- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
After a week away to visit family in Florida my SO & I went out on date night. We chatted the whole time i was away but he was soo cute saying me being away opened his eyes to how much I affect his life. I found it funny because yes i missed him alot but we don’t live together and barely see each other with different working schedules. SO the time away wasn’t a huge change of the amount of time we actually do see each other. Anyway one of our friends is getting married today and we were discussing that yesturday eating lunch. And he told me hoe his father wants him to buy a new car (SO has have horrible luck in cars for the past 4 years) which will mean he would have to take out another loan. Well I ask if his father knew about us making plans to be engaged (which was a nice way of asking if his mom blabbed yet lol )and he said yes and that they were also asking him whats the hold up. He then say he wants to do it in a speical way liek maybe on a trip or something.
He parents thought that there was no need for that kind of thign since they got engaged on his mom’s birthday during a nice dinner. I told my SO that yes his parents are right to a point because i don’t need that kind of stuff and i told him i wouldn’t be that surprised if he did it that way. It would be our first trip if done that way and I would think somethigins up after all the WB stories and a goo friend of mine gettign propsed to in mexico a week ago. I also said that I am not tellingn you how to ask tht’s up to you and do it how you want to do it.
We also talked more on savings since that is the main reason we aren’t engaged yet we want to save up for a while to make sure we have things in place to move in with each other and plan a small wedding when we are ready. So during this talk it clicked that between him paying of fhis loan, me in school, and both of us taking what left to start saving we are not going to be were we want to be by the end of this year. I’m fine with it because it still fits onto our time line if it happens next year. We have been together 8 years in December and we both know we want the same thing and i honestly told him fix his lemon and use it until we can figure something out or add tht to what we are savign for because if he takes out another loan then that would set us back atleast 3 years (which he woud be 30 and I 27) and together 10/11 years and in which I told him it might sound selfish but the car situation is no longer just affeccting his life but mine aswell and after 4 years of car problems I want the focus to be on our realtionship. He agreed & laughed because he didn’t think i was being unresonable at all which was my fear.
So even though our anniversary is coming up at the end of the year which I honestly thought might be the moment. It’s been made clearer that it is soon but not as soon as I may have thought. Knowing this I have relaxed a bit and glad because we both know that we are taking the steps we need to to get to tht point. We don’t want the long engagement and to scrap for funds for the wedding at the last minute.
This is long as hell i know sorry but kowing that my cousin/future MOH can’t keep her mouth shut for anything ( just thankful that of all the people she told me and SO went ring shopping she didn’t tell our family) it’s nice to tell you guys. You get it and understand.