Post # 1
I called my bridesmaid and asked her if she had her dress because i needed to know for program purposes and she called me back and told me she doesnt have the money and cant get the dress unless i could help her?
I guess the emails i sent in september asking if they had financial problems didnt get through to her? oh wait it did, because she replied back to it. and i guess the other email isent in october didnt get to her? because it did, she replied to that one also. I would have helped her pay for it MANY months ago, not a week and a half before the wedding. its not even about the money anymore… its about everything else. Anyways, im not paying a gazillion dollars to overnight that bad boy.
I havent gotten back to her and i dont want to ruin a friendship over this, but i feel like… do i even have a friendship with someone who is this wishy washy? I feel a huge burden lifted off my shoulders now that i have her off the program i know she cant be late to the rehersal, or the wedding or anything because she isnt apart of it anymore! Now i need to get the text ready because i dont have anything nice to say over the phone and honestly? my feelings are WAY too hurt to have a conversation because im not a crier but i cried today over the crappiness of her friendship and i feel like i will cry talking to her.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I could use it…
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad, she wouldn’t have put you through this stress if she truly cared about you, this was her chance to be standing next to you on the most important day of your life. Let us know how it goes!
Post # 4
This is strange. Why did she wait so long to tell you?? I see that you guys are set to get married in like a week and a half.
If she really had money issues, why didn’t she come to you earlier? I don’t think its the money thing that is the concern, but the fact that she didn’t bother to tell you well before now that she didn’t have the dress. That’s just bizarre.
Post # 5
She sounds pretty inconsiderate. After you get back from your HM you may want to sit down and really thinking about your friendship with her. Is it normally a positive one? Is it one sided or constant effort? It may be time to cut the strings unfortunately.
Post # 6
Yeah, i guess i feel guilty that i wasnt “on” her the whole time, making sure she had the dress and all that. but geez, when i tell you numerous times through email, phone, text, over dinner… i mean, should i hold her hand and bottle feed her, too? Thanks for the support yall! I still havent gotten back to her, i just dont even care to anymore but i will because I have common courtesy
Post # 7
I think you’re making the right choice. After you get back to her, just forget about the whole thing and focus on the important stuff for the next week and a half!
Post # 8
Aaawwww, what a crummy thing to deal with right before your wedding. I’m sorry. At least it appears to be over now and you can move past it. (((hugs))) and I hope your wedding is wonderful!
Post # 9
Well i talked to her and i wasnt rude about it or anything and i just let her know, if she can get it all worked out? great. if not? No biggy. I am taking her off the program though, and she offered money help for other things but honestly i know it sounds corny, but i found inner strength and im fine… obviously she didnt care in september or october to give me this information so i took the high road, made a few jokes with her, there was no mean talking and im so ready to get married next week with all my prepared folks 😀
Anyways, i did do some soul searching and obviously this friend will never be as organized, or as caring as i try to be with others so im definately not going to try and reach out to her for anything in the future and unfortunately i dont want to extend my niceness out voluntarily either.. sigh. I SO wish i could be a bridezilla but being mean makes me feel little inside… but anyways YAY FOR WEDDING!! in TEN DAYS!!
Post # 10
Wow! Kudos to you. Truthfully, I don’t think I would’ve even bothered to get back to her. Glad you resolved the situation.
Post # 11
I know but im glad i did it. thanks aqua!