Post # 1
FI and I are having what we have been treating as a ‘destination wedding’ simply for the fact that it is a 6-11 hour drive for 99% of our guests. They will all be staying in a hotel, possibly for more than one night. I honestly didn’t even think of this, but last weekend my FMIL came up to visit and said “I saw all these attraction brochures at the hotel, do you think I should grab a bunch to put in the welcome bags for the guests?”
Are these expected, or just a nice thing to do for guests travelling from out of town? What do you even put in one? I apologize if this has been asked before, I just want to get some opinions on this.
Post # 3
Not mandatory. They are nice, especially if it’s a DW. I’ve never gotten one before, but I’ve ready about people putting brochures like your FMIL suggested, bottles of water, tylenol or ibuprofen, peanuts, or other munchies in there.
Post # 4
With so many people traveling so far, it is a nice gesture. Doesn’t have to be anything elaborate – but a small paper gift bag with a couple of water bottles, some nibbles (trail mix, cookies, etc.) and a welcome note from you and your FI would be much appreciated, I’m sure. Other items you could consider including are the attraction book your FMIL mentioned, mints, Advil, tissues.
Post # 5
They aren’t mandatory, but we had a ton of guests thank us for them.
- maps of the area (metro maps, especially)
- mini hand sanitizers (big city, lots of public transit = germy)
- nip-sized bottles of vodka and rum
- candy/granola bars/gum/mints
- list of restaurants we love in the area and attractions to see
Basically, we put stuff in that would be consumed or recycled when they left. Nothing crazy, nothing extravagant, nothing cumbersome to carry home.
Post # 6
I think that for a DW it would be appreciated, especially considering how much your guests will be spending to get to your wedding. They can be cheap if you are worried about cost, just giving some snacks, pain killers/tums (for hangovers), water bottles and local area information.
Post # 7
They are definitely not mandatory. Too many brides try to copy everything they have seen on Pinterest or wedding websites and it’s not always needed. I have been to DW weddings where we got so much junk (literally) that we had to dump it all in the hotel wastebasket before we left.
The last thing you need to do is include brochures that are readily available in the hotel lobby.
If you do it, I would include bottled water, a light snack and maybe a map of the area and a few suggested restaurants.
Post # 8
It’s a nice thing to do but not mandatory or expected. Bottles of water, some snacks, some brochures, things like that are generally done. I’ve never really gotten one myself but I also haven’t traveled far for anyone’s wedding.
Post # 9
@BellJarBride: Not necessary but FUN to receive.
Post # 10
@MsJ2theZ: Thank you all for the suggestions! I think I might do the travel size tums, painkillers, etc. I think my guests would love a nip-sized bottle of vodka or rum too. I kind of feel the same way about the brochures though, if I know most of my guests, they won’t even read them and they’ll just end up in the trash. The handwritten note got me though, I would love to do that. I think its a nice personal touch.
Post # 11
@BellJarBride: Not mandatory, but it does make for a nice treat after traveling all day. Especially when there’s an information sheet on all the things that are going on that weekend, so that you’re not out of the loop.
Post # 12
@nadnuk: That’s a good idea too, kind of like an itinerary? Like day after brunch, etc.
Post # 13
@BellJarBride: yes, in my family the itinerary is THE thing. Weddings aren’t just a day in my family, they’re an opportunity to see all of our relatives and meet a new family and become one big giant happy family together!
We’ll be including details on:
- Thursday BBQ at my parents’ house for anyone to come to
- Friday golfing with the men
- Any other all-inclusive events on Friday
- Saturday info on directions to the ceremony & approximate traffic time, so people arrive on time.
- Day after brunch info
- Various things to do around town while there’s not something pre-arranged
Post # 14
@nadnuk: I will definitely be doing this then, I like the idea of the guests having all the events in black and white in front of them, I know not many of them use our wedding website so this is a good alternative. THanks!
Post # 15
We are getting loads of gift certificates on restaurants.com, they go on sale all the time where you spend $5 and get a $25 certificate to a local restaurant. Since people are spending so much money to travel, I like the idea of treating them to at least appetizers/desserts.
Post # 16
We were going to make them, but this went straight into the fuck-it bucket at about two months out.