(Closed) weird question …

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You can use either one you like, or even use both! Maybe go our to dinner on your actual wedding date, but celebrate your anniversary on your actual ceremony date!

Whatever works for you=]

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nikix:  If other people don’t know I would probably use the wedding date not the actual marriage date. But I think the depends on the two of you! 🙂 

Post # 7
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@nikix: Well, my FI and I are toying with the idea of doing something similar – getting married before the wedding date and tell NO ONE (there’s a good reason for this, not just because we want to celebrate more). That also means that we would celebrate our anniversary on the official wedding day, but also have a secret celebration on the day we got married. You know, something that’s just for us – and if we have kids in the future, all they will know is that once a year – WOHA, all fun stuff happens for apparently no good reason! 🙂

Post # 8
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432 posts
Helper bee

You could have the date that you met on the bands?

Post # 9
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4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would use May 22 because that’s the date everyone will recognize on your anniversary.

Post # 11
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

The day you got married.  November 28.

Isnt is a bit decieving to let your family believe youre getting married in May?

Post # 12
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it depends on which has more meaning to you. It sounds like your November date has a lot of meaning as you are struggeling to make this decision. Either use your November date or just wait until after the ceremony and see which one feels more like your ‘wedding’ date.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We had considered doing this also, but it looks like we won’t have to after all.  We had figured that the more important date was the one where we pledged our lives to each other in front of all our loved ones – so the wedding date.  So that’s my two cents.

Post # 14
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nikix:  It means something for you and your husband. It is the actual day that the two of you exchanged vows and committed to one another. 🙂 So if you want to state the “wedding” day for the sake of people not knowing I would do that. But it is ultimately up to the two of you! =)

Post # 15
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It depends on when you really “feel” your marriage started.

Was it when you signed the paper work?  Or was it when you said your vows in front of your friends and family?

My sister and her husband dated for 10+ years, bought a house together, had the ceremony in Mexico, signed the paper work when they got back, and then had a reception in the US. 

They use the day they bought the house as their anniversary as that was the moment they really “felt” married.

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