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Post-wedding, mom was also insistent that we *should have* answered the phone in the middle of the night after they locked themselves out of my house. Yes, they insisted on staying in OUR house, so we stayed in a hotel. Then they kept calling. We had turned our phones off, but still. She couldn't believe we didn't answer to the phone and to this day persists in saying, "what if we hadn't found the spare key? then what?" and i just say, "you shoulda thoughta that before lady"
She wasn't too insistent on anything before the wedding except that i wear white and wear a veil, both of which i was relatively apathetic about.
My mom has been going back and forth between hinting that my dad should wear a tux and flat out saying that he should wear one. Our wedding will be outdoors and casual. I've told her numerous times that even my FI isn't wearing a tux - just a dress shirt, tie, and khaki slacks - and it would be strange if the FOB was outdressing the entire wedding party. Her response is always, "But he just looks so handsome in a tux!"
I can't think of anything that my mom insisted on, but I do have something from my FMIL. FMIL apparently forgot that this was not her wedding and insisted we invite everyone she has ever known. Seriously. On our initial list, there were several people I didn't recognize. I'd ask FI about them and received explanations like "they were my baby-sitter when I was 3" or "that's my mom's third cousin...I think." On subsequent lists, I'd be copying addresses and would come across a name I didn't recognize. When I'd question it, my DH would either admit to knowing his mom was adding yet another guest (and their families) or have to call her and find out who this person was. I understand it was a special day, and she just wanted to share that with people. I do feel that if I never met/heard of them in 6 1/2 years of dating, then it wasn't necessary to invite them. (I'm just a little bitter about it still, but it doesn't sound like it, does it?) My husband and I are pretty low-key/private people, so having a ton of people I'd never met at my wedding was definitely NOT our style.
Oooo my dad was TOTALLY insistent that he HAD to wear a black bow-tie and look "james bond" which was interesting considering all the groomsmen were wearing champagne ties. Nice ones! He was all, "why aren't they wearing bow ties?!?!?! It's not a fancy wedding now" so my dad just looked really really overdressed, but hey, he was the only FOB there so it was ok.
He literally argued with me in the store about it though. He didn't want to match! Grr
I think this is my new favorite thread.
I know I've been frustrated more than once with weird family demands but amazingly I can't think of any at the moment, I guess thats a good thing for my stress level!
Keep em coming!!
My mom asked me to send an invitation to one of her dead relatives. Her aunt died just a couple months before the wedding, and she thought it would be a nice gesture to the family. She included a little note saying how sorry she was that the aunt had passed, and that she would be with us at the wedding in spirit. I thought it was weird, but whatever. It looked more like the invite was coming from my mom than from us, so I just let her do it.
My mom is insisting that she come with me to my planning day...of my VOW RENEWAL. LOL Maybe if she'd been this involved with our first wedding, we wouldn't have eloped. She also wants to match our colors...navy, green and white. She'll be wearing white. I'm not even sure I'm wearing white. HA. I just have to laugh.
Oh my gosh, some of these are hysterical. I'm glad I'm not the only one with weird family demands!
My mom is insistent that my dad wear a western tux if he HAS to wear one. Ok , I know it makes sense, since he is not going to not wear his cowboy boots, but she keep mentioning and mentioning it!
omigosh! Mrs.Spring, that is way weird! I'd be uncomfortable, too, but it sounds like something my mom would have done, too =]. You ladies crack me up
It's official, weddings bring out the weirdest ideas!
My FMIL keeps insisting that we do the "Dollar Dance". I've never heard of it before & it makes me so uncomfortable to ask for money from my guests. Where they live, its very common.
She lives 3000 miles away from me & she calls about once a week (usually every Friday evening) to ask if I've decided to go with the dollar dance yet. lol our wedding is a year away & she's called the last 2 months straight.
My mom wants to incorporate Jewish things into my ceremony and reception. The problem? I'm not Jewish!
We were never raised around religion growing up. But right around my senior year of high school my mom suddenly decided that she wanted to be Jewish. She bought books and a menorah and lit the candles and everything but we still celebrated Christmas. I just thought maybe she was going through something at the time and maybe it was just a phase?
But she insists now that she MUST incorporate something Jewish into our wedding ceremony when we elope in Vegas. AND for our potluck reception back home she signed up to bring a babka.
I am still not really sure what to make of it...
@hcritton - Oh my gosh, that's so funny! How about your just have your FI break the glass and have everyone shout "mazel tov!" I'm not Jewish, but I secretly want to do it :) That's awfully strange of your mom, though.
Bwahahah, hcritton! Is your mom Jewish (like did she convert)? Or did she just wake up one day and decide, "I think I'm going to be Jewish from here on out"? I think it's hilarious, but maybe you can play it off as other Jewish people would be really offended at including religious/cultural things that have no meaning for you. Lol, I do think it's really funny though! 
Haha, these are pretty funny to read. Although I am sure they are less funny at the time. My FMIL has insisted we invite the OOT family to the rehearsal dinner...the problem is that is ~80% of the wedding, it is like a whole reception! A little much for me, but I am going to have lunch with the BM's earlier so we have a quiet moment together before the madness begins.
She was baptized as a Methodist I think. My mom told us about religion when us kids were growing up but she always left it up to us to believe what we wanted to believe in. She bought this one book about all different kinds of religions my last year of high school and I think something must of clicked in her when she read about Judiasm (sp) because shortly after that book came into the house, then came the menorah and things.
She told me that my sister let her put something Jewish in her wedding a few years back. My FI thinks she's crazy because we're not Jewish and it just wouldn't really make sense. But my mom is unstoppable and I think she'll find some way to sneak something into the ceremony and reception--like I'll find dradles in the favor boxes or something at the last minute. No joke!
@ hcritton - Hahahahaha! I know it's probably not so funny to you, but to me it's the funniest thing I've read all day. Good luck, and stay strong; I'll be rooting for you. :)
This isn't as odd or bad as other stories I've heard but, my FMIL requested that her son did not wear "a skirt" to the wedding........btw, they will be wearing kilts. I'm from Scotland (born and raised) and my FI is of Scottish decent and it was his idea to wear a kilt, he's stoked about the whole thing however, his Mother thinks this is awful. She kept calling it a skirt over and over and over, even after my FI told her that this is condisered offensive to Scottish people. I just put on a fake grin and laughed it off but, I really was a little offended, more by the fact that it seemed like she was going out of her way to repeatedly call a kilt a "skirt".
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So when we first started planning and started talking about flowers, my mom was insistent that my other two Aunts and Uncles that weren't involved with the wedding get corsages/bouts to be honored (I have one Aunt and Uncle very involved with the wedding because they're like my second set of parents - and she thought that, even though we're not close, they would be offended if they were left out). I politely explained that while I wish we could honor everyone, it wasn't feasible, and took away from the specialness of the people who ARE being honored. She was really persistant on the idea, and started even suggesting that her second cousin that's attending get a corsage and that all my FIs 10 Aunts/Uncles/Cousins get corsages and stuff as well. It was ridiculous, and she was totally serious! It sounded like she wanted everyone who was related to us somehow to get honorary flowers. Finally, I had to firmly say, "Mom, I've NEVER heard of this before, and you need to drop the issue because it's not happening for many reasons." She eventually dropped it, but to this day, I think she secretly wishes I had obliged.
What's one thing an over-zealous family member was really insistant on, even though it made no sense and/or was clearly not your style?