Post # 1
Ok, here’s a little prelude to understand my situation. My FI is on deployment at the moment. He is due back 1 month before the wedding (God-willing).
Here’s my dilemma, my mom is throwing me my bridal shower. She asked ifI wanted to wait until the FI came back from deployment. I immediatedly answered no, because I felt that we would be too busy for this (getting his tux, finalizing last minute details, etc.). I also felt like it would be too much for him to handle. I know that he needs to get back to "normalcy" and feel like the shower might be overwhelming for him. Plus, with his timing it would only allow us to have the wedding shower 2 weeks before the wedding. I feel like I may have jumped on my decision about not including him. I feel like I should ask him if this is something he is interested in doing when he returns. I also thought it would be good to have add a welcome home theme to it as well for him. I feel really distraught about this situation.
Should I ask the FI if he is interested? Is 2 weeks before the wedding too late to have a shower? Can someone shed some light on my situation.
Post # 3
I just want to say first that I will be sending good thoughts your way that FI makes it home safe & sound.
I think you should ask him if he is interested. At least that way he has a say? But don’t feel bad for your initial reaction because you were thinking first of him. 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with Gerbera. If there’s still time, why not check with him. I think the diea of having a welcome home/ wedding shower sounds really nice. Two weeks before the wedding isn’t bad. Most showers are probably a little further out, But you have a good reasona for making when it is. Totally reasonable.
Maybe being a big tough military guy, he’ll think a shower is girl stuff. Then you can keep on same as usual and not change a thing. But mayb he would enjoy a small welcome home anyway when he returns. Something initimate with just more immediate family and friends??
Good luck. God bless.
Post # 5
Thank you for the comfort and well wishes. I will have to ask him, although I won’t be able to communicate with him for a few weeks.
Post # 6
I agree with the others that the best thing to do is ask him if he wants to be included. Good luck and good thoughts to your man overseas.
Post # 7
Thank you all for the well wishes, I recentlywa able to finally get in contact with my FI. He appreciated the fact that I first was thinking about him. He likes the idea of having this shower and getting to see everyone. Thanks for all your advice.