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I called my bridesmaid and asked her if she had her dress because i needed to know for program purposes and she called me back and told me she doesnt have the money and cant get the dress unless i could help her?

I guess the emails i sent in september asking if they had financial problems didnt get through to her? oh wait it did, because she replied back to it. and i guess the other email isent in october didnt get to her? because it did, she replied to that one also. I would have helped her pay for it MANY months ago, not a week and a half before the wedding. its not even about the money anymore... its about everything else. Anyways, im not paying a gazillion dollars to overnight that bad boy.

I havent gotten back to her and i dont want to ruin a friendship over this, but i feel like... do i even have a friendship with someone who is this wishy washy? I feel a huge burden lifted off my shoulders now that i have her off the program i know she cant be late to the rehersal, or the wedding or anything because she isnt apart of it anymore! Now i need to get the text ready because i dont have anything nice to say over the phone and honestly? my feelings are WAY too hurt to have a conversation because im not a crier but i cried today over the crappiness of her friendship and i feel like i will cry talking to her.

Does anyone have any advice for me? I could use it...

Yeah, i guess i feel guilty that i wasnt "on" her the whole time, making sure she had the dress and all that. but geez, when  i tell you numerous times through email, phone, text, over dinner... i mean, should i hold her hand and bottle feed her, too? Thanks for the support yall! I still havent gotten back to her, i just dont even care to anymore but i will because I have common courtesy

UPDATE:

Well i talked to her and i wasnt rude about it or anything and i just let her know, if she can get it all worked out? great. if not? No biggy. I am taking her off the program though, and she offered money help for other things but honestly i know it sounds corny, but i found inner strength and im fine... obviously she didnt care in september or october to give me this information so i took the high road, made a few jokes with her, there was no mean talking and im so ready to get married next week with all my prepared folks :D

Anyways, i did do some soul searching and obviously this friend will never be as organized, or as caring as i try to be with others so im definately not going to try and reach out to her for anything in the future and unfortunately i dont want to extend my niceness out voluntarily either.. sigh. I SO wish i could be a bridezilla but being mean makes me feel little inside... but anyways YAY FOR WEDDING!! in TEN DAYS!!

I know but im glad i did it. thanks aqua!