- 5 years ago
FYI I was 100% hormonal, not that it’s the best excuse but it definitely played a role in my reaction.
My SO and I went to my younger sisters sons birthday party. He is adorable and turned 5 over the weekend. Seeing me with all the children prompted my SO to tell me what a fabulous team we make and how he knows I’m going to be a wonderful mother some day soon. (We were on our way back to my house so at least it didn’t happen in public)
Bees, I don’t know what happened it was like a switch flipped and I went a little something like this…
Me: Listen buddy your idea of soon and my idea of soon are very different. We aren’t getting married for about 2 more years and I want at least 1 year of just you and I before we have a child so realistically we are looking at about 5 years before we have children and that is not soon. I’ll be lucky if I’m still fertile by the time we start trying to have children.
His response: Buddy? Babe, soon will come very shortly. Don’t worry baby, it’ll come.
My response: What does that mean???? Stop saying things like SOON if it isn’t really SOON! It’s not fair to me.
His response: Aaaaayyyyy what’s going on with you, calm down.
Now bees I think we all know the last thing we want to hear during a premenstrual melt down about when we get to have children is “calm down” I swear in that moment steam came out of my ears.
My response: Calm down?
His response: Yes, I don’t see why when I say something you have to take it to another level and give me your time line. Soon will come, it’s going to happen, things will fall into place.
My response: Oh because life is magic and you don’t have to worry about time or fertility or how long it takes to plan a wedding. It will all just take care of itself. I don’t want to hear anymore from you about rings, the M word, or children until you are actually actively taking steps to do them!
Remaining 30 minutes of drive were silent and I was crying by the time we got to my place. I apologized for attacking him and let him know it might happen again if he brings up a sensitive topic this week and he instantly got the AHHH HA! look on his face. He apologized for saying the word soon. LOL I still feel like a total brat since he was being so sweet and I got all crazy. I had been doing so good too. I was just going with the flow and enjoying our time together. Oh man, I blew my cover. LOL