Post # 1
DH and I are coming up on our 6th anniversary and lived together a year before that. Ex-DH and I were married 22 years. We live in the same small/medium sized town but DH and Ed x-DH have never met. I only ever saw ex either at work (with him as a customer and I don’t work there any more) or once at the grocery store.
Would it be weirder to arrange an introduction? I figured we’d run into him eventually but he commutes into the city for work and is a homebody.
Post # 2
DHL is autocorrect. Stoopid autocorrect. 😀
Post # 3
I don’t see why that would be necessary. Why would they need to meet?
Post # 4
If you are on friendly terms I guess. It really is up to the two of them. They should be asked. Just sounds awkward and a can of worms not worth opening.
Post # 5
Friendly enough. It just feels weird and the longer it goes the weirder it gets. I knew his ex-wife, we spent holidays together with their daughter and grandkids. After all these years wouldn’t he be curious?
Post # 6
I don’t understand the need for them to meet. It sounds pretty awkward to me. My ex and I live less than 10 miles apart and I have yet to run into him since we broke up 5 years ago. I feel like this isn’t going to play out how you’re envisioning it.
Post # 7
I think it would be weird to arrange an introduction – what reason could they possibly have to meet (as it sounds like you don’t have any children with your ex) – but if you’re with your DH and you run into your ex then I don’t see a problem at all in introducing them.
Post # 8
I agree, there doesn’t seem to be a need to meet. And it sounds like DH never brought it up. So you’re making things weird, not them.
Post # 9
Arranging for them to meet would indeed be weird. There’s no need for it. Unless you are tied to your ex through young children or for some other reason (and I am assuming that if you were they would have met by now anyway), it is completely unnecessary. If you happen to run into him accidentally? Then, sure, introduce them if you stop to talk, but let it go if he says hello and keeps moving. You’re way overthinking this.
Post # 10
What’s the point? I think you’re way over thinking this. I would never arrange my ex-husband to meet my DH. The only way they could possibly meet would if we ran into him at an event. Highly unlikely, but the only circumstance.
Post # 11
I don’t think that your feeling weird about it is reason enough for them to meet.
You don’t seem to run in the same social circles as your ex-husband anymore, so arranging an introduction in this situation would definitely seem forced, strange, and awkward.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s necessary at all. I have only introduced DH to my ex-husband because they were at the same event for my daughter. They’re cordial, but by no means friends. If you don’t have kids, why do you want those two parts of your life to intersect?
Post # 13
karen12 : Do you and your ex have kids? If so, it would probably make sense for your husband to meet your ex. If not, I think it could seem random and awkward to try and arrange it.
Post # 14
I don’t see the point or the purpose. If you have no choice, share kids or run in the same circles that’s one thing. Otherwise, I think the past is best left in the past.