Post # 1
Ok ladies…had a strange night last night. It was the first time seeing a group of friends (males and females) since I got my ring. I was super excited to show it to my friends, since I have only had it two days. This is NOT a materialistic group, by any means. Very down to earth and kind of a hippy crowd. While talking to one of the women about the ring…I was just saying the usual “yeah, I love it” kinda stuff…she asked “How much did it cost?” My brain went totally blank. I had NOT expected that anyone would ask that. I am very happy with the cost of my ring…as I did tons of research and know that I got a wonderful deal. In retrospect, I SO wish I had said something like “I dont feel comfortable disclosing that, but it was very reasonable”. What I did instead…was blurt out a number that was actually LOWER than what I paid for it. Then quickly changing the subject. I am mortified because I am NOT the kind of person to lie. I dont know why I did…but now I am totally redfaced and feeling ridiculous. So I am feeling a weird mix of guilt for what I said, and anger at her for asking what I feel is a pretty rude question. Now I feel almost embarrased to wear my ring…like, am I going to get more of these questions? Is this a normal thing that I need to be prepared for? I feel like this is definitely clouding my excitement and enjoyment of the ring! : ( I would NEVER ask someone something like that, as it seems so tacky. But maybe I am in the minority?
Post # 3
It’s none of their business so who cares if you lied. I would not freak out over this.
I have not had anyone ask me but one person. The mail carrier for my company; she was curious because her son was planning on getting engaged and thought my ring would be perfect.
Post # 4
I agree, I would NEVER ask that. I also don’t know if I would ask the weight of it, either.
I think it’s okay to on here, but in such a personal setting like that, I think it’s tacky and rude.
As far as your response, just blow it off, because it isn’t a huge deal. Just in the future, make sure if you tell anyone the price, to let them know of the story, or not tell anyone at all, so you don’t look like a huge liar.
I laughed when I read that you said a price lower. I was definitely expecting you to say something high to impress them, lol.
Post # 5
I don’t think that you should be the one feeling bad. You were caught off guard by a completely rude question! I think people forget their manners sometimes when it comes to e-rings. I’ve had customers at work ask if mine is real! I’ve even had someone ask if I got it at my work (and I work in a discount retail store, and it’s most definitely not from there!) I think it’s just because my center stone is a little on the larger side. At first I felt a little embarassed when people would ask me if it was real, but then I realized that I am not the one being rude! People just have a way of putting their feet in their mouths sometimes.
Post # 6
Honestly, she should not have asked, that is not ok! But I can see why you’re a bit guilty over lying, I think I would be too, personally. I don’t think you SHOULD feel guilty at all, but I understand.
If it bothers you so much, I suggest sending her a short email or text and say, “Hey, I just want to tell you that it really threw me off guard when you asked about the cost of my ring. I felt a bit put on the spot, and ended up being untruthful. I’m not comfortable talking about something so personal to me and Fiance, but I’m sorry I lied instead of telling you that.”
Then move on, it’s really not a big deal. ; )
Post # 7
lol…I know, right? Lower? I feel like such an idiot. Maybe I am just paranoid about ppl asking this question since it is the first time I showed to anyone! I wasnt being boastful or obnoxious about it. I come from a family that does not talk about those things unless the info is offered. I feel like its like asking someone how much they weigh. Ugh.
Post # 8
Have an answer prepared for next time. Something along the lines of smiling and saying “That’s a secret!”.
I hate lying too, but like you I have occasionally told a bizarre white lie when caught off guard. I agree with PPs, don’t worry about it. (And I also agree she was out of line asking).
Post # 9
doesn’t matter what number you told her, just move on. Next time don’t say 🙂
Post # 10
Lemondrop…wonderful suggestion. I may do just that! : )