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It's a bother, and I hear it's pretty common.
I was hoping that as I lost weight, I'd get less crap from people, but no, now they all want to know how I did it, and how I maintain.
I worry that I could be smaller, but at the same time, I'm at a healthy weight, and if I lose "that last 10" or so, I'd be teetering on "underweight" according to the charts.
I can't win on either end. :(
AWw man - I get the same way - I seriously sometimes could stand in the mirror looking and picking stuff out for hours. So, I just don't look in the mirror anymore. I should have figured that out LONG AGO!
I used to have an eating disorder, so I completely understand weight obsession. :( I also think the wedding industry puts a lot of pressure on brides to get thin for ONE day. Take care of yourself, I hate to tell you "DON'T OBSESS ABOUT YOUR WEIGHT!" but seriously, don't. j/k. I don't know what to say. It's tough. It happens. :(
Well it's more that I've lost about 30lbs so far and dropped like 4 pants sizes. I just don't feel happy with where I am. My BMI says I'm overweight and so I'm trying to hit that weight but I haven't been that low since maybe a sophomore or junior in high school. I can jog for about a half hour without getting too winded and I know that I'm not a big girl by any means (size 8-10 in jeans) but I just look around me and all these pictures and I feel like it's a fun house mirror....sorry that I sound like a self absorbed teen
Wow, Ireland, you've accomplishe so much!
I too have lost 30lbs and am down a few sizes and I too am more nitpicky about my body now than before. I'm happier, but still see soooooooooooooo much room for improvement.
For me, it's being only partway on a longer journey that frustrates me. I'm extremely impatient, but the truth is I didn't gain this weight overnight (even though it is soooooooo much easier to gain than to lose) so, I'm not going to lose it overnight, either.
Since you've lost so much, I assume you've treated yourself to some new clothes? If not, do -- it does wonders for making me feel great when I have something fun and new to wear which shows off my weight loss a little.
Hang in there! It takes time and effort but it will be sooooo worth it in the end!
@ireland - i understand you completly and feel right there with you. I wear a size 8 too. I'm not a small gal, but not large either. however I feel like i've become obsessed with my body image. If I was happy where I was at, it would be one thing, but i'm not. I honestly feel like its a never ending battle. I have 2.5 months to the wedding, i'm gonna try to win this battle this time once and for all
I feel like for years I've been in limbo. I've probably lost and gained the same 10 pounds in the last 5 years or so.
But lately I broke the 10 pound marker by a little...so I'm trying to to keep losing. Its jsut so hard for me...its like my body just wants to stay at the weight its at. I don't hate my body, but I know I def. need work, as I'm not by any means thin at all.
Ugh...its so hard
aww Ireland - this is totall natural. It's exciting that you have done so well! Congrats! I've lost about 10 lbs and I'm stil on the high high end of the overweight scale - dang BMI calculator SUCKS! Have you done toning exercises? Maybe they'll help you feel a little better!
The more weight I lose the more nitpicky I become. I'd always been between the 115 and 122 range, (I'm 5'5), but over the last year and a half I went up to 140 due to various reasons. Finally I got the kick in the butt that I needed to get serious about weight loss, (my dad said "you look like you're getting a little chubby"). yeah, nothing like critisism from your dad to break you down to tears and give you the motivation needed to stick to a weighloss plan. So far I've lost 14 pounds, (in 2 months). I'm down to 126 and although I feel good about the accomplishment and generally feel better about the way I look, I just keep thinking, I'm still bigger than I normally am. I don't know what it is with me/women and not being able to love our bodies the way they are. You rarely see guys being as critical of themselves. Everyday I have to tell myself that even though I don't look my best I still look amazing and to keep going. The goal is at least 6 more pounds.
@sunnygal - thanks! I know it sounds like a lot but it's actually right in the recommended target of 1-2 pounds per week. I cut out sweets almost completely. I've had bites of birthday cake and a few frozen yogurts here and there but really, no sweets. I also cut down my portions significantly and just told myself that I don't need to eat until I feel like i'm stuffed. I rank my hunger on a scale of 1-10, 1 being about to die of hunger and 10 being so stuffed that my stomach will explode. I stop eating when I feel like I'm at about a 6. It takes your brain about 30 minutes to tell your body that you're really full so at a 6 in reality you're closer to an 8. I've also stopped snacking. Instead of snacking I've broken up my 3 daily meals into 5. So what I would normally have for breakfast I eat in two sittings, same goes for lunch. I feel like I'm eating all day and never get hungry.
I personally feel as if the wedding industry is doing quite well as far as helping people of all sizes because the reality is most women aren't satisfied no matter where they fit in. I know that a couple girls in my bridal party are tiny and have trouble GAINING weight and also wish they had bigger boobs while I am hippy and also have bigger boobs. The good thing is there are soooo many different types of wedding dresses!! I love it! And I also love that on all the wedding shows, from "Say yes to the Dress" to "Whose Wedding is it Anyway" to "My Fair Wedding" they feature women of EVERY size!! Because the truth is, "normal" is relative:) The body is beautiful! God made us beautiful and we also need to be healthy and that is what matters:)
@Ireland: first of all, congrats on the weight loss. i'm so sorry it's become more of an obsession now, but seriously, you should be so proud of your accomplishment! I don't have any advice, but I definitely now how it feels to become obsessed with weight. I'm sure everyone can relate.
@Colleen: I COMPLETELY agree with you. I think the wedding industry is surprisingly one of the most open to beauty in all shapes. It's pretty wonderful. Though I bet it's because they make more money not discriminating...lol!
Yesssss. I think it's a symptom of struggle with weight my entire life - I was way overweight as a kid and young teen, and then lost 40 lbs my freshman year of high school. Since then I've maintained an average weight, and even lost about 15 more lbs gradually, but still feel like the "big girl" when I walk in a room. No matter how many people tell me differently, I see myself as big, and always have excuses for why I should be smaller - usually, because I'm short and have small bone structure, so I can wear smaller sizes but I'm not small.
Sounds ridic. typed out - guess it's good to talk about!
Yes! I actually lost a ton of weight in the last couple years and am proud to say I'm at the bottom of the weight guideline for my height, but I still look in the mirror and am not totally happy. I am slightly tempted to lose more weight, but I am afraid I won't be able to maintain it..
I am just not totally happy because I still feel fat, even when I've lost 80 pounds! I think I will just always have a little extra in the tummy area...but, oh well...! I'm sure it's FROM being fat in the past.
The key is portion control. I can still eat whatever I want. Just not the entire pan of enchiladas or 5 pieces of cake. It's also important to do cardio, just for the entire health benefits.
Yes and I hate it. I'm 5'6" and 120. I have a very small frame, so I am really trying to get down to 110 - 115 before the wedding. 120 on me looks a bit heavy.
Sometimes it completely overtakes me. I wish it didn't, but it does. I constantly thinkg about it.
Congrats to all you bees out there on your weightloss successes! I think a major thing that happens when you decide that "it is time" to lose weight is that there is a shift in your brain....you become discerning of everything you eat, your workout regimen, etc...and this mindset helps you to lose the pounds...however that same discerning eye also causes you to look at yourself negatively (nitpick at your body naked in the mirror, I know i used to do it after losing 30lbs a few years ago!!!) and not see all the the accomplishments you have made so far! So, although you should be discerning of your food to continue your lifestyle change, remember to not be so hard on yourself and remember all of the success you have had thus far! Stay positive! :)
I totally obsess about my weight. I used to be 135, and now i'm up to 180 (and in the past 3 weeks i've lost 10 lbs yay!) but still. And to top it off i've had two kids,,,, meaning my boobs got huge, and aren't all perky like they once were, i have at least 50 stretch marks, i have loose skin on my stomach, among other things. So i really obsess over it. I finally had enough and decided 3 weeks ago i need to diet and stick with it, so i will feel better about myself, which hopefully will happen. Yet when i was super skinny, it screwed me up that an ex told me i was amazingly fat, when i was actually too skinny. great fun how that works.
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Does anyone else over obsess about their body and its shape? I find it extremely ironic how as I lose weight I become more worried that I'm not small enough. When I was at my heaviest, I didn't care about weight, but now that I'm smaller I feel obsessive about it some days. I just feel like I can't win