(Closed) Weird behaviour by a friend

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a few male friends who never seriously date girls, but if you ask them about it, they say they are “seeing someone.”  It’s usually just the flavor of the month and not anyone I count.  Maybe that’s the case with him?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

When something like that happens to me, I just assume they are trying to hold back from my sexual magnitism Wink.  I wouldn’t take it personally.  If you’re been friend for this long, he shouldn’t think anything about your relationship would change. 

It could be a number of reasons.  He might be in the closet and afraid to let anyone meet his partner.  Or it could be something else. 

Don’t worry and just keep being the same nice person!  Smile

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe he’s dating someone that you don’t know about. Maybe what he considers a girlfriend isn’t what you would consider a girlfriend, like someone online. Maybe he has a make-believe girlfriend that he adores. It could be anything but I wouldn’t put myself in the middle of it. Assume it has nothing to do with you and let him have his relationship.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Aquababes:  eh, your intincts could be right.  If you’ve been friends for a while, just point blank ask him, maybe in a teasing way.  Like, “When am I going to meet this lovely lady I’ve heard about?” and then if he doesn’t have an answer, then say, “I’m starting to think you’re telling me about someone made up because you’re afraid I’m going to ask you out!” and then see what he says.  Then…..tell him you aren’t interested.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe he has trouble finding girls to date or is gay and so he makes up a girlfriend? I have a perpetual bachelor friend who is always very vague about his dating life, but he doesn’t outright fabricate a girlfriend. Or maybe he’s ashamed of her?

But why don’t you just ask him why you have never met her in over 4 years? If you truly are best friends, I would think that he’d understand that you think it’s odd that haven’t met her and he should certainly expect inquiries! So strange!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Maybe he has a crush on you, but knows you don’t reciprocate so he makes up a girlfriend to cover it up?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Aquababes:  “”I’m starting to think you’re telling me about someone made up” – I would be careful about this one. Most people won’t appreciate being called a liar, even if they are lying.

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