Post # 1
FI and I have been to three weddings this summer, and he has remarked at each one that he has no desire to be “pelted” with rice or birdseed in a staged grand exit. He seemed to find it weird that it is so staged, and said he would prefer a more natural, informal goodbye. This was okay with me, because I was already planning on having a rose petal toss (they’re soft so no pelting!) during our recessional after the ceremony. Two tosses would be sort of redundant and weird anyway.
So it seems like when we’re ready to leave, we’ll go freshen up quickly since we’re going straight to take pictures, and then our MC (my stepdad) will announce: “FI & Danielle are leaving, everyone, let’s gather around to wave goodbye!” And we’ll hug a few and wave to everyone else as we get in our town car. Is this anti-climatic? Would you feel like it was a little weird as a guest to not have a grand exit? Keep in mind this is a brunch reception at our home, so its an informal atmosphere.
Post # 3
I think it’s fine. 🙂 We didn’t have one either. We wanted to take our time in chatting with our friends and family and make sure we thanked each one for coming to celebrate with us. As with most of the planning, I say you do what you two prefer.
Post # 4
My FI and I are eloping and going on our honeymoon a week before we’re having the reception back home. So there will be no grand exit afterwards. We have no where to go since our honeymoon will be out of the way and actually I plan on staying to help clean up afterwards so I need to help get the guests out! After that I just want to go home, LOL. Yeah I think it’s perhaps a bit weird but honestly, it’s my wedding, and that’s the way I want to do it.
So I think you guys should do whatever you want to do and not worry about what the norm is or anything. Your stepdad announcing your departure and you waving goodbye I think is very appropriate for a grand-exit anyway.
Post # 5
We didn’t. I think it’s relatively common to have things disperse quietly, particularly if your venue has an end-time. Ours was 11pm and people were still partying at 11. Since your reception is so informal i wouldn’t worry about it at all. People will be lingering to talk and have fun. but if you or your fam feels like people are sticking around too long, you can put something together.
Post # 6
I don’t think we are going to have a grand exit. We want to spend as much time with family and friends as we can. Plus, we aren’t leaving for our honeymoon until the following evening, so there is nowhere to ruch off to. And, I will probably be a clean-up bride. LOL
Post # 7
I don’t think we are going to do a grand exit. Like dec09bride said, I’ll probably be a clean-up bride!
Post # 8
I don’t think we’ll have a grand exit. We’ll probably just leave when the band ends and they start breaking down the place. They have a closing time of ten so I’m sure others will be dispersing then too.
Post # 9
I think its fine not to do a grand exit. We were practically the last people at the reception, gathering some stuff up and saying bye to everyone. Ive only been to one wedding where they did a grand exit, it was nice but I dont think its completely necessary especially since alot of people will leave before you do.
Post # 10
I’ve actually never been to a reception with a “grand exit”. We were the last people to leave! Our friends and family stuck around and we chatted with everyone until it was time to head out. We actually helped with the clean-up (although that wasn’t my first choice–my ILS were kind of MIA). We didn’t leave for our mini-moon until Monday morning (our wedding was Saturday night), so we weren’t in a rush to get anywhere.
Post # 11
We didn’t have a grand exit. In New Orleans most weddings have the second line as the last dance. This was a signal to the guest that the party was over. We stood at the venue doorway and said goodbye to guest. When we left only our parents and few family friends were still there gathering up a few things. We really enjoyed staying till the end.
Post # 12
I dont think its necessary to have a grand exit. I was at a wedding where the bride and groom made their big exit about an hour before the reception ended and it totally killed the reception (well that and a bad dj). The wedding I was just in recently they didnt do a big exit and noone commented on it or even realized they didnt), and the bride and groom were ready to go out and party after the reception lol. Def do not think its a big deal. I know everyone likes to watch the groom scoop up the bride and carry her off into the sunset but I dont think that goes on as much now at weddings.
Post # 13
I’ve also never been to a reception with a grand exit, so I wouldn’t think it was weird at all, and definitely not necessary.
Post # 14
Don’t sweat it. It’s not something many people I know have done, and we didn’t do it either. I think the important thing is to make time and socialize while you’re at the reception–make people feel valuable. Whether they hold sparklers or throw things at you as you get in a car is much less important.
Post # 15
we’re staying at the hotel that our wedding’s at, so we wont be doing a grand exit. as pretty as the pictures are, entrances and exits just aren’t for me.