- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
As so many bees have been following my post about my dear daughters and one who has severe issues because her mother abandoned her….heres the update.
Well we couldnt get a court date set fast enough to stop her from visiting. Even after DH told her that our daughter was in therapy and suffering because of the abandonment she didnt care. She came anyway. Matter of fact she is here now.
The upside is that FIL and MIL offered to let her lodge with him so that they girls would be under their supervision. So MIL and FIL are keeping a sharp eye out.
The girls went down to FIL and MIL on Wednesday. I have only seen them once since. The kids have been going to Vacation Bible School and so I picked my two up and ran into the girls. My littlest daughter wanted to come back home with me and it broke my heart to tell her no that she had to stay with nanny and poppa and visit her mother.
The girls havent been seperated from my kids since DH and I got together so this is something different for them, being away from their siblings.
During the brief time that I saw them yesterday, my dear daughter with the issues is already beginning to exhibit trouble again. She stated when he mother leaves she is going with her, however I know and she knows this isnt true. We were waiting for the program to start at church and MIL was busy corraling some of her class for the program. My dear daughter was bouncing around and being overrall loud so I asked her to sit quietly in her seat, she looked at me and said, my mom is here now you cant tell me what to do. BTW mom didnt come to church for the program, she needed a break from them. Also she passed along a message to my dear daughter that she wants to meet me. Can I just say that I really dont have anything to say to her? You havent visited your kids in years, you dont call them, you were told about all the issues she was having and you decided against the advice of her therapist to show up anyway.
What do I really have to say to this woman?
They have three more days with her and MIL and FIL. I just hope the fall out isnt going to be to bad. The therapist thought it was a bad idea for their mom to see them considering all the issues. However she didnt really care what the therapist thought.
So because Im an adult, I will be seeing her this evening at a church program for the teenagers that my other daughter is leading. Do I have anything to say to her? Not anything I could say in a church anyways. So I will behave and be polite for the sake of my daughters and hope that when she leaves she decides never to visit again.