Post # 1
Ugh… This weekend came with some interesting news.
So I thought for sure I’d have a proposal by the end of this year. Turns out it’s not what SO is planning. My mother heard from my brother, who SO told everything, that it’ll be in APRIL of 2012. So now I have to wait 8 more months. I don’t know if I’m happy to have an exact month or depressed that I have to wait longer.
I guess he’s planning it on a vacation, we’ve never really taken a big trip before… I AM excited just not excited about waiting longer.
Someone knock some sense into me and tell me it won’t seem like that much longer, lol.
BUT the good thing about this weekend is we talked about prospective wedding dates and are planning to have a short-ish engagement (I obviously couldn’t tell him I knew about his plans). I even told him about the “weddingbee” and showed him some DIY ideas I’ve been thinking about, he was totally cool, sweet, and supportive.
I feel better now getting to vent a bit… 🙂 I do have a wonderful man. He keeps telling me “Good things come to those who wait.” lol
Post # 3
@calikary: I bet this can be frustrating, but you’re getting there! And you have a supportive bf who seems interested in the planning, who has a whole plan for engagement (not always the case), and is ready to discuss dates and ideas with you. Being that he’s so receptive to looking at ideas, I think you’re good.
Maybe try to find another focus for the next 8 months, since you really know it’s coming – AND since you want a short engagement. Getting in shape for the eventual wedding, picking up a new hobby, crafting (good prep for DIY stuff!), volunteering. I’m sure it’s tough to be patient, but it sounds like you’re heading exactly where you want to be, with a great guy, no less – so congrats!
Post # 4
It won’t be a long wait. Just watch. If this year has it’s way, you’ll go to bed, wake up, and somehow it will be 2012. At least it’s been that way on my end. I remember back in February I was worrying about when my guy would get around to even start looking at rings. I blinked, now it’s practically September, he says we will be getting engaged early next year and I’m nervous because I still can’t believe next year is coming up so fast. Don’t worry. 🙂
Post # 5
ugh I know how you feel. My bf and I had a discussion recently, and basically i’ll be waiting until next summer or fall. sucks.
so at least you’ll be engaged before me 🙂
8 months shouldn’t be too bad though. Just try to keep busy and focus on other fun things since you know it’s coming sooner or later 🙂
Post # 6
Looking on the bright side, at least you know the month it will be happening. But I would be a little disapointed too…I am expecting my proposal before the end of this year and if I found out I had to wait even longer, I would be totally bummed!!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! I appreciate the support. I just got off the phone with my best friend and she agrees that it’s disapointing but way more information than I had before…
I am very lucky that I have a great guy! 🙂 And yes, I’m definitely looking into some kind of hobby to fill the time. My job takes up most of my time but getting into shape might be a nice idea!!
Post # 8
Try to look at it this way. . .If you were hoping for a proposal by the end of the year, an April proposal will come 4-5 months after you were thinking. Taking up a new hobby would be a great way to make the wait fly by! And who knows. Maybe your hobby will help you with those DIY wedding projects you’ll be starting next Spring!!!
Even though it’s not exactly what you were hoping for, you now know that a proposal IS going to happen and that your SO IS planning something. That alone is enough to be excited about, isn’t it?!
I definitely understand how devastating a change in timeline can be because I too have been there. But in the scheme of things, what’s a few more months when you know that everything will fall into place?
Post # 9
@ChicChick: Yes… a few more months won’t be that bad! I have a party to plan for in that time and can do some DIY to help hone my crafting skills 🙂 I think it’s better that I have a timeline so at least I know now when to expect it even if it is a bit later than I imagined.
Post # 10
It’s in the works Bees! Last night SO suggested a trip to Hawaii in the Spring, April to be exact!!! 😀 He also mentioned that we should speak to a realtor soon… 🙂