Post # 1
Just for fun.
i LOVE the name Molly. I had a Molly doll as a girl. Unfortunately, my husband dated a Molly in college. 🙁
His aunt and uncle had a baby a few months ago and were considering naming it Molly, but they didn’t. I was really hoping they would use so I would have a Molly in my life, but alas, it wasn’t to be.
So I started thinking about how maybe it wouldn’t be that weird, but then my Grandma was telling me how my uncle Matt’s ex girlfriend had a baby and named it Matt. Now, Matt is a pretty common name, and I think everyone has a Matt in their relatives somewhere, so who knows who she named it after. But they thought it was weird.
I know my Dad wanted to name me or my sister’s Susan but my mom vetoed it because he dated 2 Susans!
So are Exes’ names ALWAYS off limits? Are there exceptions for common names or quick flings? Would it be weird at first and then people would forget about it?
Do you have any “names that got away” because of exes?
Post # 3
Shares name with ex-wife, yeah – weird.
Shares name with an ex-girlfriend? Not so weird. Unless they had this intense or bad relationship.
Post # 4
Have you asked your husband about it? He might hate the idea, and then it wouldn’t matter anyway!
I think that you should be able to name your child what you want, as long as it is what you and your husband really want and are happy about. You can’t please everyone when naming a child.
I have actually decided to stop telling people what names I have in mind for potential future children, because both of the boy names I had considered have been shot down because someone I tell knows someone with that name who they don’t like. It’s so silly, but people will do that.
Say you love the name Anna, but you say to a family member “I just love the name Anna” and then suddenly you’re getting “I know an Anna and I didn’t like her. Don’t name her Anna”… seriously, that is how the conversations have gone for me.
So talk to your husband, see what he says, and then surprise people with the name. If anybody asks, just say that you have always loved the name and leave it at that.
Post # 5
My top boy name was a variation of Nathan since I was in third grade. I dated a Nathan when I was a senior in HS and we broke up, but I never crossed the name off my list. However, that same Nathan and I ended up getting married when I was a senior in college, so since neither of us really want a junior, the name is now nixed. HOWEVER, unless a name I loved was that of someone I met and subsequently could NOT stand, I’d probably still name my child that (as long as the father was on board). Its not like you’re naming your child after his ex. 🙂
Post # 6
@jedeve: Agree with BanditGirl… if it was a significant ex, it may be weird. I would think it would be weirder for the person that has the ex (like your DH). Especially if the relationship turned out really bad with bad memories. I would think it was odd if I had dated someone for a lengthy time and they eventually had a baby and named her the same as my name. My name isn’t overly common, so it would probably grab my attention for a moment. But it sounds like a random brief dating of a Molly, so it doesn’t sound like a big deal at all. I loved a certain name and I had to remove it from my mind because my FI worked with one, and this guy was the weirdest person on the planet that did the oddest things beyond explaination… all of that stuff eventually got him fired…. so now my brain is embedded with that memory – so the name went bye-bye lol.
Post # 7
@tinylittlebird: He said no way! Then he relented and said “if you really want to”. It’s a long way of for us anyway.
@farmgirl2106: I dated a guy who had one of my favorite names, Miles. I always knew I could never name a boy that because if we broke up (we were serious) it would be weird, and if we got married, I didn’t want a junior either.
If we did have a Molly, it would be Margaret after DH’s grandmother.
Post # 8
@Mrs.Firefly1: Haha, was his name Dwight Schrute?
Post # 9
I think that if you really love the name go for it, but I did vote for people might talk about it behind your back. Chances are no one super important (like family or close friends), but I guarantee that if the ex ever finds out, her and her friends will be talking about it.
There’s a girl that my SO used to date (not even a real girlfriend) on and off for years. I love her name, but I KNOW our daughter will never have her name. He’s from a small town where everyone knows everyone, and I just feel “icky” at the thought of anyone making some sort of connection between my daughter and this ex-person. It’s not even a really logical thing…I know it sounds totally immature, but it would really bother me. That’s me though.
If you really feel a strong connection to the name, I think it’s a contender. There’s always going to be a reason not to name a kid something whether it’s because you knew the worst kid ever named ____ , or because so and so will think that you copied their baby name, or because DH had an ex with that name. Go with your gut!
Post # 10
If he’s not super sold on it…I’d let it go. He might have weird feelings about it and just not want to crush your dream of having a Molly….
FWIW, I’d never name a baby after my FI’s signifcant exes. Now this isn’t middle school or 2 weeks, but anything that was serious. It helps that all of their names suck. 🙂 Sorry, I’m sure that’s awkward, but I do think it might be weird. For him.
Post # 11
@jedeve: LOL, seriously. Dwight Schrute looked quite normal next to this guy. I always thought my FI was kidding with the stories he would tell me. It was outragous stuff. I couldn’t believe he didn’t get fired sooner. I think he had a relative that worked there, so they kept bailing him out of trouble. I’m so bummed because this name was seriously perfect!!!
Post # 12
If it was a serious ex, then I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable with it. But if not, I would *maybe* consider it if I absolutely LOVED the name. (However, I can’t think of a single name that I *must* name one of my children at this point).
Post # 13
Is it strange that I find it totally okay, unless he slept with the past ex? That’d be a little weird. Middle/high school ex’s names I’d be fine with, but if he slept with the girl who’s name I was considering? I’d find that really off-putting.
Post # 14
@Gingersnap: Good point.
I asked him if we could name a dog Molly. He said no to that too!
Post # 15
Well unless it was a serious relationship, I’d use it and not think twice!
Post # 16
I think they are off limits.