Weight gain and wedding stress

posted 2 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I do keep track of what I eat on most days using Spark People.

So my experience is that it doesn’t really matter if you eat well during most days, if you go overboard during the weekend you’ll either stay put on the weight you’re at or you gain more. If I were you my first step would be to keep track EVERY day. Then you’ll have to cut out all the empty calories that do nothing for your body, except from pounding on the weight. And I know it’s hard, wedding stress is a real thing, but try to go back to your exercise schedule and perhaps add a couple of walks per week. I’m sure you can do it!

Post # 3
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Kacie209:  Drink a lot of water.  If you’re retaining water, drinking more water will help shed a few pounds and some bloat.  I started drinking 70+ oz of water a day and saw an immediate difference.

Also, there’s a lot to be said for cleaning up your diet.  You might not be the type to count calories religiously, but that’s something that works for me.  I don’t know if you’re a redditor, but there are a lot of subreddits dedicated to losing weight/eating healthy/fitness. I like r/loseit and r/xxfitness.  

Post # 4
26 posts

I’ve been eating terribly lately.  I was already taking green tea pills and it helped me lose, but now it’s helping me not gain.  I’m not nearly as active as you, so maybe they would help you lose.  They are $10 at Wal-mart.

Post # 5
812 posts
Busy bee

Stress also makes it hard to lose weight. Try to find an activity that helps reduce your stress level along with eating more fruits, vegetables, avoid fried foods, processed sugars, etc. Make sure you take a break from the wedding planning!! Especially when you are getting overwhelmed. 

Good luck!

Post # 6
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with the PP. Its boring but ‘most days’ won’t be enough unless you eat pretty well on the other days too. I used to eat great during the week but go overboard at the weekends and all I coudl do was maintain my weight.

In terms of metabolism, I have found mixing up my exercise has really helped. I was doing a lot of circuit and strength training work (which is great) but have recently started running and cycling and have dropped the last few stubborn pounds. I think my body was too used to my regime so changing things ub gave me a bit of a boost. I still do the other things as well, but now do a mix of cycling/running/circuits/strength every week which is working well and stops me getting bored!

Post # 8
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Kacie209:  Yeah I have had a similar problem. The past month (I’m two weeks from my wedding!) I have really gotten hardcore with taking care of myself and believe it or not I am really relaxing about this wedding stuff. If anyone offers to help, I take all the help I can get. I am keeping a pretty calm sense of mind- at this point, everything is in place that we need in order to GET married and that’s all we need to do that day. So if we GET MARRIED then it’s a success. And the rest is just extra! My mom has been a huge help and FI has been so supportive. Like, today, he made breakfast and cleaned up so I could get a few wedding things done stress free. So if your FI doesn’t want to do wedding stuff, there’s other ways he could help by freeing up your time (so you can go work out again!). Like you, I am trying to just lose 5 lbs. So far lost 2 🙂 My dress has been kinda tight, but still fits, so if I lose 5, I’ll be fine. as long as I don’t gain anymore I’ll be fine too! So I’m okay. 

Take care of yourself. You can do it!

Post # 9
703 posts
Busy bee


Kacie209:  clean eating is the only way to do it with occasional treats. I joined a slimming class and have lost 3lbs in the first week even though I would always say I eat well and exercise but the scales was creeping up. When it actually came to the crunch of counting properly and re-evaluating the way I was cooking etc I realised I wasn’t doing so good. For me it was the snacking I have always have healthy manin meals but i think i was snacking on beknown to myself.

Post # 10
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Kacie209:  honestly I would just get back on weight watchers. You’re more motivated to really use it because you’re paying for it. And it works! You can lose 10 in 2 months no problem. 

Then just keep it up fitness-wise but it’s really 85% diet.

Post # 11
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Kacie209:  I lost a little more than that seven years ago. Thing is, you and I were seven years younger, which means it was that much easier for us to lose the weight. What worked for us then may not work now.

It seems like your old approach isn’t going to work to knock weight off — or even, from the sound of your remarks, to maintain your current weight. You can either accept that and keep doing what you’re currently doing, or you can change up what you’re doing. I think other Bees are right, and the first thing to do is start really closely tracking your intake every day, and keeping to a goal — whether that’s your TDEE minus 200-500 calories (to lose at a safe but steady rate), or to meet some points goal as dictated by the WW program.

Exercise is awesome if you want to look good naked. But 90% of weight loss happens in the kitchen — as you know, from your amazing success seven years ago. So if it’s too hard to skip to a steady gym schedule right now, start with tracking your food intake. Weigh and measure your food, and aim to meet and NOT exceed your particular goals, every single day.

Boring, right? And I know it’s terribly hard — and SO frustrating, particularly when you’ve already won this battle once, and then perhaps felt like you had it figured out and didn’t need to worry so much anymore. The bad news is, as you get older, it gets harder. The good news is, you’re not gaining for no reason! It’s totally within your control. If you want to be slimmer by the time of your dress fitting, you can be. You just need to get with a program!

Hugs, and best of luck to you. :)<br /><br />P.S. If you want to calculate your TDEE, this is a great site – http://iifym.com/tdee-calculator/

Post # 13
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Kacie209:  It’s better to eat a few smaller meals than one bigger meal. So I suggest you make sure to eat lunch every day, and even a snack in the middle of the day. (And by snack I mean something healthy, not chips or a chocolate bar) Eat another normal sized meal at supper-time, not a big one. I try to eat every 4-ish hour throughout the day. This will keep your metabolism going throughout the day, which will help you lose weight.

Post # 14
703 posts
Busy bee


Kacie209:  i honestly think a slimming group would be great for you. I was the exact same, busting my ass at the gym and then scales still going up. Our slimming leader had to remind us there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. So you can’t eat fruit seeds and nuts all day long and still lose weight. Yes they’re healthy for you but they still have calories so you have to be careful with portion control. This class is really reminding me of portion control again and picking the rights foods to keep me fuller for longer. So a quarter of my plate of good carbs and the rest lean protein and veggies. i was shocked at how much extra carbs I was actually eating. the class is also reminding me of a snack being a snack a treat being a treat and not constantly grazing all day. I don’t have much to lose maybe another 7lbs, but i need that weekly check in to track it and remind me of what i need to do. Also I’m giving up alcohol for a few weeks as a kick start. In my head liquid like wine can’t be as bad as a burger and fries but it is. My leader said the next time I’m drinking a glass of wine to think of it as drinking liquid chocolate! I love my wine ha ha and the best motivation ever that made me join is knowing that i don’t want to feel gross on my wedding day i don’t want to be a skinny minny i just want to fe good in my skin again! best of luck!

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