(Closed) Well, if a free vacation and mansion does not get them here…

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 4
11 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

First, I want to tell you I definitely do not think it’s selfish-and your family shouldn’t view it that way, as you want them with you to share in your special day.  I’m worried if you put it out there as an “idea” you are going to hear some negative feedback-people not wanting to travel, busy with kids, etc.  If you say something more along the lines of “This is what I want to do, please let me know if you could come on this date, etc” then it will show that you have it more planned out, and people would be more willing to make the trip (hopefully).  I think you will regret not doing it with your family since you didn’t get to the last time, and it is obviously meaningful to you.

Post # 5
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you need to make it clear you are excited for them to come out, to meet, and to spend sime vacation time with you. But I wouldnt press for an answer right away. You sister may respond the way she did because she us thinking it over. Two people with careers and a baby may find it hard to take time work, travel, get the kid there, its a lot to think about. I think if you give her some time, she will come around.

Post # 7
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think you are selfish for wanting it and I don’t think her response was that bad. I know Darling Husband and I would have to work pretty hard to get away yet this summer. And even though you are hosting the accomodations and food there are other costs (loss of pay) to be considered. I think if you throw out a couple of dates (if your rental house is available) and see what works best for people, maybe it will be a little easier.

Post # 9
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@sienna76:  With all the details-it sounds like that last post may have your best answer.  Maybe do a vow renewal next year?

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