Post # 1
FI and I are broke and living paycheck to paycheck. He could barely even afford my ring when he bought it, but we were (and still are) so in love, it seemed silly to wait to get married. When we got engaged last September, we thought we could save up our money and be able to afford a custom wedding band for my e-ring. Saving is a lot harder than it seems though. We have FI’s wedding band, but mine is going to be more expensive. We are 10 months out from the wedding, but I don’t need an 8-ball to tell me money is not in our future. I’m a college student working temp. jobs here and there, and FI pays most of the bills with what little money he makes.
My ring is pretty unique in design (I posted a pic below) and so we really don’t have a choice but to have a custom one made because I would like a wedding band soldered to it. We’ve been to several jewelry stores for an estimate price for a custom simple, white gold band with no diamonds or gems to match the shape of my e-ring. We’ve been told to expect to pay between $600- $800 for it, which is money we don’t have.
To make things simple (as I am a simple gal, and rings arent top priority right now), I was wondering if I could just use my e-ring for the ceremony, instead of using the planned wedding band, or does that seem weird? For the longest time, I’ve seen women wear both their e-ring and wedding band, but lately I’ve been noticing women who are wearing just one ring. I’m not sure how it works, I guess.
What do you bees think?
Here is my ring so you can see just why I need a custom band to go with it. (Sorry the picture is so large!)
Post # 3
I got married with just my engagement ring. I’ve been married since December and I still don’t have a wedding band — Mine is being made.
No harm in not having a wedding band at the wedding.
Post # 4
@hisluckygirl22: Look on ebay and amazon for a fake stand in until you guys can afford the matching band. They have some nice bands for cheap.
Post # 5
In Holland I rarely see woman with 2 rings, we just have a wedding band, no e-ring (most of us anyway) so I don’t see why you could’nt just wear this ring…it awesome and at the end of the day you’ll be just as married as somebody with 2 rings!
Post # 6
I would be fine with it, if it was given to the priest to be blessed with his ring (or whateveI tqui equivalent is for a non-religious wedding).
Alternatively, can you get a super cheap plain band? From looking at your ring, I think it would sit against your ring pretty well, with a minimal gap.
Post # 7
As long as you can exchange a ring during your ceremony it shouldn’t matter what ring it is.
Post # 8
Holy crap your ring is beautiful. Sorry, I know I’m not answering the question, just got stupid after I saw the shiny!
Post # 9
I know of a few gals who married with only an e-ring or only a w-band. I think you’re fine 🙂
Post # 10
I almost did this, but I ended up getting a band.
I still don’t think there is anything wrong with just using your engagement ring.
(btw, I wear my wedding band on my other hand because I would have had to have a custom band made to fit with my engagement ring if I wanted to wear it on the same finger as well)
Post # 11
I think it’s fine to get married without a band. However, I had another idea that could work? Would it be possible to get a plain, straight gold band to wear as a wedding ring for now (could probably get this for around $150?) and then you could use the gold from that to make your custom band later? This way it’s not a total waste of money because you could use the gold later for the custom band. Just a thought.
Post # 12
I skipped the e-ring and just went straight for the wedding band (it’s actually two rings that fit together to form one but definitely not the traditional e-ring.) You can always get a different band later (maybe for an anniversary).
Post # 13
GORGEOUS RING !!
I can see WHY you want to have a WBand made to match it. I would too…
As noted there is no hard and fast rule on WBands (or ERings for that matter).
You’ll find by reading WBee that women do all sorts of things to mark this special time in their life (Engagement / Wedding)… No Rings, 1, 2, 3 or more.
As someone said you could get a simple stand in… or just a plain one made to match (that won’t cost you more than a few 100 $$)
Or you could just use the ERing you have now… or skip the exchange or Rings all together in the Ceremony
In the end, your Wedding is whatever you want it to be.
Hope this helps,
PS… Mr TTR doesn’t wear a WBand, we exchanged Wedding Watches. As well as 1 Ring that we share… (his but I wear it as my Plain Band). When he said my Vows, he put that one and my Sparkly Band on at the same time. So now I have 2 WBands… one Sparkly & one Plain. One Mine, and One OURS
Post # 14
Your ring is beautiful! There’s no NEED to have two rings if you don’t want them. I have just one, which would look odd with a wedding band, and I grew up with my mother and aunt just having their one rings.
Post # 15
Plenty of people do that. One of my good friends used her e-ring at the ceremony and still only wears the one. Some rings really look better on their own IMO.
Post # 16
@Hyperventilate: There is nothing wrong with getting married without a band 🙂 It should be about the fact you’re marrying someone you love – all the material stuff is irrelevant. Of course it is nice to have all those things, but they really aren’t the most important things.
My husband gave me a ring when we moved in together which I always wore on my ring finger, and I bought him one as we had no intentions then of getting married. When he proposed he bought me an engagement ring, but we agreed to use our rings we bought when we moved in together as our wedding rings. They are so sentimental to us. We had them all polished up and love that we chose them instead of forking out another few thousand $$ because that’s what you’re “supposed to do”.
BTW – your engagement ring is absolutely beautiful! I think it is one of those rings that would look better by itself 🙂