- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
… my sister’s wedding that is. I’m posting this in case anyone remembers me and would like to know how my story ends. I think some of you might be surprised.
My sister’s wedding was yesterday, and as much as I want to say it was simply lovely, a lot of things were pretty awful and the night seemed to fly by. I actually feel really really sad for my sister, even after everything that happenend between us. I realized yesterday that all brides, b*tches or not, deserve to have their moment in the sun. To be that beautiful bride and for everyone to be a happy part of their day. As much as I complained about her, and as much as she did a horrible thing, I still love her and I wish her day could have gone better.
The day started with a power outtage at here venue meaning hair and makeup and showers (because there was no hot water) started late. Her husband’s (I like saying that) car got broken in to and his radio stolen while they were at the barber shop, the wind was 25mph so her sand ceremony got blown away, the hair and makeup people were absolutely horrible, her photographer showed up 3 hours late (I saved the day on this one), her ceremony had to start almost an hour late because the venue “accidently” locked the front gate so her guests couldn’t get in, and when they realized it was locked and let people in, there was a huge traffic jam, since the photographers were there JUST in time for the ceremony to start (had it started on time they’d have missed it) and then rushed everyone during the after ceremony pictures and missed the majority of the posed photos (we got NO pictures with our grandma in it), the food was cold, the DJ was horrible and called my sister a see you in tea and didn’t play ANY of the music she wanted, didn’t announce when any events were happening so most people missed the cake cutting, bouquet toss, and garter toss, and the coordinator was an even bigger b*tch than my sister could ever dream of being. Guests left not even 1/2 way through the reception, some left right after dinner, the bartenders served the WRONG beverages to people (they had KEGS for the guests, and then they were to use the bottles after the kegs were gone). My sister’s father in law was drunk during his speech and completely embarassed her (FYI, do NOT mention sex in a toast!), and the florist never showed up, so we only had the florist (who worked with the venue) that did the bouquets, boutineers and coursages, but other than that her centerpieces were bare.
My sister was on the verge of crying by the end of the night, and I honestly felt bad for her. Not once did I think “This should have been me”. My heart was so broken for her and I tried to put myself in her situation. If practically everything went wrong at my wedding I’d probably be sad too. Anyway, there was a saving grace – as some of you might remember, my photographer said she would do an anniversary mini-session for FI and I because of everything that happenend to us, and she got there about 12:00 (lunch time) and FI and I snuck off to do our pictures. When we got back, Sis’s photogs were suppose to be there, but there was no sight of them. My sister was already in tears over the events of the morning (and having her soon-to-be husband’s car broken in to) that I asked my photog how much it would cost to fill in for her photographers until they arrived. She quoted me a price per hour (oh she had kept the day free, instead of rebooking, so she could come photograph me and FI – she is a WONDERFUL person) and paid for her services, so my sister got all the “getting ready” pictures and was still able to do her first look like she wanted. My sister was absolutely grateful of my gift to her and I could tell INSTANTLY that she felt like a little person when she realized that I wasn’t retaliating, nor was I being vindictive because of how things turned out between us. I tried my hardest to make her day special, because she is, deep down, a wonderful person who got caught up in “being a bride”, and she deserved her wedding day.
So, now that her wedding is over, the issues that happened seem so insignificant. Yes, what she did was hurtful, yes it was horrible, and no, I’ve not completly forgiven her, but I am willing to move on and focus on happier times. I was really afraid that I wasn’t going to be able to have a relationship with her, and maybe I’m letting her off the hook too easily, and maybe she’ll take advantage of my “weakness” in the future… but for now, I’m good. I’ve still got my wedding in a few months, and I think that now that my 6 year anniversary has come and gone, and my sister’s wedding has come and gone, things just don’t feel as terrible. I’ve actually surprised myself how non-angry I am, and I hope that Sis comes around and realizes what she did was horrible. She might not ever appologize, but I’m willing to live with that.
Thank you all for letting me vent as much as I did, and thank you all for being so supportive during my awful times. I feel like karma did kind of bite her in the butt, but I truly mean it when I say I wish she could have had a wonderful day… the image of my sister’s horror struck face after her DJ called her what he did is burned in my mind, and never do I want to see her that sad again. Had my dad not gotten to him first, I’d have shoved my 4 inch heel up his rear. (Oh and for those curious, my sister went up to talk to the DJ about playing some of the songs they’d talked about, and he said “Well maybe if you weren’t such a c*nt, I’d be more willing to take requests.”) He DID appoligize to Sis and ended up forfeiting his tip… but still… I felt so sorry for her (even though I’ve called her worse…) because she was a BEAUTIFUL bride and I could really tell that she and her husband love each other. They looked so happy saying their vows. So I am glas that I didn’t end up losing a sister over this (even though I am the one who really had to step up) and that I gained a wonderful brother yesterday!
Again, thank you all! Love my Bees!