Post # 1
Fiance and I are big country music fans, as well as most of our friends! We picked our date, sent out the STD’s and then found out that one of our all time favorite bands is in town the same day performing! Obviously, that is fine with us – I’d say it’s worth missing the concert…
But here is the issue:
I have a friend who just so happens to be dating a friend of my fiancé from highschool. They didn’t meet through us and we don’t hang out often but they are friends of ours regardless. They have RSVP’d to the wedding, gave us their meal choice- the whole deal.
I was on facebook the other day and randomly decided to go on her page. Someone had tagged her in a post saying “Plane tickets are booked can’t wait to go see the concert!”
Today I looked again and she had deleted the posts off her page…
So I’m wondering if I ask her about it? I really wouldn’t be offended if she picked the concert over the wedding (considering I was even a little bummed to miss it) I would just prefer not to pay for people that were not going to come!
Post # 3
Where is the concert compared to the wedding? Can she be thinking of an “eat and run” type of thing so she goes to the concert after?
Post # 4
Are you sure that it’s the same concert?
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s worth mentioning, but if she doesn’t show at least you’ll know why….
Post # 6
there would really be no way to make both… the concert is an all day thing – tailgaiting and what not. plus she has people flying in from out of town! what the heck! & i’m assuming she deleted the posts so i didn’t see and she could be “sick” the day of.
Post # 7
Sorry I’m confused. It sounds to me like your friend’s friend is the person who’s flying in and attending the concert. In that case, what’s the problem?
Anyway, I don’t see the harm in gently asking your friend. Say what you said here… you’re not offended if they pick the concert, but you need to know ahead of time.
Post # 8
Maybe the friend is flying in, and staying on this girl’s couch? They go to concert, she goes to wedding and they meet afterward/rest of the weekend?
Post # 9
@paula1248: Anyway, I don’t see the harm in gently asking your friend. Say what you said here… you’re not offended if they pick the concert, but you need to know ahead of time.
Agreed. Just mention you saw the post, but now its gone. Tell her exactly what you said here.. you’ll be bummed that she picked the concert, but if she has plans to go, better to change her RSVP now with early notice, then to back out last minute.
Post # 10
In the comment they talked about enjoying the concert together on that day. So yes, I’m sure they are going. Either way, I’ll ask her! I guess it’s not going to hurt haha.. Thanks!