Weird issue with potential hairstylist "friendor"

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
3514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@penguinbee:  What’s rude is that she would ADD a plus 1 when she wasn’t given one. IMO since she is a guest and not just nedor keep your hair trail appt and go with them if you like then and let her know you found someone to do your hair because you want her to enjoy herself as a guest.

Post # 4
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

If you aren’t short on invitations I wouldn’t uninvite her to the wedding, but I would think twice about her doing your hair. She obviously isn’t responsible enough to show up on time, so you wouldn’t want her to be late to do your hair the day of. I would just tell her to enjoy herself at the wedding, and that you found someone to do your hair the day of that works in the area. That way she doesn’t have to lug around any hair supplies to your DW. Make it seem like it’s in her favor.

Post # 5
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@penguinbee:  I would keep your appointment and go with another hairstylist. This lady is clearly unprofessional and wants to use your wedding as a vacation with her and her new boyfriend. I don’t think you should gamble with your wedding hair and just find someone more professional who you can count on and trust. I would also call her and tell her that you have found someone else to do your hair and also let her know that she does not have a plus one seeing as it is a small, intimate, destination wedding, and you understand if she does not want to come any longer. 

I would’nt worry about hurting her feelings, she obviously isn’t worried about losing yoru business.  

Post # 6
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

you can’t uninvite her – that’s super rude. you CAN gently explain that she was not given a plus one (intimate wedding, etc) . and you can tell her that actually you found a great stylist at the destination and you’re going to get your hair done with bridesmaids etc ‘so you can relax and enjoy our wedding day!’

in my opinion, the last two are your only options. but i’d call her up – rather than texting her because everything gets waaay more complicated if her plus one buys a ticket.

Post # 7
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@penguinbee:  I think that for destination weddings, you kind of have to give more people +1s, unless you know they have someone else to stay with.  But it is reasonable to ask who the plus one is.  It would be super rude to uninvite her, whether or not she is doing your hair.  If you aren’t confident she’s not going to be flaky, I would just hire someone to do your hair and have a contract and all that jazz. 

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