- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So last night, my FI and I were talking about his batchelor party and I was giving him some “rules”. As a background, his best friend is going to be one of the groomsmen. Said best friend ended up cheating on his then FI, now wife during his batchelor party. Needless to say, I am not comfortable with him being at the party just on the off chance he may enocourage FI to drink more, be more foolish than he usually is. With that I asked FI not to drink (he can get drunk off of two glasses of wine and 1 shot of liqour will make him tipsy) and to not listen to anything his friends say about “going out in stlye”. I should say I do trust my FI but I know how alchol can lead people to make mistakes .
With all of that being said, FI then states that his mother had said that she would have paid for a “wild hurrah” type batchelor party for my FI, except my two brothers were going to be there.
My first thought was Why the hell would she want to pay for your bachelor party? and two What the hell was she planning on paying for that she wouldn’t want my brothers to report back to me about?
I’m not sure if she was joking or not but now its made me wonder if she is as comfortable about this marriage as she portrays. We’ve been together 7 years now, and those first two years were bumpy because she felt that one: I was too old for FI (I’m six years older, so I can understand that), two: That I was a downgrade from his previous girlfriends (they were all the model type/girly type and I’m more of a tomboy/no makeup girl), three: there was an accidental pregnancy after our first year (she felt that I trapped him. It was accidental because it was mostly caused by me not listening to the doctor when I switched BC about the differences in the two methods in regards to the placebo week). I thought we were all over that, especially because she volunteered to make the flower girls tutus and help with decorations.
So am I over reacting or should I think maybe there’s something we still need to work out?