It’s your party, however you may have more declines from people you aren’t that close to (prob not an issue with your smaller-ish guest list). If you are hoping for a party all night, then you probably won’t get that if guests don’t take Friday off. For a bride and groom I am close to I would take the next day off.
Post # 13
I think it’s fine. Of course PP’s are right – some people won’t be able to make it and some won’t be able to stay late if they don’t take the Friday off. Being that it is right before a holiday weekend though, I’d be more likely to take the Friday off. If the savings is that significant (especially if you also save in other aspects for a weekday wedding) then I say go for it and do what’s right for you guys. Those that you want there the most will be there – i.e. family and good friends.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Go for it. A friend recently had a Tuesday night wedding because they wanted to get married on their dating anniversary. Mr. LK and I had to take time off of work, which was a bit of an issue, but not enough to keep us away.
Post # 15
I am getting married on a Thursday, 7/7/11. An intimate wedding of 50ppl total w/ the ceremony starting @ 4:30-5pm. We will be getting married overlooking the ocean and then a wedding dinner @ a local restaurant. Since I’m getting married in a beach city, traffic would have been impossible for ppl to get to and fro(Laguna Beach and the 405fwy) While we take pictures, family can stay @ the ceremony location and then head over to the restaurant.
I say go for it. If you are getting married anywhere near a holiday and its intimate, family and friends will come.
Post # 16
@LadySapphire: I just battled with this question recently and here is what I decided, perhaps it will help.
The people that want to be there will be there regardless of the day you have your wedding. The people that mean the most to you, family and close friends, will come no matter the day. The only people that might think it’s rude or inconvienent are those that don’t need to come.With STDs you give people up to a year of warning so if they can’t plan ahead that is their scheduling issue right?
It’s your day and you get more bang for your buck (we certainly did) by having a Thursday wedding then do it. You will have an amazing experience no matter the day and have a little extra in your budget for additional things.
(P.S. our wedding is on a Friday and some have complained but they can deal with it).