Post # 1
I need to lose weight. like a lot. I’m not huuuuge but I am really not happy with myself at all. last summer I lost like 35 pounds for a friends wedding. and gained it all back and then some… my wedding is a destination in Punta Cana so it’s reeeeeally important I feel okay about myself and my body.
A few weeks ago I got pretty serious about getting started on this journey. I was doing kind of a combination of the 17 day diet and weight watchers and working out a lot at home (doing p90x DVDS 3-4 times a week). I was down 9 pounds in about 3 weeks! yey!
This weekend I went to visit a friend for Calgary Stampede and drank/ate my face off. I am back up 5lbs : ( I am sooooooo sad. I worked so hard for 3 weeks and threw it all away in one weekend.
And now I’m realizing all my self-given timelines of when I would be skinny by seem to be coming and going… with no skinniness in sight. And I’m so mad at myself and feeling really discouraged/defeated. I’m going to Chicago in 10 days for a wedding and wanted to look and feel great by then. Not happening. My bachelorette is August 17th. And I just don’t feel like I will look and feel great then either, even if I get my nose to the grindstone and lose a pound a week.
I know I just need to get back on the horse and stay focused. I’m just feeling really sorry for myself and don’t want to bother my fiance with it because he hears my complaints enough. Having a rough day, bees.
Have you gone through this? Did it discourage you? How did you stay motivated? How did you enjoy life without gaining weight back??!?!
Post # 3
@mu_t: I feel ya. I was doing very well, and then this weekend happened. Holidays, I tell ya. I decided this is a new week, and put the splurge weekend behind me.
And I will know how this feels when the next holiday rolls around, and make better decisions.
Post # 4
You can’t change the past, just get more determined for the future. And next time a big splurge weekend comes around, remember how you feel now and play that over in your head before you decide whether or not the splurge is worth it to you (sometimes it really is, sometimes it isn’t)
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I bet at least half of that is water weight – just stay on track for a few days and it’ll go back down, I guarantee!
Post # 6
About a year and a half ago I lost 17 pounds and was able to maintain it for several months until I moved in with FI and lost my job. My new job has been causing me mental health problems, and that coupled with the lifestyle change from living with FI has caused me to gain 20 pounds. I’ve been eating right and exercising, but I’m not losing weight, and I realize that I’m not going to lose weight until I get my mental health in order. I started taking steps to deal with my depression and anxiety a couple of weeks ago, and I’m starting to feel more normal. Hopefully the weight starts coming off soon.
I think the most important thing is to not think about it as a diet, but rather a lifestyle change. It’s not so much about limiting yourself as moderating yourself. I’ve also found that once you get yourself completely off processed pre-packaged food and drink your tastebuds really do change. Soda and most dessert things taste sickeningly sweet to me now and things like hamburger helper are ridiculously salty. Fast food is just completely unappealing to me. I enjoy my healthy diet because I honestly think it tastes good, and I make things that I like. I also follow the rule that if you want a treat you have to make it yourself. This plays into my laziness, so cookies, cake, and the like are few and far between.
Post # 7
@mu_t: It’s hard to focus on weight loss when you are having so much fun (I go through the same thing when I have a crowded schedule. Its better than gaining weight from being depressed) What works for me is to take 3 weeks, diet, exercise and be a complete stick in the mud. Slash your social life to the minimum, its only for a little while
Post # 8
thanks all. glad i’m not alone! i feel better just having typed it all out instead of obsessing over it in my head.
it’s in the past, not much i can do. but i definitely need to learn to make healthy choices when i’m away… my problem is i’m like mehhh go big or go home. not healthy haha.
BUT my friend paid for my flight out there… so it was the least i could do to go out to restaurants and have some bevvies with her. ESPECIALLY at stampede! so. no more guilt. just positive steps moving forward.
i’m never gonna be someone who doesn’t go out to dinner and doesn’t indulge in a few adult beverages. so i just need to learn to rein it in a bit and get back on track on mondays.
thanks for letting me vent and not making me feel like a total failure!!!!
Post # 9
You can do it! I would really suggest Turbojam or Turbofire. If you get the dvds it comes with a diet plan too. It helped me a lot. Before my wedding I would workout mon-fri, I started running only 8 minutes (i have asthma) and then I did one of the workouts.
I went from 32% to 19% body fat in 5 months.
Post # 10
Hey girl! Back on the horse is absolutely right. Heck, think of it like you didn’t even fall off the horse. We go up, we go down, we make good choices and bad ones some days but you’re still riding!! Just gotta kick it up a notch again 😉 (And um, let me just say, Calgary Stampede is wrth five pounds!! I would trade you both those things right now! I live like 10 hours from Calgary and have still never been!! What the heck?! I digress, majorly)
I have a fair bit of experience in this department. Raised in a relatively unhealthy house (we got 3 square meals a day and by no means suffered but we never really got a real education about nutrition) I was the fat kid at school, all my life. My Mom told me I was beautiful and that they were just mean but truthfully, they were right. I didn’t even really realize I was actually fat until I was a teenager. And even then, I sort of tricked myself (by hiding in all kinds of other misery but that’s another story) By the time I was 17, I was 230+ pounds, and asolutely defeated. I met a boy who I thought liked m for ME and then I found out he was a cheating chubby chaser. Bam. My whole world crashed around me. I HAD to do something, I could not be that girl for one more day.
My Dad is a bit of a health nut and when I finally went to him for help, he gave me all the information I needed (and more) and away I went on my crazy health journey. It wasn’t easy, by any means. I cried a lot, was frustrated even more and sometimes, I just wanted to throw in the towel and eat a burger. But I didn’t. I made my journey about my health all around. I started on the inside, and the changes made their way to the outside.
I honestly think it is so so important to make it about more than what you look like. We want to be healthy for so many more reasons than that, and when we keep all the reasons in view, it makes it that much easier to stay on track!
You are strong and you have it in you to keep going and ride on! 5 years later, I am steady around 135 pounds and you know what? Its not hard anymore! Its a way of life, a better way of life at that. Health is so important, and when you embrace it, you will see it everywhere in your life. You have the power my friend, I believe in you!
Go get’em girl 😀
Post # 11
Right there with ya, lady. I’ve always been “bigger”–never huge, but no one would ever call me skinny. I’ve lost about 40 lbs, then gained back 20, then lost 10… Right now, I’m down about 15 lbs and 2 dress sizes from where I was when I first started getting healthy. I’m in a wedding in 2 weeks and kinda worried about not fitting in my BM dress. Luckily I have a great seamstress who has to alter my dress the week before the wedding anyway!
What helps me is sticking to my workout plan, regardless of how crappy I feel like eating. I work out a lot, so if I gain 5 lbs, it doesn’t really look that I gained that much. Also, working out makes me want to eat better. I can’t exactly run 6 miles after eating a whole carton of sweet & sour chicken. I try to focus more on the “how will this food make me feel” rather than the “this is making me fat.” I agree wtih PP’s that this has to be a lifestyle change. It’s just that the new lifestyle isn’t exactly as much fun as the beer-drinking, cheesy fry-eating lifestyle I used to have!!
Post # 12
guyyyys…. you’re all the best! thank you so much for your stories and encouragement.
i agree with you all, it is totally a lifestyle change. i’ve been the worst for doing cleanses and wild diets and losing weight in really unhealthy ways. this is the first time i’ve been doing it in a smart, moderated, slow way. i know that’s the way to keep it off but it’s SOOOO hard to stay motivated when it takes forever to lose and a hot minute to gain.
but you’ve definitely made me feel better. and my day turned around when the mom of my friend just facebook msged me to tell me how beautiful she thought i was on her daughter’s wedding day in april and how she was going to message my mom to tell her what a beautiful person i am inside and out. priorities realigned : ) it’s like the universe knew i needed a win!
going to work out and cook a healthy meal tonight… as always, thanks for the endless support, bees. you’re even better than real life friends.
Post # 13
@mu_t: I feel kind of the same way. I was doing well until last weekend also, and then I went to a party, etc., and lo and behold, this morning I seem to be 3 lbs heavier than I was on Saturday morning. 🙁
I am also so frustrated! I have been working hard at this for 3 weeks or so, and had seen surprisingly good results (lost 2 lbs, which is not easy for me as I am short), but seemingly I totally blew it this weekend. Blaaaaahhhhh D:
The only thing that helps console me is that I am probably PMSing and am bloated with water weight. Yuuuccckkkk.
I went for a run on my lunch break today and will be doing a weight training/circuit workout this evening right when I get home. I find that I have to exercise a LOT to lose weight– the food thing is not an issue for me except on weekends or other times when there are parties and I overeat.
It is hard to keep at the exercise, but I’ve found that if I do it every day, I don’t feel right if I take a day off, and I crave the exercise. So I try to keep it up.
Post # 14
@mu_t: You need a lifestyle change, not a diet. The good news is, you have plenty of time to get into it. Start a workout regimen that you can keep up and then try eating a whole foods diet. Cut out the processed foods and added sugars. No pop (even diet), white bread or ketchup. That is how I have lost weight and kept it off. And the great news, I cheat on the weekends so if you really really want that pizza, just wait til Saturday. When the cheat is in sight, it isn’t so hard to stay on track.
When you are on vacation and want to splurge, try to make better food decisions and eat slowly to help with portion control. That way, if you do gain some back it won’t be a whole five pounds.
You can do this!
Post # 15
Add me to the list!
Two years ago I lost about 15 pounds. I still wasn’t at the “what you should weigh” weight, but I felt good and I looked good and things were great. Then I went back to work and(I have the summers off) and it all came back. There were too many treats at work, I was too tired to work out etc. etc. I gained it all back and am right back to square one.
I hate myself, I really do. I am trying to do the right thing, I’m using MFP and am usually under the cal count for the day. I do cheat on occasion, but I try not to be piggy about it. And I work out 3 times a week doing cardio for 40 min and I do weights too.
Things just dont seem to be moving 🙁
Post # 16
@mu_t: I am of two minds on this. If you are a healthy weight (as opposed to a aesthetic weight and on women this is about a 20 pound difference), is it really so bad to make the choice to enjoy yourself and experience life rather than making “health choices” in a great restaurant.