Post # 1
This is my very first post here; I’ve perused the board for some time, and finally have the courage to put this out there.
I am getting married in a month. I have a wonderful fiance, I have a beautiful gown, I have best friends in my bridal party…. and I am miserable. I have been attempting to lose weight for 3 years now, and have only come down about 30lbs. It’s so discouraging when you’re the largest one in the bridal party, and you’re the bride! I know that I need to improve my self image, but when I had my gown fitting two weeks ago, it took everything in me not to cry. I hate being a size 12/14, mostly because I was once an 8 (7+ years ago….thanks, college.) I dreamed of being a size 6 on my wedding day. I’ve completed two exercise programs, lost some inches, cleaned up my diet…. and am still a 12/14.
I am so worried about breaking down on my wedding day because of how I look. I have friends and family who have constantly badgered me with the question: so, have you lost any weight? I moved across the country and will be seeing a lot of people for the first time since Christmas at the wedding…. and I will look the same, about 30lbs overweight. The worst part? I’m bigger than my fiance.
I just want to be able to enjoy my wedding day and not feel like everyone will be staring at my flabby arms. I’ve seriously had panic attacks about this; why is there so much pressure to be a size 0 for the wedding day? To look perfect, have perfect teeth, skin, makeup, hair…. I feel like I, along with many others, are searching for this constant ideal of perfection that just isn’t realistic.
Did any of you feel this way or have to deal with people constantly pestering you about your weight? Were people more supportive on the big day than you thought they would be? How did you overcome the fears/anxiety/negativity?
Post # 3
Well, I’ve always been…thin, but I’m not fit nor am I healthy. I’ve been trying to get the motivation to get up and get fit so I can look toned on my wedding day. My fiance is a Marine and so he works out all the time, he is very active, and he looks amazing….I look NOTHING like that. I’m an animator so I sit in front of a computer all day and it shows. I feel a lot of presure to look the way I think a bride should look and it’s tough. Tomorrow I’m starting insanity because I’m finally done with college and I can put effort into getting in shape! I say that I’ll start working out all the time and never do so my FI has his doubts, but I REALLY want to surprise him the day of the wedding…and the honeymoon which will be taking place on a cruise! I have never been on a cruise before, but I know that I can’t hide anything in a bikini!
Post # 4
As my FI always tell me, he put the ring on my finger because he loves me. All of me. As does your FI. If he didn’t find you attractive he wouldn’t still be with you and most definitely wouldn’t have given you a ring.
I know what its like but when he says this it does help. Your day will be wonderful and you’ll look wonderful.
Post # 5
While I understand how frustrating it is to put in all the effort on exercise and not lose weight, size 12 is really not big at all! I’m not certain but thays pretty much average size in the US, right?
I’m sure you have already heard the saying that weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise, and its true! Although I used to have a pretty healthy diet, I was putting on weight, even though I had salads for lunch, fruit and yoghurt for snacks etc, but its the things you don’t even think about that add the pounds – a biscuit here, a handful of nuts there, and portion sizes are crucial. I would have a bowl full of cereal or oatmeal, which is the equvalent of like 4 servings depending on bowl size!
ETA: I’m bigger than my FI too. We are about the same height, but he’s about 140lb soaking wet. I’m about 145