Post # 1
A few months ago I took 2 of my 3 bridesmaids to pick a dress for my upcoming wedding. We tried on a strapless style with a sweetheart neckline and bubble hem. It was really cute and we picked it. This month the girls started picking them up from the store. I’ve only seen one of them try it on, but…a lot of skin is showing. I don’t remember it looking that way. It goes almost half-way down her back and shows a lot of chest (not cleavage or anything, just chest skin). The problem is, the one bridesmaid who didn’t come with us is overweight and I’m worried she’ll have a lot hanging out. I know she would never admit it, but I don’t want her to be uncomfortable and look anything but good. I thought about getting them shawls, or trying to find cropped cardigans with embellishments to match the dress…how do I bring this problem up with her and do you have any suggestions?
Post # 3
I would make a joke of it. Say something like, "I don’t want you ladies whoring it up in church with all that skin showing! Do you think it would look better or you’d be more comfortable with a shawl or cardigan?"
Also- bring it up to all the ladies. Ask them if they think they’ve got too much skin showing for the ceremony. Even if they say it’s fine but you think it doesn’t look nice just say something like, "My granny will have a heart attack seeing so much skin. How about shawls for the ceremony?"
As a plus-sized woman who’s been really uncomfortable baring a lot of skin in BM dresses, I would be grateful if the bride offered to let me cover up.
Post # 4
Just buy a nice shawl or coverup and ask them to use it during the ceremony. No need to bring special attention to your pretty-plus bmaid. Treat them all the same and no one will notice anything is out of sorts.
Post # 5
Thanks…I guess I just wanted to know if there were options other than shawls. I think I’m going to look for cardigans.
Post # 6
I agree with Rosychicklet make it light hearted. I love the idea of making it a joke. You could also suggest that they might need them to keep them warm.. Just in case.
Another option would be to get them jackets of some kind as a bm gift. Tell them in advance that you plan on getting them cover-ups to avoid girls buying their own and to put your plus size bm’s mind to rest. Matching cardigans with thier Initials embroidered on them would be a great gift that they could def wear them after the wedding..
Post # 7
You could also consider Bolero Jackets and capelets. Doc girl has a blog about these –
Show us your Cover ups
Post # 8
Depending on what color you’re looking for, H&M has some really cute color cropped cardigans right now.
Post # 9
Also depending on the style and color you want, Old Navy has some cropped cardigans right now. You can just include them as part of their gift so you don’t bring attention to just one person and tell them you just wanted to make sure they wouldn’t get cold. I really also like the suggestion about making a joke about the skin showing to see how all of the girls feel about it. Maybe they have suggestions for how to approach the problem or have seen shawls/sweaters/boleros that would work well with their dresses.
Post # 10
Iagree. Just get them all some kind of cover up for the ceremony. Then they can decide what to do at the reception.