Post # 1
Many of you know that at this stage in my wedding progress, I’m struggling with some unwanted weight loss… which is ironic, because at the beginning of this whole wedding planning process all I wanted was to drop 10 lbs. I worked really hard at it, and felt great about myself.
Now however, in the last few weeks I’m shedding extra unintended pounds.
In the past, I’ve gained weight in stressful situations, and two of my sisters both gained significant weight before their weddings. I was definitely prepared for this to be the case for my wedding.
So I ask you, were/are you a gainer or a loser or a stayer the samer? How did your fluctuations affect how your dress fit (or was it not evident thanks to an amazing dress)?
If you are a stayer the samer, how did you maintain in the face of all this stress?
Post # 3
I know I shouldnt say this because you said it’s unwanted but I’m definitely a little jealous of your unwanted weight loss … my fiance and I were just talking the other night and both saying how we wish we were like those people who didnt want to eat when they are stressed or tired or overwhelmed. I am one of those people who could literally eat at any time — no matter how stressed or not stressed I am. Basically I just have to work extra hard to lose this weight, which in turn adds more stress. UGH. But regardless to answer your question, I stay about the same because I work hard to maintain and even harder to lose!
Post # 4
When I get super stressed I lose weight. Maybe this explains why I am not losing like I should now..(super happy).?
Hopefully this will happen and I’ll keep the name of a good seamstress nearby.
Post # 5
I never thought it would happen, but I kept losing weight as the wedding got closer and closer. Unfortunately, I had a sub-par seamstress and was really unhappy with how she did the alterations for my dress. She took everything in from the zipper and as a result, the dress bunched in places and was too tight in others.
I hate to report it, but in the 2 months since my wedding, I’ve gained 8 pounds…dude! How did that happen?!
Post # 6
I’m a stress eater. I’m not positive, but I think I’m gaining some weight. It didn’t help that I had a huge week at work last week, so I’ll have spent the last month before the wedding eating uncontrollably.
I’m a little anxious–between my first dress fitting and my second dress fitting, the dress stopped zipping. They botched some alterations that round, including one that seems to have taken in the top around my boobs, and it was better when they undid that. But I’m still anxious that come the 26th, I’ll be poured into my dress and feeling lousy about myself. (Even if it is just until I get to see my soon to be husband!)
Post # 7
@doctorgirl – I thought of starting the same thread tonight! Great minds think alike! 🙂
My best friend dropped weight right before her wedding and assured me I would too. Well, I am a month away, and…I’m not losing anything! I’m trying to eat healthy and workout, but I can’t seem to make a dent in that ten pounds I want to lose. SO frustrating!
Post # 8
While I have always been happy with my weight somewhat, I am 5’2 and 115 with more muscle mass than anything, I was mainly trying to maintain. However I knew it would be hard bc I am an emotional eater with stress, knew since friends and family would be coming in early in the week, it would lead to nights out and lots of drinky drinks 🙂 and then to top it off the week before my wedding I was to get my monthly visitor, always causing the much hated water retention and bloating. But…for some reason, I completely lost my appetite, had many issues stablizing my blood sugars, had periods of vomiting with the stress and skipped meals bc I have always been afraid of vomiting and was worried how it would make me feel. This was so not me and it showed. I lost about 5-8 lbs and got so much flack and lecture when I got in the hot tub with everyone the night before the wedding. I seriously could not help it! My dress and strapless bra kept falling down and while I look at my photos and everyone who did not know says I look great, I knew I was not because it was unhealthy. I do not concern myself with numbers but more of the health factor. I have somewhat bounced back to normal, except for stablizing my blood sugars, but I have never reacted to stress in that way and it scared me and my now hubby and need to learn to better control it!
For the ones upset about gaining after the wedding, I would say that is a phase for some. I know the week after our wedding, all hubby and I wanted to do was race home, eat and relax. Pure seclusion from everyone for a few days. We ordered in or went out to eat almost every time we were togethor, then we went out with friends one night to celebrate my name change being official. We have totally neglected our usual routine for about 2 weeks, which included the gym 4-5 times a week, home cooked meals etc. We have vegged and pigged out the last couple weeks! It has been fun but we are ready to get back to our routine too! Hubby has gained a few and I know I gained the weight I lost the week prior back, thankfully!
Post # 9
I was actively trying to lose weight because I had gained a few pounds back while making a cross country move. My dress fit was fine, maybe a bit on the big side, but it wasn’t a problem.
Post # 10
I wonder if this pre-wedding plunge makes it more likely that I’ll gain back?
This is tricky stuff, especially since many women have body image issues. It’s kind of scary when I’m getting validation from people right now, when I feel that I’m unhealthy, but they are saying, "Oh, you look amazing." No wonder so many women have disordered eating!
And please know that in no way was I trying to make anyone feel bad with my post. I’m just amazed that weddings can be stressful enough to disrupt our normal metabolic patterns.
Post # 11
When we eloped, I stayed the same. I wasn’t stressed or anyhting though. I’m planning on losing weight before we renew though. But, on purpose.
Post # 12
I had no time to eat the week leading up to my wedding. I probably lost a pound or two, tops. Then, starting with Thursday, I ended going out to dinner with my family, friends, etc, so I made up for it in one shot meals all at once.
I gained 7 pounds in the 3 weeks after my wedding though…*sigh*
Post # 13
I always gain weight when i’m stressed or when something major happens, so i always feel at my higher weight when I’m in weddings, etc. I’m very paranoid about this happening to me and I’m pretty sure I’ve started to gain weight again. I have 5 weeks though, so I am going to have to get back into WW and back on track!!!
I too have been reassured that I would lose right before the wedding but I don’t think that happens to everyone at ALL! Also, I’m in a weird situation because I really want to stay exactly the same but tone up my arms. And then after the wedding I’m actually hoping to lose a bit of weight- I don’t want to do it now because my dress has already been taken in once. Oy vey!
Post # 14
@august15bride–my best friend said the same thing to me: that i would lose weight before the wedding because she did. unfortunately, i eat anything when i’m stressed, so i’ve gained about 14 lbs since my best friend’s wedding in february. it’s a good thing my dress was too big!
i’m hoping that in the next 3 wks i’ll want to stop eating everything in sight.
Post # 15
I ran a half marathon in May so in the months leading up to training and even for six weeks after I had lost the six lbs I’d gained last summer and couldn’t lose. Then I went on vacation and managed to pack four on. My dress fits perfectly even with the gain because it is a Maggie. But I really want to lose. So, I’m not sure how to answer the poll. Hopefully, I’ll be a loser
Post # 16
Everyone said that you lose weight before your wedding, but I didn’t lose a pound. I was working so hard making sub plans (I’m a teacher) and getting ready to leave work for the honeymoon that I didn’t really have time to go to the gym or worry about eating right, so I stayed about the same. I don’t really lose weight in times of stress….I don’t really lose weight unless I am working really hard at it! So DG, don’t get upset if LOTS of women say they are jealous of you!
I did change a little from the time I bought my dress, but it was a corset style back, so no real changes had to be made to accomodate.