Post # 1
been a lurker and have left a few comments but got a post I’d love to hear your thoughts on.
have talked marriage and kids with my SO for a long time and with him being the man he is reading up on signs on “will he propose soon” leads me to a bust as he already does most of those signs excluding taking me to a jewelry store (as he likes buying things for me solo including the promise ring he got me).
Well he was snuggling on the couch with me and took my promse ring off the middle finger (which is the finger my promise ring fits on) and placed it on my left ring finger. Didn’t say anything but I asked when I got up if he’d like me to keep it there for the moment and he said yes please.
so ladies…. does this mean a proposal is on the horizon?
and I’ve asked and he said he hasn’t bought a ring but he won’t buy one until he has it planned on how he will propose.
Post # 3
@nurseSGP: All sounds pretty promising! Shouldn’t be too much longer I think! 🙂
Post # 4
@nurseSGP: Lol, you handled that well…. how ever did you stay so calm ?
Clearly he’s made up his mind that “the Promise” he made to you when he gave you the Promise Ring originally has taken on a greater significance for him…
I’d say he is mulling things over in his head…
You say you’ve talked about things… like the future.
But I didn’t take away from your post a definitive LIFE PLAN or TIMELINE… have you had that talk yet ?
That takes the “in the future” type of convos to a whole other level / reality !!
That is where I’d be going next.
Sit down and work out your LIFE PLAN, and then share it with him… listen to what he has to say… how he sees the TIMELINE coming together. Then you’ll know what to expect.
This is YOUR LIFE… you should take a more active role in it…
Don’t be dangling at the end of his string…
Post # 5
We’ve had that conversation, he said he won’t put a timeline on it as it would ruin the surprise of it and I know he has said it won’t be as long As I think starting our life and having kids together. Trust me I am actively talking with him but all I have to do is wait for this surprise. I’ve already sized up my finger for him at the jewelers.
Post # 6
To @nurseSGP: that is good to hear.
Did you also go looking at Rings to see what you might like, and most importantly what suits your hand (as not all ERings look good on all fingers / hands)
I strongly encourage Waiting Bees to do this… as I have seen too many posts on WBee where the Bride2B isn’t happy about the ERing she got (not her style) or the guy is posting that the woman broke his heart by telling him it wasn’t right
Don’t be that girl… do you research / homework… preferably together. Cause ERings are expensive and hard to return.
You might want to read this topic that another Bee put up tonight, and my Reply # 4
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
@nurseSGP: That sounds good to me. some people like a timeline etc but some people hate it. I personally wouldn’t listen to advice saying you need to have a timeline conversation – if it isn’t for you or doesn’t naturally happen don’t push it. Sounds promising so I would just go with the flow and try not to be too tense about it
Post # 9
I also think women who complain to their OH about their ring need to wise up – they should be more concerned with the thought of it than “but I wanted this exact cut, or shape” or whatever! Lots of bees sounds spoiled to me :/