- 4 years ago
About a month ago I posted about the possibility of moving in with my SO. Well, about a week ago he sat down and very seriously asked me to get rid of my apartment and move in with him.
He said we need our next building block so that we can move towards the future (sorry conservative bees- but neither of us will ever consider rings without living together first).
He admitted that it will take awhile for him to consider the house “ours” rather than “his.” He did build the house from scratch and has a lot invested in it. BUT he also said that since it will take awhile he is not accepting a penny towards the mortgage until he is ready to call it ours.
Obviously it isn’t the romantic whirl-wind giddy kind of move in any girl would want- No promises of forever and marriage and babies and omg we are so in love. We discussed it on a very blunt level.
We agreed on what would happen if it didn’t work out and have made plans for a basic timeline if they do. All in all I couldn’t be shocked with the more business-like discussion considering that he is the most practical and honest man I have ever known (personally I like that about him because I can get too giddy/emotional and I need a level head that thinks things through).
I am already feeling super anxious, mostly because I have so much to pack and he doesn’t have time to help (harvest season!)
Now…I have a question for you all!
What were your biggest struggles when you moved in with your SO? I have already been “living” at his house for about 2 months (staying everynight, not going back to my apartment Fri-Sun…cooking, cleaning, etc..) but I know when all my stuff is there things will probably change.