Weight loss but no one notices!

posted 2 years ago in Fitness
Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

julesbeeb:  They may not want to say anything for fear of offending. I lost 50 pounds and people only started really commenting when I was further down the track (although to lose 2 dress sizes is of course no mean feat). Many of my close female friends also NEVER said a thing. I lost 25% of my body weight, 3-4 dress sizes, discussed what I was doing with them and nada. My DH couldn’t believe it – his male friends would compliment on how well I had done etc. and my closest friends were totally silent on the matter. Can’t put it all down to jealousy as they are not all overweight or anything. Who knows.

Post # 6
918 posts
Busy bee

I will almost never comment on a person’s weight change, as you almost never know if it’s intentional or due to illness (as with PP).  I suppose if a close friend announced to me that they were going to start eating better in order to lose some weight, and after a while I noticed that they were in fact losing weight, then I would comment on how well they’re doing with their weight loss plan.  However, if I’m not 100% certain that someone is losing weight intentionally, I won’t say anything.

Post # 7
3349 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

When I lost weight it was not until about 20 pounds that anyone commented. 


Post # 2
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

I have experienced the opposite, I was ill and lost weight due to that illness. This was not general knowledge. People kept complimenting me (but in a way that was really negative towards the way I looked before). Now being less ill and having gained that weight back, it’s super awkward because I know what they think about how I used to look, which is more or less how I look now. People giving you compliments about weight loss is really a double edged sword. No one saying anything might mean they haven’t noticed (you might have carried it very well/dressed very well before) or they are being polite by not making personal comments about your shape. 

Post # 8
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have the same thing! I have lost about 12lb and definitely dropped at least a dress size (most of my clothes are looser and I can fit into the ones I couldn’t even get on 6 months ago) but nobody has mentioned it at all. Everyone knows I am dieting and working out for the wedding, which is in august, so it’s not a secret. My FI has commented but only when I am literally naked! I wonder if it just isn’t obvious to other people? I’m not doing it for other people of course, but it would be nice if somebody noticed seeing as I’m working my butt off!

Post # 3
3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Maybe they have but don’t say anything? Whenever someone loses weight I don’t say anything since I’m always worried it’ll be taken the wrong way. That and I notice weight loss/ gain more by peoples faces not by their size. 

Post # 9
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t say anything until its a true transformation. Even then I just say ” you look great!” I know for me when people commentedon my weight loss something would trigger me to become lax on my healthy eating and exercise. also when you gain muscle you may not be smaller in the way people can actually notice. 

Post # 10
4956 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

julesbeeb:  I’ve lost 20 pounds since January and I rarely get complimented by people who don’t know that I am trying to lose it. Honestly, I think if its a slow but steady loss (which is the healthy way to do it) and you see the same people every day, it’s harder to tell because its a slow process. 

Post # 11
12865 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Cause people have been programmed that talking about weight is bad.  There was a thread before where someone was offended that she was complemented for her weight loss cause people would tell her ‘wow, you’ve lost weight, you look great!’ and her first thought was ‘so I didn’t look great before when I was fat!?!’.  Weight comments, damned if u do, damned if you dont… just can’t win.

Post # 12
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I completely agree with everyone saying it’s an awkward topic. I usually only say it to people I’m close with, like friends or family unless it’s a crazy, drastic change (like the woman at my work who lost 100+ pounds with the lapband surgery). 

I lost 25lbs in the past few months. It really wasn’t until I lost around 20 that my family started making comments. Some people at work have made a comment or two and for the most part, I’m flattered. This one lady though has to say something (very enthusiastically) EVERY time she sees me…it’s almost at the point where I’m thinking, ok I get it, I was heavy before

Post # 13
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Earlier this year, I lost 10-15 lbs due to illness. Every time someone complimented me, it was super awkward. Sometimes it’s just easier to not say anything.

Post # 14
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I very rarely comment on someone’s weight. I lost 50 lbs. two years ago and most people didn’t comment until I was down about 30 lbs. or more. I’ve also heard it said that it usually takes about 4 weeks for you to notice weight loss, 8 weeks for your family/friends, and 12 for other people.

Post # 15
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It takes a while for people to notice. When I had lost 25 pounds, people were just starting to notice at about 20 pounds and still some people did’t say anything. Honestly, the people that don’t say anything are the smarter ones. Sometimes people don’t know what to say or how to say it because weight is a touchy thing becuase perhaps that person really didn’t lose weight and actually gained?

Honestly? If I were you I would gloat about how much you’ve lost. It’s a big accomplishment, and you worked hard. Most people will probably be like, “I totally noticed but didn’t want to sya anything.”

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