lfranke: I think it’s sad that somehow it’s become socially acceptable to comment in a negative way regarding the food on someone else’s plate. It’s no one’s business but yours.
I’ve dealt with this for years on a daily basis because I eat healthy, actually just don’t really like sugary things, and don’t gorge myself on stuff i do like. For some reason this just flabbergasts many people from family to coworkers to complete strangers and people have all kinds of things to say about my personal choices that don’t affect them at all.
I’ve found that some of the best responses are those that shut down further questioning.for example, regarding the small portion sizes you mentioned:
Comment: “You barely ate/are eating anything!” or “You didn’t/aren’t eat(ing) enough” or “Are you starving yourself?”
Response: “I just don’t eat any more as soon as I feel full! It was great and I feel satisfied now OR This is just enough to make me feel satisfied. [Insert subject change]”
This way, it makes no sense to continue with “well arent you hungry!!” or “you need more!!” comments and establishes that you are enjoying yourself just as much as anyone else who IS overeating. Deep down people usually know when they are eating portion sizes that are more than they really need, so usually this sort of makes people pause. Usually the motivation behind people pushing “love” food on you is because they want you to enjoy as much as they are — if you say youre just as happy with your smaller portions as they are with their large ones, then what more can they say without looking silly?
You can also say this is just your first round (and then just not ever go back for seconds).
As for having a hard time watching other indulge when you can’t, something i have done for years is to eat healthy snacks throughout the day leading up to a big tempting meal, and then by the time it comes, im not all that hungry and it’s easy to enjoy in moderation. You can still enjoy your favorite foods, you just wont need a ton of each one to get the same effect. this way, you ARE in control of the menu.
At the end of the day you just have to make this about you and what you want for yourself, which is a healthy life, looking awesome and being free of the numerous health problems that are likely to befall chronic overeaters later on. When you look at it from that perspective, dealing with annoying comments and exerting some self control in a tempting situation is a tiny price to pay!