- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My name is Stephanie and I’m new to Wedding Bee – I actually found it on Google (thank GOD for Google) and have previously been resorting to TheKnot.com, which honestly overwhelms me sometimes, even though I’m a super OCD-level planner.
My fiance and I got engaged on December 22, 2011 after almost eight years of being together. We’re both ridiculously excited and are planning on having our wedding May 25, 2013. We decided on May because that’s the month we first got together, back in 2004 (our story and other details can be found on our website, KrasinskiLaurenza.OurWedding.com).
Anyway – when we first decided on that date, I thought it was perfect. A year and a half of planning and enjoying being engaged sounded phenomenal. Then, because I’m a super planner, I started sending out a few e-mails here and there for photographers, venues, etc. just to get an idea. The more I sent out, though, the more I got responses like: “It’s never too early to start planning! By planning a May 2013 date, you’re ahead of the game – but not as much as you may think! We already have two Saturdays in May 2013 booked!” Seriously, this happened to me three different times! I’m sure it has a lot to do with May being a popular wedding month and all, but talk about a mini-panic attack.
We’re both super new and inexperienced with this. We’ll be the first in our families to have what we’re calling a “traditional” wedding (our parents/siblings/cousins have all had other variations: Las Vegas, Justice of the Peace, etc.), and we’re paying for almost the entire thing ourselves. So I’m frantically Googling everything and trying to figure everything out, but there are a few things I’m lost on and I really hope you girls will be able and willing to help! 🙂
– When to send Save the Dates. I think because I’m so excited I want to find someone who says “pft! Send them whenever you want!” 😉 It seems as though the norm is to send about 6-8 months away. . . but the date we picked (not on purpose – we started dating May 27 and wanted it as close to that date as possible) is Memorial Day weekend, so I feel like maybe we should give even more advanced notice? Obviously I can’t send them right now or anything, but I was thinking maybe October-Novemberish? And then we could send out our actual invites January/February – which gives people plenty of time to officially RSVP. Any thoughts here are more than welcome.
– Engagement Parties. Most of the things I read say that it’s hosted by the bride’s parents/family. The thing is, my parents and most of my family aren’t even in the picture. Is it obnoxious to throw it ourselves? We wouldn’t do anything too fancy or want gifts – just a party, with the immediate family and our friends that are in the wedding, maybe a few that aren’t IN the wedding but are close to us. As I already mentioned, we’re really excited and want to celebrate. I had the thought of maybe waiting until spring/summertime and having something outdoorsy, but I wasn’t sure if it was ‘okay’ to wait so long to have a celebration. Again, any thoughts/comments on this topic are MORE than welcome.
– We’re meeting with our potential photographers (Limelight-Images.com – for any of you in/around the Pittsburgh area!) on the 10th, and our hopeful venue (www.TheFez.com) on the 14th. I’ve been in contact with our hopeful DJ via e-mail, whom we know from his local bar gigs. My bridal party and I are having our Dress Day on February 11th. Is there anything else I/we should make sure to do ASAP?
I really do appreciate any/all of your advice, comments, thoughts, etc. I don’t know what to expect and am really relying on Google and websites like this one to guide me in the right direction.
Thanks in advance – I look forward to talking to all of my fellow Bees! 🙂