- 8 years ago
So some background…I dated my childhood sweetheart for 6 years, dated at 12 and and broke up when I was a freshman in College. He broke up with me, I was heartbroken, my life was him. My parents are best friends with his parents, for a long time both our parents always thought we would get back. My first year in college he wanted to get back, but I was having fun and starting to have a life outside of him, and I loved it, I was finally realizing who I was, however, he for years pinned over me, and never had another GF. If I would have given him the go to get back we would have, but we both were so different at that time, I wasn’t that same girl, but he was the same guy, he was a sweetheart but he never wanted much more for himself and I wanted the world. However, we always remained friends, talked, saw each other from time to time, and being our parents are best friends it worked. I started dating a guy in college, and we still remained friends, like I said he went probably 10 years without another GF, but I just didn’t have those feelings anymore. I then got engaged ( was engaged prior to this engagment) and we still were friends through it all. About 2 years ago, he met a girl who couldn’t stand the fact that him and I were friendly and that my parents were best friends with his, so she made him cut all contact with me and my parents. It was hurtful but I didn’t dwell on it. They got married a year ago, and my parents were not invited to their wedding. He has 2 other brothers and my parents were invited to their weddings, his family was invited to my sisters wedding and will be attending my wedding. So the fact that my parents didn’t get invited and they sent him and her a gift for their engagement and wedding gift and never recieved a thank you was really hurtful. From what his mother implys ,though she doesn’t talk much about it, the new wife is very controling.
I am close with his mother, and always has been. Even through the different guys I’ve dated I’ve always been close with her. I was attacked a few years ago, and she was the first person I called, I was too scared and embarrassed to call my parents so I called HIS parents. So we are close. Well his mom just joined FB and we are friends, and I looked at her pics and there are lots of pics of her 3 boys, the one being my ex and all their wives, it’s great to see them all happy but it set off some jealous and sadness with me and I hate that! I haven’t had emotional feelings for my ex in almost 10 years but for some reason seeing those pics of how close the wives are with the family stings me. I know it’s probably because of my relationship with my FMIL and his family but it just makes me want to cry. Ugh Sorry had to get it out there. Do you think I should talk about these feelings with my FI or just let it go, I have been acting a little distant the last few days since seeing this, and I know he knows I’m upset about something.