Post # 1
So I am a “new” bee on here and had a facebook question that I hope someone can answer.
A year ago, my DH’s ex-GF created a FB account and sent out mass friend requests to everyone in her email contacts. He got a friend request. He wasn’t going to accept it but we were curious as to whether or not she had pictures of the two of them on her page. She still has a myspace page that she gets on regularily that says she is in a relationship and has all their pics on there…even though they’ve been broken up for 3 years and it really bothers Darling Husband. She doesn’t know he broke up with her because he met me.
So he accepted it and decided he was going to update his relationship status to engaged b/c we had been engaged for a few months and he never gets on there. A couple of people responded “Is this an April Fool’s joke?” and then someone said “NO it’s not.”
Well, she just disappeared. We assumed she had unfriended him b/c of his status change. Then we assumed she deleted her page or blocked him b/c we couldn’t find her. Well the other day I was looking at his page to friend one of his family members and saw she was his friend. I asked him when he got home if he “friended” her again and he said no. It shows on his timeline they became friends last year.
So do you think she disabled her page and recently enabled it? Could FB have disabled it because she sent out mass friend requests? There has been no activity on her page since a year ago. FWIW, Darling Husband deleted her as a friend.
Post # 3
@texasbee: he accepted, then changed his status, then she was no longer friends with him?
Maybe she just wanted to see what he was up to, if he had any pics of them (kinda like you two did) then once she saw what she wanted, deleted him?
She could have disabled it and then reenabled it. My friend does that when she’s curious about someone. ;P
Post # 4
She probably disabled the page and enabled it. It has happened to me a ton when people go off facebook for a break. I always assume they unfriended me, but they didn’t. They just left and when they come back all of their friends are still there.
Post # 5
@MissCallieJean: Yeah, I figured that she was curious as to what he was doing. He never had photos of her on his myspace though which I thought was weird. And he added our wedding date to his FB so she knows he is married now. No biggie, she’s kind of crazy so we have felt the need to be on the offensive about her.
I had a really good HS friend that got married while overseas and had all his wedding photos on his page. He unfriended me or so I thought for about 4 months. Came back on and the wedding pics were deleted. She had divorced him within 6 months of them getting married. He was so upset he just went offline for a while.
Post # 6
@texasbee: ouch! 6 months? That’s sad. I would have left facebook too.
Post # 7
Who cares? Why add drama when you do not have to? I say unfriend her and don’t even think about what she does in her own crazy little world.
Post # 8
When you disable your page you are removed from people’s friend lists. When you re-active you are magically back on their friend lists…. it happens all the time with my stressed out med school friends, lol.
Post # 9
Thanks bees for your help! I couldn’t find anything on Google about it. We don’t use FB all that often and only get on once a month or so.
@MissCallieJean: I actually don’t think it lasted 6 months. They met overseas. I’m not 100% sure she is American so I instantly saw flags when they were engaged w/i a couple of months and then got married immediately. AND he’s the best guy ever…he’s since moved to another state and is teaching at an ivy league college.
Post # 10
Yeah, you can deactivate your FB and then reactivate it. When you reactivate, your friends list is reinstated. People do it all the time, often for very valid reasons, but sometimes for attention. (I have a friend who likes to make big announcements about how she’s “over” Facebook and deactivates, and then weeks later will end up back on….only to do it again later, haha.)