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Ok I totally feel you here! I literally just posted a thread like this last night! And let me tell you it can be good to get these posts out on weddingbee cause the girls here make you feel so much better about yourself!
I have to say that you look amazing! Do NOT compare yourself to someone else! You guys have completely different body shapes!! You look so gorgeous and honestly I don't think the other girl looks any better than you!! Different? yes. better? no!! I know how hard it is to have confidence in your body but believe me when I say you look gorgeous and don't look like you need to lose ANY weight!
I also want to advise you against doing the HCG diet again. It is very unhealthy and even though many women see results, it is very harmful to your body! If you feel like you need to get healthier, try healthy non-processed foods and exercise! Not only will this help you lose weight but it will make you much more confident!!
I totally understand where you are coming from. I lost a significant amount of weight a few years ago and it also took looking at pictures for me to realize how big I actually was vs. what I saw in the mirror. If you aren't comfortable at a certain weight, you just aren't comfortable!
Keep in mind though, guests pictures are almost always super unflattering compared to the professionals. My dress was baggy in certain areas (stupid bridal shop) and in some guest pics its really noticable but the professional managed to always put me in positions that hid it and made it look like my dress fit like a glove.
First - you look amazing in your wedding photo. Second, I feel your pain. I got down to what I had as my goal before the wedding. I like my wedding pictures... a lot. But now I have continued to lose weight and get toned. Now I see pictures of myself on facebook (more recent, we went back to the same resort for our first anniversary as we did for our honeymoon), and I'm wishing my arms were as toned at the wedding as they are now, or some other nit-picky thing. It's frustrating but just think, if you keep up your hard work, your anniversary photos will rock! Try not to focus on these thoughts.
I am not trying to derail your feelings or anything, but you are seriously gorgeous. Your body looks healthy and curvy. Your skin is gorgeous and I know a lot of girls that would die for your boobs lol. Don't be so hard on yourself, you seriously looked amazing!!!
are you kidding me? you absolutely do NOT look fat!!! seriously!! you look gorgeous and I think it's a good thing to want to continue working out and losing weight if it's gonna make you feel better, but physically you don't need to and you are certainly not fat!! 
You look gorgeous and that red dress is killer!!! However, I can understand that we are just too tough on ourselves.
Seriously though it is like you read my mind with this post. I lost 120 pounds and was happy with my new size 12/14 self until I saw a video last night of me playing volleyball. Needless to say I am crushed and wishing I could wear a garbage bag daily at this point.
The frustration mainly comes from the fact that I eat every healthy and many smaller meals versus three larger ones plus I work out (run and play volleyball) about 20 hours a week. You would think I would be a size 2 at this point!?!?
To be completely honest, while I was unhealthy at my heavier weight at least I was happier and not worrying about being skinny. *Le Sigh*
uggg we all have those days!
Personally i think you look just as thin as the bride with the blacked out face. You guys just have different dresses, highlighting different body points.
You have toned arms, and collar bones showing!
Keep healthy ,eating well and exercising, and most importantly work equally as hard on loving and accepting yourself!
@Treejewel19: not trying to threadjack here but I've seen pics of your weight loss and you look amazing as well!! Seriously, don't be down on yourself you have accomplished an amazing thing :)
@Lassroyale: I also second the comment about your jealously inducing skin tone :)
We all have those days!
You look gorgeous and thin in your wedding dress. And no, I am not just saying that.. if i thought differently, I would just say nothing.
Is that other bride thin? Yes! Women have all kinds of different bodies and it doesn't make anyone better than anyone else. The only comparison to make is that you are both beautiful, happy brides. :)
There will always be a thinner bride. You looked great. Keep thinking of how you felt on the day you got married!
500 calories a day can cause SERIOUS neurological damage, who recommended that?!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: LOL, serously, my boobs aren't anything to write home about - I really have to use smoke and mirrors to get cleavage! But that dress was amazing for giving me some wedding bust, ;).
To all: Thank you so much for encouragement and reassurance!! It's really good know that people have gone through the same weight loss and have the same issues that I do, and that everyone on here is so nice!
@Treejewel19: I just looked at pictures of you and you look amazing! I have no frame of reference for what you looked like pre-120lb loss, but you look gorgeous now. :) And, your weight-loss journey is so inspiring - I definitely just need to get back on the horse and go for it.
@natbug21: ::blush:: Thank you about the skin tone - my grandpa used to call me his coffee-colored gal, heh. Though I used to hate the color of my skin - long, sordid tales involving racist classmates etc. But I'm over it now and embrace my darker tone with relish.
@KatyElle: It's the HCG diet - I actually went to a weight loss center and they recommended the program to me. It was a whopping $200/mo for the program! ::is starting to see where all her money might have gone:: HCG is a hormone that pregnant women produce that supposedly allows them to pull calories from their fat cells to burn for the baby. The HCG diet builds on that principal by utilizing the hormone (you put X amount of drops under the tongue twice a day) and drastically reducing the calorie intake to 500 a day. Not only that, but what you can actually eat is highly restrictive - basically some chicken, white meat fish, certain veggies, and some fruits. No sugar, no lactose, only certain spices, no carbs - so no bread or pasta or rice etc. It really forces you to get creative with food. Oh and no alchohol!
I tried it again a month or two after I got engaged, but I couldn't stick with it. I felt like I had to stay inside and not go out at all, because I just stared at food whenever it was around me.
I mean, it gets results, but it is a really harsh diet to maintain.
I think a friend of mine is on the HGC diet, and she saw results fast. However, it was almost impossible to maintain for a long period of time. She would get SO HUNGRY and I believe she binged quite a bit on weekends.
You look so beautiful in that red dress. I saw it the other day in recaps and I can't believe how effortlessly you pulled off a RED WEDDING DRESS.
Just try to remember that bodies come in all shapes, sizes, colors and levels of health. If you felt good on your wedding day, then don't look at facebook bride pictures! If you are healthy, proud of your weight loss, and happy about being married, then try to put it in perspective. However, we all have body image days, so I feel where you are coming from. Just be careful and take care of yourself. It is sooooo much more important to be healthy.
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Okay, I'm joyfully married and incredibly happy yada, yada, yada, despite the fact that due to extremely delayed flights, we had to reschedule our honeymoon (boo!), but, well, I have weight regrets. There's no other way to put it. It's so stupid and there's nothing I can do about it now, but I wondered if anyone else felt the way I did?
I'll give you the backstory: A little over a year ago I weighed around 177 - probably closer to 180 by the time I broke down and cried at dinner because I couldn't wear my favorite jacket anymore. I went on a diet and lost roughly 30lbs, which was also around the time that my then boyfriend and I got engaged. Great. Now I thought that I looked great - I mean, I was in a size 14 and climbing, so anything less than that was like whoa! to me. I currently wear a size 8 or 10, depending on the designer, so I was happy.
But then, I saw a couple of photos I got back from people who went to the wedding, not to mention any photos I tend to see of myself in general, and realized that hey, I'm still pretty damn fat. At least that's how I see myself.
Anyway, after vowing that I'd lose more weight for the wedding, I just couldn't do the highly restrictive diet again - it was the HCG diet, btw, which if you don't know, puts you on a 500 calorie a day regimen - and I'd lost my gym membership due to financial constraints (Which I can only get back AFTER the wedding, due to the wedding money we recieved which was a nice boost), so it ended up not panning out. I didn't gain any weight, but I didn't lose any weight, so after my first dress fitting I didn't need any further alterations.
I guess I'm just bummed about it a little bit. I saw a picture of a bride today on Facebook that is skinny and gorgeous and I just looked at her picture and mine and sort of went, "That should have been how *I* looked!" I've put both pictures up as comparison:
HER:
ME:
I'm just having one of those days, Bees. I'm sorry to bother you with my insecurities and post wedding woes, but there it is. I just needed to get it out in a safe environment with people who might be sympathetic or know where I'm coming from. Anyone else feel this way? So much emphasis is put on brides to be model perfect or picture perfect, that I'm afraid I'm going to look horrible when I finally get my pro-shots back.
::Sigh::
Stupid brain - why for you must torture me like this?