Post # 1
So I’m having my wedding May 22nd.
I got married November 28th (uh oh!)
but it was in secret, just a little elopement before we moved.
our familes don’t know (except for my dad) so which date should I state as a wedding anniversary?
Post # 3
You can use either one you like, or even use both! Maybe go our to dinner on your actual wedding date, but celebrate your anniversary on your actual ceremony date!
Whatever works for you=]
Post # 4
@jenilynevette: But we were going to get it engraved on our bands.
but I don’t know!
Post # 5
@nikix: If other people don’t know I would probably use the wedding date not the actual marriage date. But I think the depends on the two of you! 🙂
Post # 6
@lovelylight99: Yeah, thats what I was thinking!
but then it seems like the date I actually got married on doesn’t mean anything.
i hate this
Post # 7
@nikix: Well, my FI and I are toying with the idea of doing something similar – getting married before the wedding date and tell NO ONE (there’s a good reason for this, not just because we want to celebrate more). That also means that we would celebrate our anniversary on the official wedding day, but also have a secret celebration on the day we got married. You know, something that’s just for us – and if we have kids in the future, all they will know is that once a year – WOHA, all fun stuff happens for apparently no good reason! 🙂
Post # 8
You could have the date that you met on the bands?
Post # 9
I would use May 22 because that’s the date everyone will recognize on your anniversary.
Post # 10
@MissLittleChicken: I don’t like that idea because I had a boyfriend at the time… but that’s a horrible story that I can’t share.
Post # 11
The day you got married. November 28.
Isnt is a bit decieving to let your family believe youre getting married in May?
Post # 12
I think it depends on which has more meaning to you. It sounds like your November date has a lot of meaning as you are struggeling to make this decision. Either use your November date or just wait until after the ceremony and see which one feels more like your ‘wedding’ date.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We had considered doing this also, but it looks like we won’t have to after all. We had figured that the more important date was the one where we pledged our lives to each other in front of all our loved ones – so the wedding date. So that’s my two cents.
Post # 14
@nikix: It means something for you and your husband. It is the actual day that the two of you exchanged vows and committed to one another. 🙂 So if you want to state the “wedding” day for the sake of people not knowing I would do that. But it is ultimately up to the two of you! =)
Post # 15
It depends on when you really “feel” your marriage started.
Was it when you signed the paper work? Or was it when you said your vows in front of your friends and family?
My sister and her husband dated for 10+ years, bought a house together, had the ceremony in Mexico, signed the paper work when they got back, and then had a reception in the US.
They use the day they bought the house as their anniversary as that was the moment they really “felt” married.
Post # 16
none of them could be there.
and we want to celebrate with them ..