- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Then I think nothing will!
Struggling to figure ot what we are going to do with our wedding (where, who, if anyone), we had the grand idea of renting a massive house in the mountains (Sundance Resort) and hosting our families there. We pay, we provide food, the resort has a shuttle so no rental car needed.
Our families have never met before and if we don’t plan SOMETHING they will never meet. We thought of having them out next summer at our house, but thought, why not this year to witness our wedding?
Problem is they live in opposite directions. 2200 miles apart (IL, OR) and we’re right in the middle (UT). Then we have school dates to contend with, which leaves us little time and frankly I’m not so ready to book things right now…
We originally had a full wedding planned for next month in Jackson Hole (by the way if you need research I have tons), but cancelled it all due to my father’s terminal illness (he died on June 1 – very sad). We told everyone we were getting married privately. That’s why I am not so ready to book, but yes thinking about where the heck we’re going to have this is on the brain.
We had eloping on the brain because our families were so no into the wedding and we felt travelling to us was just a huge burden in general. Everyone was worried about dad’s health too (not that he was coming, just the timing of it all). Explainedly. But overall I felt that people were relieved that they got out of having to come to a wedding.
So becasue we want our families to meet, and becasue it is a burden to travel in general, (and not quite ready to jump on the elopement wagon just yet) we thought of renting a huge house – bedrooms for everyone – have our private little ceremony on the deck of the house, and then go to a restaurant for dinner to celebrate.
Since flying out for such a small event is kind of piddly-squat – my idea to host them all in the house was my way of COMPENSATING for their time/travels/money. Make it worth their while you know?
Then I run the idea by one sister of mine, and she’s not very repsonsive on the whole idea over the phone. Granted I didn’t even say when, just the idea in general, and she says, “Well, do you NEED to have people witness your vows or not?”
BUH! Yes, it would be nice! I was married 10 years ago with NO FAMILY present AT ALL, I kind of wanted loved ones around me and for everone to meet! But no, legally, I guess I don’t need people there. I thought it’d be nice.
Then no more comments – no yay or nay or ANYTHING. So awkward. I wanted to cry. I *think* my sister has some issues with me planning anything given that this is my second wedding. Not sure why, but a previous comment regarding showers makes me think this (said 2nd weddings don’t deserve showers – not that I’m getting one).
I’m just pissed that a free mansion in the mountains didn’t float her boat, but I guess I know the truth. I wouldn’t want someone to feel forced to come out when they didn’t want to. She’s an nurse anesthetist and her H is a lawyer, I think they can afford two tickets, granted they do have a 3 month old baby too though.
I’m not even sure I want to run it by anyone else now. It is short notice given that most schools start in August and if I don’t have one of three sisters present, it kind of defeats the WHOLE PURPOSE.