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Not yet, but what a bizarre thing to say! When I haven't "liked" what people registered for (i.e., not comfortable buying for them), I've always just written a check. But to announce they will by from another store? Just strange!
We had a similar comment from a family member. It struck me as quite odd considering we had registered at one of her favorite stores (williams-sonoma). Later after speaking with another family member we found out that she ALWAYS buys the serving pieces of the couple's formal china or silver (which we didn't register for either since we already have 2 sets from grandparents). She didn't think any of the other things we had registered for were "lifelong" gifts and that is what she wanted to give us...something we could use forever. I just tried to laugh it off each time she asked us if we had "any other registries"...
That is a strange comment! She must have forgot that you picked the items on the registry because you liked them, not because they were her taste! I assume if someone registered for something, they must like/want it and choose something from the registry to gift them (or give them a gift card for a store they are registered at). I don't remember getting any comments like this, though we got a few interesting gifts!
Very weird! We had somebody ask us where we were registered (two months after the wedding) and when we told her, she said, "Oh, I think I know what I'm going to get you. Are you registered for X?" ("No.") "OK, I'm going to get you that!"
Sigh. Oh well. It's the thought that counts, and X is something we'll actually use and love. I just feel weird enough when people ask me where they can buy me a gift, and then the weirdness just escalates when they dismiss my choices to my face. If you know what you want to get me already, then don't ask!
@amysue - That's how I felt! I just wish people wouldn't bring it up at all, you know? It's just always weird and awkward to me.
I used to work in a bridal registry and guests would print out the couples registry and then say that they didn't like anything on the list and want to get the couple somthing else. I would always try to remind them (in a nice way of course!) that this is what the couple picked out and what they need/want.... didn't always work thought. Lol. It was usually an older generation guest who would want to buy china for the couple but the couple didn't register for it.
I totally know what you mean! I had a friend tell me 2 months before our wedding that "all the good stuff was taken" off our registry and was there something else I wanted. Well, yes, actually, I would like the things off my registry that are not taken and still very good gifts, such as placesetting, perhaps. Very nice gift and very me, which she should know. She also expressed wanting to give me a "lifelong gift" like ggsb's family member. Isn't a placesetting considered lifelong?
Not to mention that this was 2 months ago and still no gift, granted she has a year, but why hassle me when I'm busy getting ready for the wedding? Good grief.
Oh my goodness.
I got some bath lotions and soap for a wedding gift "for us". Um, it's for me...my husband doesn't like smelling fruity.
How do people not "like" what's on your registry? Sorry, but I need my potato peeler as much as my knife set and I like them both! geez
I got some hideous fruit-covered corningware and a chocolate platter....I don't even like chocolate 
. There's always a few!
that's totally weird! does she not understand the gift is for you and FI and not her? never mind the bad etiquette.......you should have said, "oh, well, we registered for our wedding, not your *insert bizarre event here*.".........lol. ok, i wouldn't have said that, but....geez.....some people
I had an aunt (FH'S SIDE) tell me our registry was LAME... but when I say tell me, I mean she POSTED IT ON OUR WEDDING WEBSITE GUESTBOOK. Here why don't I copy paste...
OK, kids. Love you but your engagement gift registry is lay-hay-hay-HAYME! Aunt ***** is taking matters into her own tentacles."
Awesome...? Like what do you say to that?
kjpugs - Oh my God! How awful! I'm sorry :( I would definitely have deleted that comment right away, haha.
HAHA I left it because she ended up being quite nice and bought a good portion of our honeymoon. She's VERY opinionated, well meaning, but kind of rude in the process. I just can't imagine caring what people register for!
Haha - this is a funny thread. I'm sure some of our gifts will be "interesting" to say the least. I think it is hilarious that people go outside of the registry for something you clearly DID NOT register for. I guess some people just get caught up in the shopping part. LOL
Ha! I love this thread - too funny!
My grama informed me she was giving us money because she didn't know what to get us, and that way "we could get what we want." I've told her three times we've registered {for things we want!}, and at a national chain she knows well, but whatever - I won't complain about cash! *lol*
We haven't gotten anything weird yet. We have gotten several non-registry gifts and I LOVED them! It was such a nice surprise and the gifts were SO thoughtful!
We've gotten a bunch of weird comments about registries. In particular, people keep asking FI and me "what do you want from your registry"? Um... everything. That's why we registered for it.
We also agonized over whether to register for sterling silverware, and finally decided to go for it. When my grandmother asked what I wanted from my registry ::sigh::, I mentioned the silver or the kitchenaid mixer. She ignored the mixer suggestion entirely, and answered about the silver, "It's very pretty, but shouldn't you just register for nice stainless?" As if that hadn't occurred to me. As if I had just waltzed around Macy's, wondering what was most expensive. Ugh.
Yeah, that's rude of your friend. There's really nothing to say to that, except maybe "gosh, I hope I like it!"
That is weird! I mean, I can understand people being original for birthdays, xmas, etc. but with a wedding I mean, the couple goes through so much to pick things the two of them like and want in their new lives that it's almost being disrespectful to 'refuse' to buy something off the registry. Really if nothing is left or if the guest has something WAY better in mind he/she KNOWS for sure the couple will love, fine, but otherwise it's kind of strange and a little selfish.
That's so weird that she told you that. I have been a little late in buying gifts, only to have things on the registry that I didn't want to buy, or just couldn't afford. When I say didn't want to buy, it's not that I'm judging them but I don't want to simply buy an egg timer and a meat thermometer and when I say expensive I mean place settings that are out of my budget. In that case, there's always checks!
I'm quite snarky when it comes to registries, but in the end I'm more than happy to buy someone something I think is dumb/lame/silly/stupid but they want. It's kinda like "whatever floats your boat".
@LovestheBear: I'm the same way... I didn't register for things like egg timers because I would never buy them for anyone else. ;) It's great that people register for what they want, but as the giver, my tastes count, too! And if it feels too silly to give, I write a check and the couple can use their completion discounts if meat thermometers are so important to them.
This is so rude - I can think of few time where there either hasn't been anything on the registry I could afford or I didn't feel comfortable buying something so I just got a gift card to one of the stores they were registered for. Odd.
I had a relative whine and moan to my mother about the china I had picked because it was being discontinued. (which I was well aware of and was perfectly fine not getting all my china, I'm happy to collect it over the years). Then it turns out the person bought some of it for me from Macy's. Uh, doesn't really seem like it was that much of a struggle to find it. But I guess just that fact that it was "going to be discontinued" was a real issue for her.
Maybe it's a money issue and instead of just saying nothing, she got defensive? Or she could just suck!
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The other day I had a friend ask where we were registered, and she responded by saying, "Oh, yeah, I saw those and I didn't see anything I liked on any of them, so I'm going to get you something from another store, and they don't have a return or exchange policy, so I hope you like it."
I'm totally okay with that, because I'm really the kind of person who's just happy to get anything, but I thought the comment was kind of weird. She's also the kind of person who usually shops for herself when buying gifts rather than keeping the recipient in mind, and since our tastes are totally different, I've gotten some interesting things from her in the past.
Not really complaining, just thought it was weird. Anyone else get weird registry comments or gifts?