Weird advice

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the rudest “advice” I got while I was pregnant was when I would mention that I planned to have a natural med-free birth, they would laugh and roll their eyes at me and say something like “oh, you’ll change your mind about that once you’re in labor.”

I don’t care who you are or what the situation is — if someone says to you “I have a difficult goal that I hope to achieve” and your response is to laugh in their face, you’re a f***ing dick.

I would respond to this by calling them out. “Wow, what an incredibly rude and unsupportive thing to say.” I think most people just don’t realize they’re being shitty when they say something like that. But they are.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

iarebridezilla:  People like that think they know it all…”oh, I’ve been there, trust me.”

My husband and I want to fight people like that.  Kidding….mostly 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

“The nurses will make fun of you if your who-ha isn’t groomed. Have your husband help you with that” -maternity nurse/family member

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

MrsEME:  agreed — it is very annoying! As if everyone’s experience will be exactly the same … because that’s always how things go, right? Ugh. Idiots.

LadySmurph:  what the flip? That’s crazy! If anything, I always heard the opposite. “Why are you bothering with that? You know the nurses don’t even care, right?” Uhh, yeah, I wasn’t doing it for their benefit 😛

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was told that I have to skip the epidural by my mother in law before I even got pregnant, or else I’m just being a chicken.  I have a friend who feeds her kids nothing but junk food but told me that THAT was the disservice I was doing my child.  Guess what? Totes getting an epidural…that will be in my birth plan.  So sick of judgy people.

Post # 8
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

LadySmurph:  Uhhhhh this will be interesting to see if I am groomed properly for this baby.

Hubby has already had to trim me up once this pregnancy- I am sooooo not good at looking in a mirror and doing anything LOL

He’ll happily do it again, it’s simply not a priority for me at the moment- whether that’s sad or not….it’s just true!!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

LadySmurph:  Yeah, I call BS on that. As a nurse, almost nothing surprises us anymore and after a while, everyones private bits look about the same. 

We are closet ttc (not telling anyone, even though we have hit the point where everyone and their aunt feels it is okay to ask about our reproductive plans) and my favorite is when, especially at work with a bunch of nurses, we were all talking very generally about children and birth and they felt the need to tell me how nuts I was for wanting to plan on low intervention, no med birth. It obviously isnt because I hate medicine or something, just because for me personally I want low interventions. So why do they feel the need to comment??

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  chasesgirl.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

jouissance:  Me too! bring on the wonders of modern medicine! Epidural ALL THE WAY! 

I’m only 5 weeks and no one but weddingbee and DH knows, so I’m eager to read all the crazy advice so I can prepare for when people IRL decide to “help” us out. 

Post # 11
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

iarebridezilla:  I’m 15 weeks and everyone at work has an opinion about a med-free birth and the fact that I’m using midwives instead of an OB. One co-worker said “You’re nuts. You don’t have to be a hero, you know. Having a med-free birth is so unnecessary in this day and age”. I almost choked on my lunch. I couldn’t believe how rude she was being about my choices! 

I’m also getting really annoyed by people who ask me how I’m feeling. Most times, if I say I feel great, theyll respond with “Oh, just you wait! That won’t last forever. You’ve been lucky up til now”. If I say I’m feeling crappy, I usually get something like, “You and every other pregnant woman! You signed up for this, you know”. It’s weird… there doesn’t seem to be a good answer! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

chasesgirl:  you aren’t the only nurse at the only hospital. I’m actually a nurse myself and I’ve found the culture varies floor to floor, hospital to hospital. 

Im just sharing the weirdest advice I got as the thread requested.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No weird pregnancy advice, although someone did comment that I must be having a boy because I looked pretty and “girls steal your beauty”. I was like, “Thanks??”.

After the baby was born, everyone and their mother told me to put cereal in his bottle or start him on solids at a ridiculously early age so he would start sleeping through the night. First, he wasn’t getting bottles, I was nursing. Second, even if he was, I’m not going to add a chocking hazard to his bottle in exchange for a little more sleep. Third, he still doesn’t sleep through the night and he’s been eating solids for a year now (starting at 6 months, not 6 weeks!), so there goes the theory that babies need solid food to sleep!

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