- 5 years ago
I had a fight with my boyfriend on last week and the weekend over communications, understanding and listening. He couldnt understand, listening and communicate with me. All he can do is snap at me quiet alot..
I find it really hard because he was living close to me we have some communication, understanding and listening. But he moved 2 hours away from me. He couldnt even bother to text me a sweet message and cant do the video call with me through the skype. I was so angry. I need to have a guy who have this important three aspects for this relationshp because I do not want the same horrible experience i have been through in the past. It just he didnt have these. I feel that he thinks it is ok not to have any communication, understanding and listening. I hit the roof and told him off that I am enough with his behaviour and how he treat me. I do not even feel speical because he all do like sex that is it. He does not even bother to be able to communicate,listen or understanding. He is not really romantic guy. He was so angry and end up saying why do i give him a hell!! I told him that i dont care if i give him a hell it is because it is time for him to wake up and realise that he did is wrong. I am not ok with him if he has not improve the important three aspects – communication, understanding and listening. Then I will be walking off.. for good. I feel i have waste my 4 years and no ring!!! I am getting to the point is that he is strung me along. I told him i dont care if he has no job or not.. It is time he have to wake up and it is not fair on me.
I did warning him that i do not want to be the number that add to the statistic about divcorce rate. the Marriage is a big deal that needs communication, understanding, listening and sharing. If he cant do these. I am done.
Right now.. he is trying to do this to proove me that he is willing to improve these. I think it is waste of time because i am enough of him because he thinks he do is great which it is not. I have enough of his crap.
So i dont know what am i gonna do. Just waiting and see if he has improving in these areas?? My wish is to have a romantic guy with a good communication, understanding and listening. My bf is not these to what i am looking for. Sometimes i feel so embrassing because the way he do is not nice and uncall for. it does put me off so many times. I keep wondering is this whst i want for rest of my life???