Well if you had sent back the RSVP this wouldn't be so awkward

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@wisher558:  That’s so annoying. Just take it as someone you wont have to worry about pleasing the day of! Sorry you had to go through that! 


Btw… We sent our invitations about 2 weeks ago now and only have gotten a lot of texts from people asking if they have to rsvp… like yes, I paid for the rsvp card and pre-stamped it. Especially if I wasn’t sure if you were going to be able to make it! lol 

Post # 5
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@wisher558:  Exactly! I’m trying not to assume about anyone since about 1/2 of the wedding guests are traveling from various places! Geeze, it’s like pulling teeth! 

also LOL @ her working at the post office? Really? …. like really? She couldn’t just drop it in the bin? 

Post # 6
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

We had several folks do something of this sort. A reply card is to be sent back. That’s a concept I wish people understood. We had people going, “You know we’re coming, why do we have to send back the reply card?” or “It should be obvious we’re not coming.” No. Return the reply card. I’ve known a lot of folks to give a verbal ‘we’re coming/not coming’ but they intentionally don’t return the reply card to give themselves something of an out.

Or my favorite: The people who would let it get back to me, by word of mouth, that they weren’t coming. WTF is with people?

I hear ya, OP. That was an awful thing for her to do (putting you into an awkward spot like that).  What a fool.

Post # 7
5 posts

Huh, just had an idea…

You know those e-invites, where you open it up and leave your response i.e. ‘Yes, I’ll come’  –  ‘No, I can’t’  –  ‘Maybe’  ?

What if invitees went to the website (listed on the invite) and gave their responses there?

And then you called the ‘maybes’??

In this electronic age, I wonder if that would work well, since a lot of times you end up calling those who haven’t responded anyway?

Just a thought…



Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee

@Brides_Mama:  My brother is having a destination wedding, and he did this.  He has a wedding website where you can go and fill out your RSVP.  It also asks questions about where you are staying and when you are arriving, so I guess it was necessary, as all of that wouldn’t fit on an RSVP card.  It was really simple though. 

Post # 9
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Brides_Mama:  Well, this Bride has clearly already sent out her invites, so I’m not really sure your suggestion is applicable. It also came across as slightly condescending, which I’m certain was not your intent.

Post # 10
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

OP, that woman sounds insane.  I’m happy for you that you don’t have to deal with her coming to your wedding, but sorry she’s causing you extra stress.

RSVPs will be the death of me.  Our wedding is in about 2 months, but as it’s a destination wedding for my family, we sent out our invitations over a month ago, and sent out STDs about 2 months prior to that.  Except for the invitations which we hand delivered to some of Mr.’s family (and waited for the card to be handed back), we’ve had 4 RSVPs., which is really annoying, because the invitations have RSVP cards & envelopes, both of our emais, both of our phone numbers and the URL for our wedding website, and clearly state that guests are welcome to use any of these methods to respond.  I don’t know how to make it any more simple for people.  Sometimes I really feel like etiquette classes should be compulsory in school.

Post # 11
7292 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@wisher558:  Are you sure she didn’t send the RSVP? it could have gotten lost in the post hence her reaction to you.

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