So i have been thinking about showing my FI my dress from other bees that have it. Well..... tonight i did. Bad bad idea :( I have had dress regret with the Divina, but fell back in love with my dress till now. I showed him and he says it's just OK and the bottom looks like a hula hoop :( that is not the reaction I was expecting. Has anyone else shown their FI the dress and got a bad reaction? Please help. I'm regretting my dress..... again.
@STBMrs.Waters: Oh. No. Tons of brides here have gone through this and they say that when he sees you in it, he's going to think it's beautiful. Post a pic of you in the dress? I think the divina is beautiful!
@STBMrs.Waters: Oh mannnn.. I'm sorry =( I did not show my DH the dress but I just wanted to say I'm sorry...is there a possibility to have it exchanged?
My fiance basically thinks all dresses are either "okay" or look like nightgowns. So I don't show him any pictures, and hope that when he sees me in my dress, he'll be happy because it's me. That's my advice...don't worry about your dress because he will love YOU in it!
Thank you ladies. My mom and sister said the same thing. I felt like crying but couldnt let him know that i showed him my dress already. I'm hoping it's just a premature regret
@STBMrs.Waters: Stunning!! He'll never realise it's the same dress when he sees you on your wedding day. My fiance also has an 'it's ok' 'looks weird' 'meh' policy when it comes to dresses. If I put something on, it's a whole other story. I just don't think their brains work in the same way to visualise as ours do!
I showed FI my dress last week, and did not get the reaction I hoped for. I've been having doubts about my dress. It's a very traditional, simple A-line and although it's beautiful I keep feeling it's not for me and I've been having some issues with the alterations.
I decided I would show FI to get his opinion before I decided to change the dress. He said it was boring! I was shocked, and felt very defensive of the dress but he's right, it is boring. I'm going to try and add a sash and change the neckline and see what happens.
To men, all wedding dresses look the same. When your all "jacked up" and you have the veil, jewelery, shoes, makeup and hair done, it's a whole different story. If you love it, he'll love it when you walk down the aisle.
@STBMrs.Waters: For the majority of brides, your FI isn't going to give two shits about your wedding dress. It's a dress and it's white and that's pretty good. It's jsut not something that's going to be on their radar or that they have any experience with.
When I showed my FI my dress he asked why I didn't get one with a zipper.
Because corsets are fucking awesome, that's why, doofus.
If I gave him a line up of 5 wedding dresses, he would have no idea which one he was shown before.
So, yeah, when you're walking down the ailse, wearing your hula-hoop dress, he's going to think you're gorgeous. And if you want legit feedback on your dress, post it here with there's hundreds of women who have experience with that sort of thing :)
A lot of guys can't see the bigger picture with a dress. Once he sees you in it with all your accessories he probably won't even realize it's the same dress. He'll just see that you're glowing and happy, and beautiful. If you love it, and you have the confidence to pull it off I'm sure he will love it as well!
I can 100% guarantee that if you wear the dress on the big day, he will have NO CLUE that it's the same dress as the one you showed him.
Dudes don't care about dresses (for the most part). They care about what's inside the dresses.
You'll have plenty of things to worry about over the course of your planning. This is not one of them. Don't create drama where there isn't any...there is sure to be some at some point, but not over the dress! :)
Oh man i'm so sorry that your FI thought it was boring:( Yeah maybe if you think a statement necklace or sash may zest it up a bit, you should do what you'd like. I hope your hubby will change his mind :) I'm sure you'll look amazing in it.
You're beautiful and that dress looks MADE for you!
@STBMrs.Waters: Ohh I thought you had the Divina - I understand what you're saying now. Your dress is gorgeous! I love the lace detailing. It's really, really beautiful and looks amazing on you. Perhaps if he doesn't like the bottom of the skirt, you can see if you can alter that part out? I think it's gorgeous, though.
Thank you all SO much it helps a lot. This is the only thing I've worried about in the whole planning process. That speaks wonders too :)
Did you show your fiance a picture of you in the dress because you look stunning in it? In any case I guarantee he will love it the day of. When you're all done up and it's in the moment, he will feel like the luckiest guy in the world :)
BTW, my dress was in a commercial that we saw over and over again before the wedding. On the day, I thought for sure that Mr. Mink would know it was the dress in the commercial (I bought it before the commercial came out). Nope. No idea.
The first time the commercial came on after the wedding, I asked him if he recognized the dress. Blank stare.
Again, don't worry.
I love it! Remember 2 important things: First, boys are fashion dumb. He, along with most men, picture a cinderella type bride and Second, you are not jacked up! Make a HUGE difference. Plus, between the jacking and the "in the moment", he will be blown away!
No it wasnt me in it, it was another bee that looked amazing in it. Yeah you are all right. He tries to match grey with brown. I shouldve know to not get upset. :)
don't change it or worry! My FI thinks most dresses are hideous if they aren't plain and a-line. I showed him a page of dresses (with mine on it) and told him to pick every one he "sort of" liked. He didn't chose mine. I felt sad for a second then got over it. His fashion sense is bad and I love the dress! He'll love me in it on our big day and so will your fi!
I guess because I'm wearing it to feel beautiful and for him I took his opinion to heart too much. Shouldve actually let it go hahaha
@STBMrs.Waters: LMAO @ matching grey with brown. Don't worry much - it's BEAUTIFUL and I'm sure you look just as fantastic in it as the other bee ;)
@STBMrs.Waters: That dress is AMAZING-- As in, I am adding it to my collection of dresses to drool over! Guys don't get dresses, especially if you're not dressed with hair and make-up done.
Just keep this in mind as you ask him his opinions on other things... if you love something, tell him you love it first. Otherwise you're setting him up because he'll disappoint you.
ugh men are idiots don't worry about it. The dress looks like it was made just for you and your body looks SIIIIICK (in a good way). My SO says pretty much every dress looks like a big white sheet (what a moron) but I'm sure he will love me in a wedding dress when I am walking down the aisle.
I showed my FI my dress on the Bee (blocked my head) so he didn't know it was me and he said "It's ok". Funny thing is I've showed him the stock photo of the dress and he loved it. Just goes to show men don't know the same dress when they see it in two different ways.I also showed him a dress I really love that is out of my price range and he said he hated it (on another Bee). I then showed him the stock photo of it and he said he loved it and why didn't I get that one (umm its like $6000 more than I want to spend and you said you hated it anyway on the other Bee...rolls eyes)
Did you show it to him on the hanger? From personal experience, some dresses don't look as good on the hanger as they do on you. I'm sure it'll be fine, he'll forget he saw the same dress before, when he sees it on you when you're walking down the aisle :)
@STBMrs.Waters: God. Sounds like my bf. I haven't gotten my wedding dress (since my mom wants his aunt to make it) but I showed him one of my inspiration pics and he was like, "I don't like all the lace. It looks wierd." Which sucked, because the full-lace overlay was my favorite part of the dress, and the only reason I had it in my inspiration pics cause I've seen lots of other similar ones. I asked "What happened to I could come down the aisle in pajamas and I would still be beautiful?" and he replied, "You would. But the dress wouldn't." *sigh* Men.
Please dont be too sad. I showed m FI 6 dresses. 5 I actually tried on and 1 that is extremely similar to mine and he ranked that one last. Straight men have little to no fashion sense. He will love it.
@STBMrs.Waters: Which dress did you get? In your first post you said divina but then the picture you put is different. Trust me he won't even realize it's the same dress and he will love you in it
I got the dress i have on in the picture. The Divina is what im crushing on :)
Guys aren't there for the process so getting their opinion on the dress doesn't work. My FI wanted me in a "puffy dress" (a line or ball gown) but when I tried those types of dresses on they didn't work with my body type (I am short and skinny) I look like I'm being swallowed by the bottom half of the dress. So I bought the dress that looked best on me and was honest with him explaining that the big dress idea just doesn't work with my body type. Your FI will love the way you look on your big day and won't think twice about your dress decision!
@STBMrs.Waters: You look great in this dress i love it trust me he will love it. I showed my FI a picture of a dress on the model he hated it i showed it on me he didn't even know it was the same dress and was like "Wow that's gorgeous get this one" I was like are you kidding me? LOL He honestly didn't realize it was the same dress he hated on the model
I think you girls are crazy for showing your gowns to your FIs :)
The reaction is NEVER going to be what you want. The BEST reaction you can hope for (at least from the majority of men) is "It's pretty" or "It's nice". They are never going to ooh and ahh over it like your friends.
However, I also think these men are pretty insensitive to say they don't like it, after they know you already bought it. It's just not a smart move.
OP - your dress is gorgeous - I like it better than the Divina, actually.
I was flipping through an Alfred Angelo catalog after I bought my dress and my fiance casually looked over. He saw the picture of the Ariel dress and goes "I hope you didn't get something ridiculous like that just because its a Disney dres". My heart melted since I had just gotten the Ariel dress. Granted, it looks completely different on me then it does in the photo, but i was still amazingly upset byt it.
But I realzied that on the day, he's going to see me and NOT remember anything about saying that dress looked silly in the picture. its all about how you look!
my DH had his opinions too, but mainly "I like that" and "I don't like that". I got the "I like that" for the picture of me in my dress before alterations so phew!
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