Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for almost a month now, and I am so happy!!
I love my FI and my ring, and I know that’s all that counts, but I am so sick of the way people react to my ring!
Most people congratulate me, and ask to see it, and then don’t say anything. it’s so awkward! I don’t understand why they go all quiet. My center stone is well under 1ct. I’ve also gotten “oh it’s so blingy” and “it’s very elaborate”
I am one of the first girls to get engaged in my program (I’m in university) and in my group of friends, so maybe people just don’t know what to say, or maybe they just don’t like it? I know it’s unique, but I feel like it would be easy for them to say ‘wow, you must so be happy, it’s pretty”
Oh and here”s a pic, of course!
Anyway, SHARE YOUR STORIES! What kind of reaction do you get when you show your ring?
Post # 2
Congrats on your engagement! I have a moissanite, so I will get the “it’s pretty/so sparkly” reaction, but it’s usually followed by “what’s a moissanite?”
Post # 3
My matron of honor saw my ring and went, “Oh. Well it’s not as bad as I thought it would be, but your setting is way too high”.
Post # 4
Congratulations on this step in your life! I love your ring, it’s very unique! I got an oval cut genuine blue sapphire engagement ring so the weird reactions I got were: (in person) “oh… You guys couldn’t afford a diamond?” “It’s really nice but do you really think of it as an engagement ring?” “Are you sure you’ll want to look at that 50 years from now?” (In photos) “oh… You chose a black stone? That’s different…” Then I’d trek then it was blue and my phone camera sucked and they were like “wow.. really deep blue, you should have liked for a lighter one, it would be prettier.”
But even with the weird responses, I love my ring and my husband and I’m proud that they are mine! 🙂
Post # 5
geekychinchilla: congrats! I think it’s beautiful! They may just be young and not get why your getting married young. People can be very judgmental. My first ering was a good size solitaire and I literally got no reactions from it they would ask to see it then either pause awkwardly and not say anything or just be like congrats! Maybe bc solitaires are plain who knows. My current ering looks a lot like yours and I usually only get complimented on it by young women older women often comment that it’s unique. As long as you love it who cares it’s youra and it’s the symbol of you and your fi’s commitment if others don’t like it they can kick rocks 🙂
Post # 6
My ring is under 1ct so I got the typically “Let’s see!” followed by not so excited comments.
The weirdest reaction I got was from a freshman girl that lived on my dorm floor during my senior year. She knocked on my door and asked to see my engagement ring having heard I had gotten engaged. So I put my hand out and showed her and she said…
“Well at least you’ll never have to worry about anyone wanting to steal such a small ring”
…then left my room. My roommate and I both looked at each other with our mouths opened too stunned to speak.
Post # 7
geekychinchilla: I wouldn’t get attached to the reaction of others, it will just potentially disappoint you if you do. Just focus on your happiness and excitement, which is all that matters. Your ring is beautiful! I love it! But to me, a jewelry lover, it’s pretty obvious that it is a gorgeous engagement ring! IRL, if you showed it to me, I would probably ask you all about it (I do that with all my customers at work and everyone knows me as the diamond girl)..hehe.
For me personally, when I first got engaged we used a 3ctw heirloom and my FIs co-workers said that’s “cute”. LOL. Now I have a petite .58ct solitaire from my FI and wear the other blingy ring on my RH. Not much reaction to either from people who find out we are engaged, so big or small it doesn’t seem to matter. I am not out to impress anyone, but observing people’s reactions has been an interesting social experiment.
ps. Some people don’t have much know-how in certain social situations, especially in these modern times and they may not be prepared on how to say congratulations to a newly engaged couple. I wouldn’t take what people do personally, like I said just focus on your happiness. Congratulations!
Post # 8
Someone once called my ring cute. Otherwise, not too many awkward comments.
Post # 9
geekychinchilla: dont worry. people will always be jealous or yeah maybe they dont like it. i dont see how anyone couldnt like your ring! but ive gotten a lot of odd comments. ive mentioned on here before but they worst was when a girl at my wedding tried to tell me it wasnt a sapphire. when i have the paperwork for it. it def is and was his grandmas. why would you argue over a brides ring on her wedding day. i let her bleieve whatever she wanted and blew it off. she had to be 10 years older and never married, dating a guy i went to high school with. i just let it go. ive gotten comments about how i wear my E-ring on my right hand (totally different ring than my grandmas wedding band and they both just dont even fit on the same finger!). give me a break here. im still wearing it!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I took my rings into a jewelery store to have my wedding bands inspected and asked them to throw all of the rings into the cleaner. The lady there was really excited about my engagement ring because the stone was something she’d never seen before. She really liked the setting too and said she didnt want to offend me but she loved the setting’s prongs because they reminded her of the wings of an insect. I laughed and told her take a closer look that is because they are the wings of an insect, she then realised it was 2 dragonflies and stated she was having a blonde moment.
Post # 11
geekychinchilla: the only weird reaction I had was more uncomfortable than odd. I was 36 when I was engaged, my husband was 44. Neither of us were married before, and we splurged a bit. My ring is almost 5 ct TW. Anyway, a few months into our engagement, my goddaughter got engaged, who was 20. She was walking around showing the family her ring at a get-together, and skipped over me! We are very close. I had to hunt her down in my giant family and said, “show me the bling!” She did shyly, and said, “it’s very different than yours….” We’ll, that about broke my heart. I said, “you’re right! Yours is so beautiful and has much more detail! I think it’s perfectly stunning!” I meant every word, too. Her setting is high, and has a “secret” sapphire tucked on the side. It’s super lovely! I felt bad she was comparing the two. Priorities, resources and tastes change over 15 years!
Post # 12
I got “what a stupid waste of money” and “holey shit”, but mostly congratulations.
Post # 13
HappySky7: get out! People really said that? Man, I’d have been tempted to give them a swift punch to the kidney…with my “stupid waste of money” on!
Post # 14
Beautiful ring! Congratulations on this exciting new step in your life.
Sorry for the awkwardness of people in general. Sometimes people don’t know what to say but they feel they need to say something.
Among my friends who got engaged in university no one had anything close to a carat, and a few had non-diamond stones, including amethyst and a blue topaz….and they were thrilled with their rings!
Post # 15
I havent gotten anything particularly awkward, though my roommate (who has been dating her guy atleast 4 years longer) could barely muster a “nice” but I think thats on her more than my gorgeous ring!
But a lot of these…
WOW WTF?? Were people raised in a barn?