(Closed) Weight is just a number on a scale.

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Member
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am thin and I still feel that pressure! It doesn’t matter what size you are… it something about weddings that people always say those kinds of things! They watch you so closely and think they can put their two cents in. I think you look great! And you are totally right, you fiance loves you for you… not your weight. Just be conscious of what you eat so that you dont gain weight  ( I think that’s where most people are  coming from, they know that you eat and party before the wedding and they dont want you to GAIN weight and have to buy a new dress) but seriously don’t take those things to heart. I am sure they mean well and would purposely hurt you.

Stand up for yourself and say that you love your shape and your dress will DEFINITELY fit.. haha. And don’t let those comments get to you. Because trust me, your not the only one hearing that!!!

And smile  😀

Post # 5
Member
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Booo pressure. And the people who are causing it. I think you looked great then and now! I should be getting married next summer and over the past 2 years I lost 38 lbs but I had a bad body image. Now, I could still stand to lose another 15 but I’m okay if it’s not gone by next year. (I didn’t lose it for wedding reasons). As long as you’re confident (which it sounds like you are), who cares what size you are when you walk down that aisle.

 

Post # 6
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5429 posts
Bee Keeper

The weight I am on my wedding day is the weight I will be. I will not change my weight for the one day of my life that will be less than 24 hours! If I lose, then good, if I gain, that’s also good.

Does this include MEN? Nobody tells the groom to lose weight for the wedding, just the bride… MMMMM? What’s good for the goose should be good for the gander!

Post # 7
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2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@bretonvirgniia:  My Mom did the same thing to me. I’m 5’9″ and I average around 135 lbs depending on the day. She was constantly critiquing everything I put in my mouth telling me “you have to fit into your wedding dress!!!” I did not diet or do anything related to my weight for the wedding day. I was determined to look like myself (of course with nicer hair/makeup than I could manage) on my wedding day and I was ultimately really happy that I didn’t put that kind of pressure on myself.

You look beautiful in the second pic and you will look beautiful on your wedding day 🙂 Do you have a dress yet?

Post # 8
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3083 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel you on the pressure.  I’ve been putting the pressure on myself though.  I don’t know why.  I used to think I was a confident woman, after the past few months I’m really doubting myself.  When I was younger I struggled with bulemia and lately all of those urges have resurfaced and I’m slipping back into that mind set.  It really sucks!  I don’t know why. I think you look amazing.  Your curves are killer!

Post # 12
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2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@bretonvirgniia:  *GASP* That’s gorgeous. Is it from the new Allure line? It looks like an Allure. I LOVE the sleeves, the lace, the buttons, and the way the waistline drops in the back. Just beautiful.

Post # 13
Member
9147 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Definitely feeling the pressure.  I don’t even want to go try on dresses because I know they would look totally different if I lost 20 pounds which I for some reason feel obligated to do.  I am most self conscious about my arms and shoulders.  I really don’t want them to look heavy in my pictures.  Plus, I feel that my face is huge because of the weight I have gained over the last two years.  From 120 to 145.

Post # 15
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve gotten a ton of shit, to the point that I don’t even like my dress anymore : ( I feel like I should look like myself on my wedding day, not a completely different person! everything from nails, tanning, hair, skin, weight…very frustrating.

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