(Closed) Weird family requests

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Post-wedding, mom was also insistent that we *should have* answered the phone in the middle of the night after they locked themselves out of my house. Yes, they insisted on staying in OUR house, so we stayed in a hotel. Then they kept calling. We had turned our phones off, but still. She couldn’t believe we didn’t answer to the phone and to this day persists in saying, “what if we hadn’t found the spare key? then what?” and i just say, “you shoulda thoughta that before lady”

She wasn’t too insistent on anything before the wedding except that i wear white and wear a veil, both of which i was relatively apathetic about.

Post # 4
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My mom has been going back and forth between hinting that my dad should wear a tux and flat out saying that he should wear one.  Our wedding will be outdoors and casual.  I’ve told her numerous times that even my FI isn’t wearing a tux – just a dress shirt, tie, and khaki slacks – and it would be strange if the FOB was outdressing the entire wedding party.  Her response is always, “But he just looks so handsome in a tux!” 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can’t think of anything that my mom insisted on, but I do have something from my FMIL.  FMIL apparently forgot that this was not her wedding and insisted we invite everyone she has ever known.  Seriously.  On our initial list, there were several people I didn’t recognize.  I’d ask FI about them and received explanations like “they were my baby-sitter when I was 3” or “that’s my mom’s third cousin…I think.”  On subsequent lists, I’d be copying addresses and would come across a name I didn’t recognize.  When I’d question it, my DH would either admit to knowing his mom was adding yet another guest (and their families) or have to call her and find out who this person was.  I understand it was a special day, and she just wanted to share that with people.  I do feel that if I never met/heard of them in 6 1/2 years of dating, then it wasn’t necessary to invite them.  (I’m just a little bitter about it still, but it doesn’t sound like it, does it?)  My husband and I are pretty low-key/private people, so having a ton of people I’d never met at my wedding was definitely NOT our style.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oooo my dad was TOTALLY insistent that he HAD to wear a black bow-tie and look “james bond” which was interesting considering all the groomsmen were wearing champagne ties. Nice ones! He was all, “why aren’t they wearing bow ties?!?!?! It’s not a fancy wedding now” so my dad just looked really really overdressed, but hey, he was the only FOB there so it was ok.

He literally argued with me in the store about it though. He didn’t want to match! Grr

Post # 7
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think this is my new favorite thread. 

I know I’ve been frustrated more than once with weird family demands but amazingly I can’t think of any at the moment, I guess thats a good thing for my stress level!

Keep em coming!!

Post # 8
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My mom asked me to send an invitation to one of her dead relatives.  Her aunt died just a couple months before the wedding, and she thought it would be a nice gesture to the family.  She included a little note saying how sorry she was that the aunt had passed, and that she would be with us at the wedding in spirit.  I thought it was weird, but whatever.  It looked more like the invite was coming from my mom than from us, so I just let her do it.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

My mom is insisting that she come with me to my planning day…of my VOW RENEWAL. LOL Maybe if she’d been this involved with our first wedding, we wouldn’t have eloped. She also wants to match our colors…navy, green and white. She’ll be wearing white. I’m not even sure I’m wearing white. HA. I just have to laugh. 

Post # 11
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My mom is insistent that my dad wear a western tux if he HAS to wear one. Ok , I know it makes sense, since he is not going to not wear his cowboy boots, but she keep mentioning and mentioning it! 

Post # 12
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

omigosh! Mrs.Spring, that is way weird! I’d be uncomfortable, too, but it sounds like something my mom would have done, too =]. You ladies crack me up

It’s official, weddings bring out the weirdest ideas!

Post # 13
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My FMIL keeps insisting that we do the “Dollar Dance”. I’ve never heard of it before & it makes me so uncomfortable to ask for money from my guests. Where they live, its very common.

She lives 3000 miles away from me & she calls about once a week (usually every Friday evening) to ask if I’ve decided to go with the dollar dance yet. lol our wedding is a year away & she’s called the last 2 months straight.

Post # 14
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My mom wants to incorporate Jewish things into my ceremony and reception. The problem? I’m not Jewish!

We were never raised around religion growing up. But right around my senior year of high school my mom suddenly decided that she wanted to be Jewish. She bought books and a menorah and lit the candles and everything but we still celebrated Christmas. I just thought maybe she was going through something at the time and maybe it was just a phase?

But she insists now that she MUST incorporate something Jewish into our wedding ceremony when we elope in Vegas. AND for our potluck reception back home she signed up to bring a babka.

I am still not really sure what to make of it…

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Bwahahah, hcritton!  Is your mom Jewish (like did she convert)?  Or did she just wake up one day and decide, “I think I’m going to be Jewish from here on out”?  I think it’s hilarious, but maybe you can play it off as other Jewish people would be really offended at including religious/cultural things that have no meaning for you.  Lol, I do think it’s really funny though!  Laughing

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