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@BunnyBrideToBe: I would leave it at home. Just in case. What if you got there and they made you take it off?
@Mrs.tobe: I guess that's what I'm leaning toward. I know it makes FI a little sad (but he would understand), and it means going out for date night Friday night without the ring on, too. Funny how attached I am to wearing it!
Id leave it at home, maybe wear another ring you own thats not so sparkly and flashy on your hand as a stand in? That way you dont feel naked but you are within the prison guidlines?
Hmmm...there's an idea. I wonder what I could and couldn't get away with since they specifically say "one wedding ring" (not just "one ring").
Ha--maybe FI will let me wear my wedding band for a day in exchange for the e-ring. Unlikely, but that would be a treat!
@BunnyBrideToBe: I totally understand. My e-ring is an antique family heirloom. I would never be able to live with myself it something happened to it, therefore on Mon-Thurs nights I don't wear it to work. Which really stinks, but Friday morning I was reminded why I don't.It is funny how attached you can get.
I was trying to move a difficult patient and my spoon ring (also very old....eep!) got hung on the bed rail and bent. It was on my left middle finger. Imagine if I had my e-ring on!
Could you wear it on a chain around your neck? You could easily conceal in under your shirt and then wouldn't have to be "not wearing" it.
@KatyElle: That's a good idea. Then you could put it back on for "date night"
i would wear it and if they make you take it off, which i think is HIGHLY doubtful, then don't lock it up, but wear something with pockets and keep it safe in there.
i am saying to wear it because to me it sounds like you are over thinking this and although there is this dress code, i highly doubt every prison guard will be checking everyone's fingers thoroughly! my guess is they wont say anything at all.
I thought about the necklace idea, but in terms of jewelry you are allowed just two things--one religious pendant necklace, if desired, and one wedding ring.
BUT...maybe I can get FI to wear it around his neck on a chain (hidden under a shirt) and still be able to put it on for our date.
Who knew grad school was so complicated? ;-)
You could wear it and just turn it around where it looks like a band when you walk in and if they say anything it's only one ring, as required.
I would just leave it at home for the day. But, full disclosure, I work at a place that we're only allowed to wear one plain wedding band, so I leave my rings at home most days.
From what you say about their code, it's sounds like it's more of a "we-don't-want-gang-symbols" dress code than a "we're-afraid-of-it-getting-stolen" issue. Especially with the religious necklace issue. I would wear it, but turn it around so the rock is on the inside of your palm.
I would give it to FI to keep during the day and give it back for date night later. I wouldn't want to chance it.
@afbacher: I would imagine it's also a "we don't want people leaving valuable items with the prisoners to sell on the prison black market" kind of thing.
Its two days. What is two days without an e-ring on if it means your ring is safe and you are able to wear it for the rest of your married life. I would leave it at home. I am pretty sure your fiance would understand. Could he bring the ring with him to date night. Put it on your finger again, kinda romantic don't you think?
@BunnyBrideToBe: I used to be a music therapist at a prison and though wearing it on a chain sounds like a good idea I wouldn't. They usually are more cautious about necklaces for safety purposes than rings. I honestly never wore any jewelry other than some stud earrings. Not only because I didn't want to lose them but also it just doesn't give the inmates anything personal about you. You would think that them knowing you are engaged would be a good thing, but honestly you want to keep everything as impersonal as possible so nothing detracts from what you are trying to accomplish. I advise to leave it with the fiance.
I agree with other responses.
Don't wear it in case you have to lock it up, but instead of leaving it at home, give it to your FI to hold onto until you're date.
On your date he can propose again, lol
What about getting a CZ band to wear when you go so you've got a ring on but you don't have to worry about your real engagement ring. I know a lot of women who do that when they go on beach vacations because they don't want to worry about losing their ring in the ocean and it's not really safe to leave it in the hotel room.
@smileyd: Such a cute idea! Actually, given the circumstances of the proposal, I have been promised a second and more "official" proposal anyhow, though I sort of doubt at this point that it will happen.
I've been talking with FI about it, and I think leaving the ring at home is the wisest choice :-( We're/I'm deciding whether to have him wear it around his neck for the day and return it to me at date night, or to have us both wear our wedding rings for the days I'm in prison (heehee). I don't know if there's an ideal option, but I am heartened to hear I'm not the only one facing a wearing/not wearing dilemma! Fortunately mine is not a regularly recurring instance; I guess I would just get used to it if it were.
Thanks for the ideas and understanding! It's nice at least to hear that I'm not the only one weird about not wearing a ring...
I would just leave it at home.
Also, I bought a very thin plain gold band that I can wear on occasions that I don't feel comfortable wearing my nice ring(s). It was $60, including the service plan. That's something to think about.
Very similar to this (not my hand):
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I'm a grad student, currently taking a class on outreach to underserved populations. This involves two visits to local prisons, the first of which is next week. Part of the dress code requirement is that you can wear "ONE wedding ring" as a visitor.
As a not-yet-wed lady, does this mean I can, or cannot wear my engagement ring? It's a single ring (check!), but it is flashier than a simple wedding band.
I am loathe to go a full day without it (I leave the house at 6am, go to campus for a morning meeting, a morning class, and then go straight to Suffolk County prison in the afternoon), but I am obviously unwilling to lock a big rock/family heirloom piece in some weird jail locker whilst I tour the prison.
What would you do? The prison was not responsive when I tried to query them, and my professor just kind of shrugged like I was being a crazy (maybe I am?).