Post # 1
It’s been 2 and a half months of wedded bliss but tonight it finally happened, we had a fight. It’s really not a big deal, we were just both stressed because his parents are coming for last minute visit. I get stressed when they come because his mom will say i am neglecting my “wifely duties” (yes, actual quote) if the house isn’t imaculate. I am not the best house keeper so i really have to give the house a good thorough cleaning before they come.
I know me and DH will be fine by bedtime tonight but I just hate fighting!
Post # 3
Aw that sucks. The only thing my fiance and I ever fight about is his parents. I’m convinced they don’t like me, and they love to come over for visits! I hate company (even my own family!) and I get really stressed out and type-A when I have to clean before anyone comes over.
My fiance always helps me clean though. I’d make a list, give him half the chores, set a timer on the stove for an hour and see what you can get done. You’ll be amazed at how much you can get done in a solid hour with no breaks.
Also, I always get stressed out about cooking for them, so the first night we go out to dinner.
Post # 4
I LOVE my inlaws, but they are clean FREAKS and I feel so pressured to have the perfect home everytime they come. They don’t make comments or anything and they know better than to even use the term “wifely duties” with me lol. I’ve made it perfectly clear that I am not that kind of wife and that my DH and I share those supposed “wifely duties.”
We bought our house last year and the first time they visited they went on and on about how they loved it. We had been living here for about 8 months by that time, so we were all settled in. Well 2 weeks after they left I got a package of cleaning supplies in the mail. CLEANING SUPPLIES! A giant box of lysol, disinfectant, wipes, etc. Who sends that?! If we had just moved in that would be one thing, but I just found that to be extremely rude. Luckily my DH was just as insulted as I was so he “dealt” with that right away.
Post # 5
@adoc86: Oh my gosh, cleaning supplies?!! That would make me so upset!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@adoc86: OMG! That is not ok!!
Post # 7
Gotta love the ILs!
I get cranky before we go to visit them, too.
Bribe him with dessert, give him a hug, and it’ll blow right over!
Post # 8
Haha well we just made up. it was laughs and hugs all around. I guess that was our first married fight, if that is how they all go we will be very lucky.
Post # 9
Right?! My SIL tried to defend her parents and say, “They were just being nice! You know my parents!” I was like, “so if your MIL sent you cleaning supplies you wouldn’t be offended?” No response. I just don’t know who does things like that! Even if my relative’s home was filthy I would never send them a package with cleaning supplies haha.
Post # 10
@Miss Leopard: “The only thing my fiance and I ever fight about is his parents.”–US, TOO!! HAHAHA