Post # 1
I was at a cookout with my coworkers yesterday and one coworker brought her two adorable boys (14 months and 3 1/2 years). I had so much fun hanging out with them! Everyone was saying how I was a natural and looked like I was ready to have my own hahaha!
I have always been the “I love kids but I love giving them back to their parents at the end of the day”. I even had a plan that DH and I would travel to 3 foreign countries (3 separate trips) before trying to concieve. We have done 1 of those trips. Now I don’t know if that’s what I want anymore! I no longer feel as worried about how my life will change with kids…. but am feeling excited for the little family we will have.
DH was under the impression we would wait at least another year, but I know he would be excited to start trying at anytime if I said I was ready.
I’m not sure we are ready! I don’t know how we would pay for childcare 🙁 And I was hoping to save up for some house renovations. How does a baby fit into the picture? I don’t think we have enough money saved up, either after the trip we just took. And I’m afraid of being disappointed if I have difficulty conceiving like my mother.
Moms and mom-to-be, how did you know when you were ready? Are there certain criteria you had? Did you just jump in?
Post # 2
Honestly, I think anyone is rarely ‘ready’ in the sense that there will be always something you think you will need. People have been having babies for generations – some with more and some with less…young/old/rich/poor…etc. From each category, you will find good and bad parents as well as happy kids and the quite the opposite.
Obviously you want to be as prepared as you can. These are good things to consider. Childcare IS expensive so I would suggest that you all see how this can fit into the budget. Shucks, my 4 year old daughter is $220 bucks a week and my son goes part time for 100 bucks a week and that’s not even on the highest end in Philadelphia.
But to me, the hardest part is the emotional and physical toll of bringing up a little one – at least at first so as long as you have a solid relationship and both of you are reasonably financially secure, I think things have a way of working itself out.
Post # 3
hollyberry4: We set an ideal timeline of at least one year post-wedding. We are completely financially and emotionally ready now, so we aren’t necessarily trying to avoid it as much as we could, either. We just wanted to travel a bit and revamp some things in our home first.
We didn’t realize that we are ready NOW (less than a year in) until we recently thought I could be pregnant, and found out I wasn’t. We were (and are) both admittedly pretty disappointed. The potential of having a baby really got us really excited, and our reaction to the negative test made us question just exactly what we are waiting for.
Post # 4
hollyberry4: We wanted to be married a year, have a house, and dog. We got married in July 2012, had a house by March 2013, dog by June, and then we started trying, so we were slightly early on the TTC front, but we both felt emotionally ready. We had/have a very good income, loving relationship, and there was really no good reason to wait.
We now have a beautiful 4 month old <3